When we were fist married we were so happy being together and I miss that, how do I get that feeling back?
2007-01-05 01:28:57 · 11 answers · asked by Sharon C 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
How many years have you been married now? Some of those feelings a person has during the first year or two of marriage do fade somewhat, after all the newness wears off but that doesn't mean romance has to to die. First off, speak to your husband about your feelings and tell him how much you miss how things use to be. There are many things you can do to spice up your relationship. Try having a few date nights per week and forget about work and other daily issues and focus only on each other. Surprise him with a candlelight dinner or turn off the TV and indulge in some really good kissing on the sofa (like in the good old days). Marriage takes a lot of hard work so roll up your sleeves and tackle it head on. Good luck!
2007-01-05 01:38:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you can answer this. You do not say how long you have been together, but there is usually a honeymoon period within the first 8 - 24 months of being together. After this time, even the strongest relationship may experience a wide variety of problems. Perhaps put your feelings back to the place where you both were content and re-create a time when it worked for you. Thing is here - it takes two and you can only try from your own perspective. All the very best.
2007-01-05 01:34:19 · answer #2 · answered by square_dotzz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think about the things you used to do together when you first got married and try to do some of those things again. I think people expect to get married and have that same in love feeling everyday for the rest of their lives and that's just not reality. Real life sets in and the daily grind and we start to take each other for granted. You have to try to keep the relationship new by the things you say and do together. Think about some of the more romantic things the 2 of you did when you were newlyweds. Maybe take a weekend and go to a special place together to renew the romantic feelings. You could cook a candlelight dinner and surprise him. There are many little things you can do to ignite the sparks again. You still love each other you just have to be more willing to show it in special ways. I wish you luck and lots of happiness.
2007-01-05 01:35:05 · answer #3 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do the things that you did when you were first together. Date each other spend quality time with each other. Communicate...Become interested in what he likes, and then he will do the same for you, eventually. Go to :
www.garychapman.org
He has a lot of good information, that you can apply to your marriage. I suggest getting the book or audio cd set: the 5 Love Languages
2007-01-05 01:46:04 · answer #4 · answered by unknown 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Welcome to married life, ive never been married but have had long relationships. You can't get the old days back just try to have fun play tennis, sports, racket ball, go to the gym together its not all about lust that always dies off. Woman live in fantasy worlds marriage isn't all fun. You should have been single for a long time.
2007-01-05 01:36:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My view is that the routine kills the passion, and that is probably what you are missing. You need to find ways to eliminate the routine. The problem with that is running a household and raising children is nearly impossible without a routine. You are in the best position to judge, within your budget of money and time, how best to vary things to allow spontaneity.
2007-01-05 02:09:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Invent, create, new food, restuarants, walks in the park, skydiving, new haircut, a night out on the town, don't forget to wear that dress/pants that make other guys look, he'll go nuts and get you out of there and quickly into bed! Hey, good luck to ya!
2007-01-05 01:32:46 · answer #7 · answered by ndvsne1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
start doing things for him that are romantic. a note in his lunch saying that you love him. walk up to him and kiss him not because your looking for sex. just because you want to show him he's special. hug him. you'd be surprised at how much a guy appreciates little things like that. I know I do. Eventually, he'll start to respond in kind. You'll also find that the more you do little things like this for him. the more you will desire to and the happier you will be. Think positive.
2007-01-05 01:35:09 · answer #8 · answered by krzylove 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
work work work and that takes you both. Ihave been married for 24 years and trust me theres been times i have feelt like Im in prision and or a life sentence for death. Then theres those times that are the best.Youre marraige is what you make of it. good luck
2007-01-05 01:31:46 · answer #9 · answered by furby_lost 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Atleast you want it back.
2007-01-05 01:38:39 · answer #10 · answered by Nevada S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋