Myself and my ex broke up back in June and about 3wks ago I heard from him again. When he saw me out one night, he text. It ended badly so at first I was angry at him but he text again the night it would've been our 3yr anniversary saying he wishes he could change things etc. I thought I could be friendly with him as I don't want to go back there but I'm not sure if I still have feelings or not. Sometimes I'm angry at him, other times I think of when things were good and laugh about it. Now he wants to talk and explain himself and discuss why things went so bad. Thing is, he didn't contact me when he was with a 21yr old girl after we broke up (he's 26). He say's he just can't get over me but if he couldn't get over me why did he go out with someone else and why did he leave it to contact me when he's not with that girl anymore. I feel I've changed a lot since we were together. Why do you think he contacted me after all this time?
2007-01-05 01:36:04 · 14 answers · asked by Soph 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Guys, no way would I sleep with him, he ruined his chance with me, he's not getting a second one!!! I don't even want him back it's just after it ended so badly with no contact for 6 months I think its strange now. Maybe he's realised I've moved on and can't take it?
2007-01-05 01:51:57 · update #1
This time of year is often a time when people reflect or are lonely. I don't suppose it would hurt hearing what he has to say, and it would probably be a good idea for you to tell him that you're still angry with him and get it off your chest. You might be able to find some closure after that or perhaps it might relight something. Good luck.
2007-01-05 01:41:48 · answer #1 · answered by flyingconfused 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Listen Sophi,
He probably realized that he made a mistake. You need to remember people grow at their own pace and where you matured faster, it had to take him some extra time. Although he went out with a 21 year old girl, that was his way of trying to forget you, only he didn't know, that it wouldn't work. Sometimes guys are just slow... you know like they rode the yellow bus to school. (smile) Even if you are done with the relationship, There still needs to be closure .. it would be an excellent way to start the new year by allowing him to plead his case. Not that your going to change your mind but it will also help you to finally close the door and really move on..Not to mention checking your feelings as well. I believe the anger is there because you have not completely closed that chapter of your life. He wasn't done with you when he left... With guys you have to always remember there thinking is usually a lot slower, when it comes to Relationships
2007-01-05 03:44:36 · answer #2 · answered by Honey 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thing is if you have changed since you two were together so has he. The 21 year old made him miss you and realize how you were good for him. I would talk and find out where things went wrong if you do get back together you can see where things went wrong and correct it. That break up may have been what both of you needed to make a stronger relationship.
2007-01-05 01:51:49 · answer #3 · answered by Lady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he has changed to?
Maybe after seeing you all the feels he once had for you came rushing back, and now he cant stop thinking of you, and wants to put things right.
Whatever his reason is, I think after a 3-year relationship why not just talk to him and see what he has to say. Maybe he just wants to say sorry, this may give you both an end to all the anger either of you may be feeling.
I wouldn’t sleep with him tho.... :) I would wait to see if he is being genuine or not.
Good luck
x
2007-01-05 01:46:38 · answer #4 · answered by Jelly 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes people don't understand what they have until they lose it. He may be more shallow than that, and since losing his 21 year old, he thinks you are better than some other girls he's seen.
Either way, if you have no interest in taking him back, I see no point discussing it.
But we all make mistakes, and sometimes it would be nice to go back and undo some of them. only you can call it as to where he is on the nice<>pig scale. Maybe you should change your mobile number?
2007-01-05 03:02:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Seems like you may be a convience to him. Things ended badly and I'm sorry for that, and you're right, if he couldn't get oover you he should have came back right away.
I had an ex when I was much younger who would always try and get back with me whenever we run into each other. It's just easier for them, than to try something new.
Sorry.
2007-01-05 01:41:35 · answer #6 · answered by jaws1013 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have answered you own question half way through your story,he has no girl,he cant get over you because he has no-one else to occupy his time.
Tell him to do 1 and stay away from him,as you said you have grown up alot since you have split up and you have come this far without him,dont go back for him to have sex with you then not get intouch again.
Hes 26,tell him to act it
2007-01-05 01:42:59 · answer #7 · answered by freerange00720002000 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Soph,
he wants to have his cake and eat it and I'm sorry that just won't do. I get the feeling you have wised up a bit since your parting. Now you can see right through him. Tell him to do one.
2007-01-05 01:40:25 · answer #8 · answered by The Alchemist 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You GO GIRL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Don't let him fool you. He needs to understand that he lost a good thing which isn't so cheap that he can get it back with a text message.
Don't go for him. I also think he only wants to sleep with you.
You deserve better
2007-01-05 01:43:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you have all the things he needs. Like maybe a job, money, a place to live etc...and maybe he will think you will have sex with him again. I think his main motive is to have sex with you again.
2007-01-05 23:40:38 · answer #10 · answered by gary w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋