On average how long do you think you should know someone before comitting to live with them?

Question

I have known my man for 4 months. We have talked about eventually moving in together. We have not done so yet. Just wondering on average how long should you know someone before making this big decison?

Answer 1

I think its different for EVERYONE. Living together is a HUGE step and often leads to finding unappealing things about eachother that end the relationship. I have lived with 4 men in my lifetime. 3 of them ended up being lazy, dirty, annoying, or clean freaks when I lived with them, and that didnt last long with me. The last guy I moved in with,(my NOW husband) we moved in with eachother after 6 months of dating and I think that waiting 6 months was a good idea. With the others, it was just after 2-4 months of dating. Good luck to you!

Answer 2

For me...much longer than four months. I would need to REALLY know this person. Living together is more than sharing the rent and groceries. He will have intimate knowledge of most aspects of your life. I think it takes a couple of years before you know someone well enough to trust them like that. Also, if you are considering this man as marriage material, don't rush and move in. That will surely turn into a long, long, long, long term engagement. I've seen it happen too many times!

I only lived with one man, now my husband. We'd been dating 8 years (off and on) before we moved in together. I still didn't know everything about him, but most importantly, I trusted him. We only lived together after we were engaged and had set the date. We got married 8 months after moving in.

Answer 3

My boyfriend moved in with me 2 weeks after we met, weve been living together for 7 years, and now are engaged. Its all a personal choice, do you feel comfortable? The biggest piece of advise I can give you is to make sure if things dont work out that you have a place to go or the place is in your name. Do not put all the bills in your name if you cannot afford them without him- split that responsibility and make sure your ok if he does leave or if you want to leave. Good Luck you'll need it. You can date for years and never really know someone until you live together.

Answer 4

Probably be best to learn how they are through stressful times, holidays, the ups and downs of everyday life. Then you will learn if you actually want to spend that much time with them.
Time Limit; well that would really depend on how long it will take you to experience those situations with them.

I was dating a girl once that was absolutely perfect and I thought I wanted to marry her; then after about 8 or 9 months she started having problems at work and she was freaking out. Come to find out, through other stressful times she can't take any kind of turmoil in her life. I eventually had to break it off with her because of all the drama. She would come close to being totally disfunctional. It was ridiculous.

Answer 5

This is not really based on a time things,it whether or not you think you're able to put up with each other's stuff.If you can handle an argument and no pack your stuff and leave,things like that. But I've known my bf for 4 years and I waited untill I was 18 which wasn't that long ago.Its working out pretty good though.

Answer 6

I would be with them for at least a year first. In a year, their true sides come out and you will know for sure yourself if you will want to live with them as well.

But before you do move in together, have some money saved up in a separate account that he doesn't know about. Just in case you have to leave in a hurry. If it all works out great, then you have some money saved up to get yourself something nice instead.

Answer 7

Depends on how you feel about him. Personally I think that 4 months is too soon, maybe after 8 -10 months you should consider it. But it does depend on how you feel about each other. You can't be a price on love as they say, the two of you should know if you feel its right then do it, then do

Answer 8

I did it once after 6 mths and it was a disaster. I think it takes a minimum of 1 yr to really know someone so I would suggest waiting at least a year.

Answer 9

There is no time limit. Go by what feels right and comfortable. If you are unsure then you aren't ready. I knew my man 6 months and then we moved in together.

Answer 10

It depends on your relationship and how you both feel. If he spends all his time round at your place anyway, then why not make it permanent? no sense paying for 2 places if you only use 1!! however if you like having time to yourself when he goes home then wait until you are ready... remember you'd have to do EVERYTHING in front of him... cutting toenails, shaving pits, being ill....