How can I change myself and create a better life for my children?

Question

I find myself becoming more yuck about things in life. My children are picking up on this. I dont want them to grow up and look at all things with doom. How can I fix this?

Answer 1

I think you already know what you need to do....now it's just doing it. You have a responsibility to your children to raise them in a way that they will be prepared for their lives. I'm sure you know that you are the biggest role model in their lives and they pick up on everything you say. Life is tough and a good attitude will get you through a lot of things. Try to show your children the positive aspects of life and how to handle situations with the right attitude. It starts with changing your attitude and outlook. Just knowing that your children look to you for their answers should be enough to get you on the right track. If you look at most things you can find a positive spin. Teach your children to have faith that everything works out for the best, that they can get through anything and that you will always be there for them. Teaching them to look at the positive side of life will be a lesson they take with them forever and will help them deal with life better.They will thank you for this one day.

Answer 2

You've actually have won half the battle right there. The fact that you recognize what's wrong and taking an initiative in the right direction is in itself a big first step.

There are a lot of things you can do. But at the root of all that is a strong resolve and desire to change, and absolutely love and respect for yourself. If you have these two, pretty much everything else is a matter of time.

You will be more confident, you will smile and love the people around you. And that to a great extent will hold your self-esteem high and help you be a better person around your children. They always are very smart to grasp and they sure will notice positive signs as fast as they do negative signs.

Sometimes you'll have to put up a brave face and sometimes you might have to force yourself to think positive. Remember - keeping your self-esteem high, loving and respecting yourself, and an effort to be more positive, smiling, loving, and caring definitely are the things to do.

You already are a winner darling :-) Good luck.

Answer 3

You have to figure out the underlying problems of your life, what is making you feel so yuck about your life? Once you figure those things out, you'll be able to change those aspects in your life to create a better one.

For example: If your over-weight, get on a workout plan and lose some weight, You'll be surprise how much this has an effect on your life.

If your married or single: Get counseling and figure out what's missing in your marriage, and if you single, start meeting new people, get into a hobby where you can meet people that have similar interests.

After all this the most important motivation should be your children, change is always good especially when it's change for the better.

I wish you luck!

Answer 4

try to change your negative to positive and it takes some practise but if that is what u want u can do it.Instead of the glass being half empty make it half full.I hope u get what I mean.Try to look at the brighter side of things.Do something thats puts u on top of the world and work with it do things that make u happy cuz like u said your kids will pick up on it n do the same.You need to change in order for them to turn out the way u want.Instead of what if,could have been,would have been to it will be is going to be and I can make it happen.You r obviously unhappy n in a rut n u need to come out of it find what makes u happy and work with that.Your kids won't be happy if your not so think of them n it will help.My mom is a very negative person n is trying to not look at things as the worse or half empty n is succeeding so u can do it to.Bye 4 now and hope things r better for u in this new yr.Oh ya sorry for the rambling on but I write the way I talk lol... have a good 1.

Answer 5

I'm seeing the world differently than the way I did years ago. I now have a child (1) and another on the way. My opinion, try to always put your best foot forward. By that, let them know about real life, but also talk about the good in people and in life. Work can suck, you're tired, burned out, but when you look at the innocents of a little one, you can't help but think, I will help create and shape his/her life. Do what's best for them, and put your judgement(s) of the outside world aside, at least until their old enough to make decisions on their own. Hey, good luck to ya!

Answer 6

The only thing I ever wanted was for my dad to tell me that he would be there for me always, and that he loved me. My dad wasn't this type of person. He always messed around on my mom. But in my opinion. I think maybe you should just let them know that you love them, and maybe do things with them watching comedies and laughing together. Let them know that no matter what they need you are there for them, and also try to let go of your problems when ur with them....just have fun, and enjoy yourself your with your children, the ones you love. Good Luck!!!

Answer 7

I have been a single parent since the day my children were born and I know that at times it can be overwhelming or stressful. Please always want the best for you and take smalls steps to accomplish it. If you have this mentality, your children will also adapt to it and they will appreiciate you and all the progress that you make to get where you want to be.

Answer 8

First do you see a therapist? I am not trying to be mean, but you need to feel better about yourself in order to make your kids feel better about themselves. Second if you are a Christian start going to church regularly. Find one that makes you want to have a joy for life. If you are not a Christian, use whatever faith or religion you believe, just get yourself happy. I hope you start feeling better. I will pray for you.

Answer 9

You can't change yourself, if you could you would've did so a long time ago. Put all of your trust in Jesus Christ and read His bible daily (building a relationship w/ God through Jesus) and God's word will change you if you are willing.

Answer 10

You Mom is too aggressive but she wants you to become straight sexual orientation to be saved from Hellfire. Gay/Lesbian is psychological disorder no child is born as gay/lesbian.