My partner split up with his wife nearly 2 years ago. He needs to get divorced ASAP and take the 'wife' to court as she has left him with nearly 40K in debt. She is making it really difficult for him to contact her and i feel as though i am paying her debt for her!
I have refurbished the entire home and given her chances to pick up everything (including clothes, letters, shoes, personal items, debt letters, Cd's etc.) yet she still refuses to come over to talk about it.
The only way i think she will contact him is if it is through court!
I need advice on all of this!
Any good solicitors in the NE England?
Any helpful advice?
Anything you can suggest to get the divorce through smoothly (And cheaply)
Thanks all
Jen
2007-01-05 01:23:44 · 8 answers · asked by Jen (G cup UK) 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I have been there, where my wife made every effort to make me pay expensive court costs... and you know what? I had to. There may be no easy solution to this. You may have to continue to stick by his side and ride this wave. It may seem like this will continue forever, but in time, it will get better.
2007-01-05 01:26:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The quickest way is for your man to admit adultery, even if it's not true. That way the courts will contact her and she will have to see a solicitor. There is no smooth ride through divorce or cheap. She will most likely be free of you man's debt if it's in his name. If he has a pension scheme, freeze it now. Any money he has, lose it in bonds etc. You will have a terrible year or so, when it's over you will be so relieved you will laugh about it. All l can offer is to stay calm, don't worry, work together and look to the future. Good luck.
2007-01-05 09:41:40 · answer #2 · answered by kosum 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
When a partner behaves like this then the chances are the divorce will not be smooth.
When I divorced my husband we decided to keep it friendly - but solicitors had other ideas. The more that can be sorted betwen them the cheaper it will be.
Incidentally - the more you do - the more they will let you - don't fall into the trap of doing everything.
2007-01-09 08:14:27 · answer #3 · answered by intelligentbutdizzy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey! reverse the situation here for a minute.
I for one would not want to walk back into MY HOUSE where I had lived with MY HUSBAND and see another woman living there with HIM, surrounded by a houseful of NEW THINGS, and my old things piled up in the corner.
Has it ever crossed your mind how that would feel?obviously not.
No wonder she won't be co-operative,nor would I under the circumstances, regardless of the reasons for the split.Surely you could at least moved into another house.
Anyway in my opinion, your both going the wrong way about sorting this out, (that's assuming your partner has actually had anything to say in the matter).
If it were me,I'd be just as stroppy as his wife.
Oh! and yes, I'm afraid I have to agree with member Chester above,"You are a control freak", and one without a conscience at that, How you can sleep at night ,in another woman's home , with her husband ,it's beyond me.
Oh, and as far as the 41K debt she accrued whilst she was living there with HER husband, don't you think that's a small price to pay for her part of the house. She sounds like she's ended up with sweet f... all out of this marriage.
2007-01-09 03:44:12 · answer #4 · answered by animalwatch 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
He needs a solicitor, and quick, should have got one to sort out the debts years ago, but if the debts are in her name, then he is NOT liable for them. If a divorce is contested in any way, then it is unlikely to be cheap.
2007-01-05 09:38:25 · answer #5 · answered by mike-from-spain 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Woe jen...........is your bi-polar high drive acting up this morning?
Shouldn't it be the BF doing the checking here on this stuff?
You don't strike me as a very smart woman, to have moved into the home of another woman, re-furbishing the place............what in the world are you thinking? WHy didn't you wait and do all that AFTER the divorce? Not too Bright on your part!
This woman doesn't have to give you the time of day!! YOUR IN HER HOME!!!! IF her husband has kept her things there, then you should too! She shouldn't have to come and talk to you about anything!! leave her **** alone and let the courts give her a date to pick them up!
Damn, I hope your boyfriend knows that by being with you, his life is going to be one big control freak!
2007-01-05 09:35:45 · answer #6 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He needs to file for a divorce and get the ball rolling,the lawyer will contact her and tell her to get her things out in a timely manner if she refuses then she has abandon them. why is it taking him so long to see a lawyer is he having secons thoughts?
2007-01-05 09:31:57 · answer #7 · answered by Denny O 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ooh.. i am sorry. i hope everything gets right soon
2007-01-05 09:25:55 · answer #8 · answered by anis118030 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋