I have a friend who is pregnant. She did not have a steady boyfriend and was sleeping around. She was not on any type of birth control. She knew that birth control was available for free at the local health department. When ever I tried to talk to her about it she said, "Well if it happens, it happens." meaning getting pregnant. She has been living in a house with a male friend (whom she has never had sexual relations). Both names are on the lease and the male roommate does not think that he is ready to live with a pregnant woman. What happen in this situation? Am I supposed to feel sorry for her when she knew that this could happen? Why are so many young women today letting this happen when it is most certainly preventable? I believe that it is rather unfair for a college student (male or female) to get pregnant and then feel like their family, the world and the government (like tuition and housing assistance) owes them something while other hard working poor students can barely get by. Is getting knocked up an answer to my financial problems??
2007-01-05 01:41:41 · 8 answers · asked by tigerlily23 3 in Education & Reference ➔ Higher Education (University +)
I know that a male can not get pregnant but in some cases they are the ones who end up taking care of the child.
2007-01-05 02:07:24 · update #1
NO!!! I find that utterly ridiculous! Nothing makes me more upset. I have a few friends that had kids accidently very young, and even more who did it on purpose to go to school for free. I even considered getting knocked up myself, but it's not the right thing to do! I think it is repulsive that the government punishes those of us who decide to wait to get married and/or have kids until after school, there should be an award for that.
You shouldn't feel sorry for people that get pregnant in college or even high school, because there are 3 ways to prevent it: condoms, birth control, or abstain. Everyone that I know that has gotten pregnant in the last four years hasn't been practicing any of the above. Why should they be rewarded? Yes, they do need help, and I'm not against giving it to them at all, but I also think that people like us who don't want to take those risks deserve some credit too!
2007-01-05 01:48:33 · answer #1 · answered by mrsrapp 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Let me answer your last question first: no, getting pregnant is not the way to solve financial problems. Even people I know who are relatively well-off have had some financial struggles or worries regarding their children.
I'm torn on the issue of government/family assistance. If young unwed mothers don't get assistance from someone, the child will be paying the consequences, and the child is the one person in the entire situation who had NO SAY over anything, and they're the only ones who cannot in any way improve their own situation. I don't think it's right, but I don't think the kids should suffer more than they have to as a result of the mothers' irresponsibility.
As for whether or not to "feel sorry" for your friend, no I don't think you should have to "feel sorry" for her. You're right, she chose it. She should probably have chosen something else. She should definately have spoken with her housemate about the logistics of whether he would want to live with a pregnant woman or a woman with a child. However, she is your friend, and while you don't have to condone what she's done, you should still be her friend. Even a woman who is happily married, has a doting husband and no major financial struggles will have difficulties, both emotionally and physically, during pregnancy. It could be more difficult with your friend.
Even if this is the result of what you consider a stupid decision on the part of your friend, and even if it was irresponsible of her, I believe every child is a blessing and deserves to be anticipated and celebrated, even those born to young or unwed mothers. There comes a point where you have to celebrate the child, even if you don't like the way the child came to be.
2007-01-05 09:56:41 · answer #2 · answered by CrazyChick 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
if it's not urs then don't worry about it. The room mate can't kick her out, her name is on the lease. Plus, you shouldn't feel sorry for these girls. They shouldn't even be having sex. But hey, that's their life...and in life we learn lessons...lesson learned. Everything will turn out fine, but she does need you. Don't talk her in to getting an abortion, be there for her as much as you can. She'll really need that support...trust me. It's crucial to go through pregnancy alone.
2007-01-05 09:52:28 · answer #3 · answered by lil_l2004 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you're right!!!she was just being irresponsible!!!she's lucky she didn't get std's!!!!doesn't she know that raising a baby is a long term arrangement???i just don't know why some people are so brainless!!??it also isn't fair for the guy[who all the sudden will be a father!!!][does she know who the father is??]
p.s=a male can not become pregnant!!
2007-01-05 09:53:20 · answer #4 · answered by ....FED UP............ 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You don't have to feel sorry for anybody if you don't want to.
If she wants to be a burden to society....that's her problem not yours.
Just remember getting pregnant is not gonna solve all your problems.
2007-01-05 09:52:29 · answer #5 · answered by hellsbells 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
No, you shouldn't feel sorry for your friend, but you should feel sorry for the innocent baby that she is bringing into an unstable life.
2007-01-05 09:52:47 · answer #6 · answered by bonnie 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
No, let her face the consequences, let her learn a lesson.
2007-01-05 09:51:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
is abortion still legal?
o well... have fun give the kids up and take it off!
2007-01-05 09:49:07 · answer #8 · answered by NCAA beats NFL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋