Should I stay or should I go?

Question

I am in a relationship with this amazing man. He is great loooking great job, huge heart, very trustworthy, me neighbour (hee hee), house on the lake, incredbily caring etc etc....

The problem is I have been disagnosed with an anxiety disorder which is leading me to believe that I have fallen out of love with him?!?! I dont want my feeling to change....I still enjoy spending time with him, making love to him, I love to please him as in making him lunch, dinner, etc.....and I still trust him...

But this is where the problem lies....I convince myself in stupid ways that I am annoyed by him. Like I analyze every emotion I have about him....If something annoys me I analyze it to the point where I convince myself that I am not in love with him

I do not want anyone else and I want my feelings to come back again...He's a great guy and I want to be with him forever.

I like it when he expresses his love for me in person but HATE it on emais and letters..Idont know why???

HELP!!

Answer 1

"Should I stay or should I go now???" I love the Clash.

Back to your question. Hopefully, you are seeking treatment for your anxiety disorder. Presumably, you love this man. Therefore, I think you need to stay with him and continue your treatment. In my opinion, he is a keeper.

Answer 2

Hi there!!! Anxiety is such a bummer, and can be the cause of how you are feeling.
My golden rule of thumb, never make any major desitions if you are either sick, very angry or depressed.
Talk to your doctor on how you feel.
You are very lucky to have someone that loves you, that you enjoy your time with, someone that is faithful to you. Have you read some of the blogs on this website? So many woman that men cheat on them, and with more than one woman, honey many times a bird in hand is worth more than a thousand flying. You have a partner, and you love him, he loves you. This is what compromise is all about, through health and sickness, through better or worse, ectt.. you should talk to your hubby as well, let him know how you feel, ask him for his help.
You have to do your part as well though. Try doing excercise, that will get you feeling better.
Get a hobby, maybe something you both can enjoy doing together since you enjoy being with him.
Pray to God, read the bible when you get a chance, it really helps a lot
It is ok to have these feelings when you have anxiety, just do not let them overwhelm you. And if you feel a panic attack or anxiety attack coming on, run for the medicine cabinet and get what your doctor prescribed to you, it is ok to take pills to stabilize yourself. That does not make you bad person, like so many think, Oh I need this or that and they feel terrible, no way feel happy that the medical field has medicine to offer and help calm down our nerves when we need the help.
I wish you the best
may you find peace within and a renewed passion for your man.
Love light and peace

Answer 3

If he is so amazing then what is the problem?'
The problem must be you and your insecurities.
Even though you have been diagnosis with a disoder, gives you no excuse to bahave the way you do.

You need to take action to save your relationship or else you would lose that good man, and in these days and times a man like what you have is rare on this planet.

Thank goodnes thers are remedies for anxiety disorders without taking any chemically based medications... Ever..

http://www.affiliatehood.com/anxiety-disorder-solutions.html

Answer 4

He is great, good looking, rich, trustworthy, increadibly caring everything good, nothing bad. What else do you need?
You are the cause of your problem. There's no point in asking if you should stay, the answer is Yes with a capital Y, nobody will suggest a No for your situation.
I think what you should do is find out how to solve your anxiety problem... and problems once identified are no more problems!
Believe me, he has nothing to do with this, all his e-mails etc are just justifying his good nature. But, telling him might help.
If you are religious, you should pray. Prayers solve problems, as long as you believe. Good luck.

Answer 5

When you were diagnosed, werent you given some kind of medication to ease the anxiety? If you werent you should go back and get some. The meds will keep you from feeling so emotional like this.

Answer 6

I have been suffering from anxiety for 10 years. You will continue to think the way you are until you get help. I recommend a cog native behaviour course. it will retrain the way you think. with anxiety order you tend to turn everything in to a negative. For now until you get into a course i recommend writing down all your bad or negative thoughts down. then beside that write positive thoughts. and every time you have a bad thought think back to your paper with the good thoughts. it has helped me.

Answer 7

First of all I hope you are getting some help with your anxiety because it can take over your life and your emotions. I think you should have a talk with him about what is going on with you so he can understand your feelings and actions.

Answer 8

Thats a cool song,,,,,,, nah but for real i think if you can make urself not like him anymore then you can make urself love him again. Love is hard to find, and it seems u caught urself a really good man, dont loose him, i found mine as well and if i had what u had a try my best to keep him, hope all goes well :o)

Answer 9

Run and the anxiety goes. I'm up to half an hour running and 15 mins warm up and I have zero anxiety..... With running, distence and speed aren't important, the only thing that is important is time actually spent running.

Answer 10

Get a grip if you know anxiety is causing it. Get on some natural therapy or on anti-anxiety meds and you will be loving him again within the month.