when i come home from a long hard day at work, is it too much to ask for my wife to greet me at the door and hug and kiss me? i get home and have asked for this 100 times, but she insists that she's busy. her version of busy is watching the tv or checking her email. i think i'm right!
2007-01-05 01:29:00 · 25 answers · asked by _ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i think you're right! she's lazy and doesn't appreciate you working so hard, and she may not be affectionate, but she would do it because it's what you wish....
2007-01-05 01:32:10 · answer #1 · answered by JACK 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If shes a stay at home wife with no children than I can agree with you. It's not too much to ask. But if there are children in the picture she might be busy. Things that don't look important on the surface can be very important to the one doing them. You can always seek her out as soon as you get home and get that hug and kiss. But you do need to sit down and have a conversation about the level of affection you're receiving or not receiving. You work hard and all you ask is for a little appreciation. Calmly let her know that you just want her to remind you now and again that she missed you during the day. In the grand scheme of things that could go wrong in a marriage this one is easy to deal with.
2007-01-05 01:33:13 · answer #2 · answered by Phaylynn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't mention what your wife does while you work. Does she work? Take care of kids? Do all the household chores and meal planning? If so, she works just as hard as you do if not more and deserves to sit down and just relax at the TV or computer. Is it likely that perhaps that's about the same time she gets to sit down for the first time in the day? If so, you are burdening her with one more chore. I lived with a man who expected to be greeted as well. Most of the time I did because I wanted to, yet he'd sulk when I didn't. I soon became resentful because he made me feel obligated to greet him. I decided that perhaps a dog might meet his needs better than I on this matter and finally left him.
2007-01-05 01:47:55 · answer #3 · answered by bfwh218 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You probably convey to her just how right you are with every action and every word. Concentrate less on who is RIGHT and more on doing the right thing. You may find substantially better results!
Also, if your wife does not WILLINGLY want to greet you when you get home from work, why do you want to have to force her? All that is is a power struggle. Love and actions must be given not demanded.
If she chooses not to greet you when you come home, that speaks volumes about how she views you and your marriage. Time for a wake up call.
2007-01-05 01:31:05 · answer #4 · answered by kja63 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I always hug my man when he comes in and he works until midnight so I make sure I am awake when he gets in. I don't think a little show of affection is too much to ask. Maybe not at the door waiting for you but as soon as you are in the same room as she is then she should give you a squeeze and a kiss.
2007-01-05 01:31:24 · answer #5 · answered by Bagpuss 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Actually your request is very reasonable. My husband requests it of me. It doesn't take maybe 30 seconds to hug, a quick kiss, and a "How was your day?" as your getting home.
I know you have asked for it before. Now you need to sit down at a neutral time and tell her that it is very important for her to do this for you because it makes you feel loved and appreciated.
I really didn't understand how important it was to my husband until I read "The Five Love Languages". My husband interprets love as Physical touch and words of affirmation. Perhaps if both of you were to read it, new concepts might begin to seep into the marriage.
2007-01-05 01:40:42 · answer #6 · answered by Poppet 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is just the way she is. Can't change people. It's like some people are affectionate because thats the way they are. Some people aren't, because thats the way they are.
Your wife doesn't greet you at the door because she doesn't want to, not because she doesn't care or love you. It's just not the way she is.
However, if you have asked her and she doesn't, then maybe she is lacking in trying to please you. Would you do it for her if she asked you to?
2007-01-05 01:43:17 · answer #7 · answered by Wondrin Dude 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think its sweet for a woman to greet you at the door after a long hard day at work. you're not asking for too much, she's just being selfish
2007-01-05 01:55:09 · answer #8 · answered by michelle a 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it is not unreasonable. I am usually home before my wife and cooking dinner when she gets home. She isn't normally more than 10 feet in the door and I am giving her a kiss.
2007-01-05 01:45:37 · answer #9 · answered by fucose_man 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Compromise. Tell her you'll rush in with hugs and kisses for her and thank her for being home and not out screwing around if she does the same for you when you step inside the house after work.
2007-01-05 01:39:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she works full time, she may have lots to do right after work and be too busy to greet you. i think that would be valid.
if she is a full time mom/wife, she should be greeting you. it is not that insane of a request.
-coming from a full time mom/wife-
2007-01-05 01:33:00 · answer #11 · answered by mystery_me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋