Been married for 12 years but have been having problems for the last 3 years. Been separated off and on for the last 3 years as well. Have a new friend for about 2 years now just suppose to be a sex thang but now its more. What should I do?
2007-01-05 01:27:34 · 23 answers · asked by Lisa 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Either divorce the husband or else return to the marriage. That's the first thing.
If you divorce the husband you'll be free to do what you want. If you return to the marriage you dump the guy on the side. In view of the fact that you have cheated while you've been married I think its clear you ought to get the divorce as soon as possible.
Why come across as a sleeze when you can clean up the mess of your marriage and affairs and whatever else, start over, and live as a person with some dignity.
2007-01-05 01:34:08 · answer #1 · answered by WhiteLilac1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't be having a "sex thang" if you are married and living with your husband. Does he know about this guy? The only way to be fair to both of them is to get rid of one of them. Does this other guy feel the same way? You shouldn't try to hold on to both of them. Let one of them go so they can have the opportunity to be in a loving, HONEST relationship.
2007-01-05 01:35:20 · answer #2 · answered by leigh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there done that. Your marriage is over. Move on and do what's best for you. Just remember that the "sex thang" won't want you once you're unattached-the challenge of getting you to "love" him and leave your husband wont be there anymore. Think twice before you dive in. I learned that the hard way.
2007-01-05 01:33:29 · answer #3 · answered by Misty D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look I think that what you are really feeling is lust for this other guy and ofcource you would develope feelings for another person if you've had physical contact with them its like a person who sells him or her self out in the street rule number one never kiss on the mouth" didn't you ever see pretty women" think about it dont mess up your marriage over something that probably wont even last besides if he's been with you and your married what makes you think your the only one he's been with!!!!
2007-01-05 01:50:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump both, because it would be the right thing to do. Then I would focus on myself w/o a man for a period of time trying to figure out what went wrong in my life and how not to repeat the same mistakes. That is what I would do.
What should you do? Probably the same thing I would do.
Do I think you will? No, you will wait until the situation completely blows up in your face.
Why do I think that? Because, "It's good while it lasts, why stop."
2007-01-05 01:49:11 · answer #5 · answered by Poppet 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're married you're not supposed to have anyone on the side for any reason. What you should do is leave the side man alone or get a divorce.
2007-01-05 01:59:02 · answer #6 · answered by buka25mw 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lisa if your feeling are really strong for the man on the side and feel the same way i think its about time for a divorce. Because if you don't feel the love when you with your husband and things are not how they use to be when y'all was together when y'all first got married it about that time don't be sad if you feel they way you do about the man on the side trust you self and tell him whats on you mind.
2007-01-05 01:38:27 · answer #7 · answered by sexnotafactorforme 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have no children, and you envision the rest of your life with the new man, not your husband, then do everyone a favor by getting a divorce and marrying the new guy.
2007-01-05 02:10:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go with it! In the process you'll destroy any type of commitment there once was, your family will disown you, your friends will think you're a ______, your husband will tell every Tom, Dick and Harry about your extramarital affair, and your hair will fall out! Nuff said!
2007-01-05 01:36:34 · answer #9 · answered by ndvsne1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell your husband he has a cheating wife so that he can make an informed decision about your marriage.
I don't know why your marriage is in trouble, but could it,
possibly,
maybe,
crazy idea, I know....
be because you are HAVING SEX WITH OTHER MEN???
just an idea.
2007-01-05 01:43:04 · answer #10 · answered by fucose_man 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋