2007-01-05 02:53:10 · 9 answers · asked by turk6harley 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The son has his own room and own bed. He also uses all baby products when bathing and his Dad allows this babying manner. There is a mother and they both share equal time right down the middle. It is coming between our relationship and I am ready to bail !!!! I only have girls at home (3) also from a divorced family and they never showed this type of behavior. I don't find this normal whether it's a boy or not...
2007-01-05 04:22:35 · update #1
Wow! Leave quickly! My x was 20 years older than me and had a 9 year old son that still slept with him. There is NOTHING normal about this! A child needs structure and rules. Is he still going to be sleeping with daddy when he's 25? Get out as fast as you can, trust me, you will regret it if you stay!
2007-01-05 04:31:26 · answer #1 · answered by xquis81 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I too have a similar situation. My 9 year old step son was still sleeping with his dad when I came in to the picture. It was very difficult at first because I got kicked out of my own bed every weekend when he came to our home. We have since moved a twin bed in to our bedroom when he comes on the weekend. I know this is not the best answer but it has somewhat moved him in to his own space. He has always slept with his dad since birth and is afraid to change and be away from him. We're hoping he'll eventually want a little privacy of his own and want to be in his own room which has been set up for him for at least a year now. One can only hope ! ;-) GOOD LUCK! THIS IS A TOUGH ONE!
2007-01-05 11:00:43 · answer #2 · answered by Sunshine's Pic Is on 360 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I assume the boyfriend is the biological father.
Where is the biological mother?
When did they separate/divorce?
Did she die?
The son could have a sense of abandonment.
They could of developed a very close bond when the mother left being each others emotional support.
The mother could of had a known affair and left them and now the child fears that his father may leave him too because he has you.
I know my son and I grew closer when my wife and I separated and she left.
There are alot of reasons that could go into play here. As for what is "normal" that is hard to say because I don't know if you are asking normal for a child with divorced parents or married parents or for average child or what.
What I can say is don't try to get between them. The teenage years will come soon enough and it will take years before they become this close again.
2007-01-05 11:30:16 · answer #3 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
that is not normal! when i moved in with my husband his son slept with him too and after two nights of tring to squeeze 3 people in the bed i told him the 3 of us don't fit so your options are he gets his own room or i get my own room because i will not sleep with your 7 year old son anymore! not too mention it killed any and all chances of sex. the next day his son was in his own room and things were great!
2007-01-05 11:23:51 · answer #4 · answered by TUNAQ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whoa.
Not normal.
Serious boundary issues.
I would seriously reconsider a relationship with the guy.
2007-01-05 11:08:34 · answer #5 · answered by Karen L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
although he obviously loves his dad, he's too old to be sleeping in the bed with him.
2007-01-05 11:16:55 · answer #6 · answered by michelle a 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not normal. In fact, kind of freaky.
2007-01-05 10:57:29 · answer #7 · answered by Fishgutts 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope..
Not normal..
2007-01-05 11:08:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what ? i dont get it.....wait i get it
it took me a while yeah that is wierd is it his real son????
but umm i would talk to him, about it
2007-01-05 10:57:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋