Every weekend without fail our neighbour gets his waders on and makes a thorough job of cleaning his car. This totally innocent routine annoys my husband to the point of insanity, he thinks this poor guy is a sad feak! It's getting to the point now when my husband is so obsessed that he's having little bets as to what time the car is going to be cleaned. It's driving me mad!
He's never fallen out with the neighbour and it's really not about the make of the car of anything. I can't understand it. If my husband is jealous then he has his own car to clean but he likes it to get really dirty because he thinks it will wind the neighbour up!
Help - there is nothing I can do but why do you think my husband is letting this obsess him so much?
My husband does have a life and runs his own business and goes out etc so it's not like he's sitting by the window all day.
2007-01-05 00:57:44 · 14 answers · asked by honeybell 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I think you hit it right on the head; he is jealous about something. Granted, he may not be jealous about the car itself, but the dedication with which the neighbor cleans it every week represents something your husband may wish he had more of, and "winding the neighbor up" by leaving his own car filthy is a way to exert his superiority over it, despite himself.
2007-01-05 01:32:32 · answer #1 · answered by myislanduniverse 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can understand why your husband's behaviour is annoying, but it seems to me that he and your neighbour are personality opposites - your neighbour sounds quite @nally retentive - the neighbours which I have, and do that regularly (cleaning the hubcaps with a toothbrush for example) are also very prissy gardeners, go out collecting every leaf which falls on their property - reserving their car parking spaces in the street, and having screaming fits if they can't do everything every week in their own way and order.
It's a kind of victor meldrew thing which I think I share with your husband - that kind of behaviour really winds me up too, because it gives the impression that nothing else is important - that their priorities are all mixed up and that they are mean people to be so concerned over trivialities and appearances rather than the things which really matter. If your guy has a dirty car then he is a good, laid back guy to know, so I reckon you are lucky!
2007-01-05 01:03:41 · answer #2 · answered by Miss Behavin 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i can comprehend why your husband's behaviour is annoying, regardless of the indisputable fact that it type of feels to me that he and your neighbour are personality opposites - your neighbour sounds quite @nally retentive - the neighbours which I actually have, and take a check out this oftentimes (cleansing the hubcaps with a toothbrush as an party) are also very prissy gardeners, bypass out collecting each and every leaf which falls on their property - booking their vehicle parking areas interior the line, and having screaming matches in the journey that they could't do each and every thing a week of their own way and order. it really is a technique of victor meldrew problem which i imagine I share mutually with your husband - that type of behaviour really winds me up too, because it provides the effect that not something else is major - that their priorities are all blended up and they are propose human beings to be so in contact over trivia and appearances truly than the flaws which actual be counted. in case your guy has a grimy vehicle then he's a superb, laid decrease back guy to attraction to close, so I reckon you're fortunate!
2016-10-16 23:39:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure if its a sign of the times or what ! I'm male and I get annoyed at my neighbor when he fires up his Porsche on Sundays . Yeah I'm thinking why does he have a Porsche and I don't . I would never do anything about it my prob is I'm just jealous but joke about it not really serious . Although in the back of my mind wish he had a feather and I had that car the bastard! lol !
2007-01-05 01:06:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wow. That is troubling. II I were you I'd make it a point to go shopping, or to your mom's house each time this melodrama begins to happen. Maybe if you remove yourself from the situation you will preserve your own sanity, and just maybe your absence will deflate his wind-up.
2007-01-05 01:09:37 · answer #5 · answered by Batty 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your husband just has to he a reason to gripe. Maybe you should go out and start washing your car the same time the neighbor washes his. Just maybe it will give your husband something else to think about.
2007-01-05 01:03:44 · answer #6 · answered by Donna 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it can only be some sort of jealousy. maybe he has something about the whole settling down and cleaning the family car.
maybe because the neighbour cleans his car so much, it makes him feel guilty that he doesnt do his own as often
maybe its a whole other level of hate and the only way he expresses it is through moaning about his car cleaning.
2007-01-05 01:02:21 · answer #7 · answered by tommmythegun 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Sounds like he wants to be Mr suburbia himself and is having a go at what he'd like to do. Sit him down give him a can of beer put the footy on for him and lap dance every weekend to take his mind off it ! Poor boy !
2007-01-05 02:34:13 · answer #8 · answered by Red5 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Maybe he is lacking for conversation topics. People talk about things they can't change, for instance idle chatter about the weather, rather than discussing at length things they do have control over like politics or money. Carya
2007-01-05 01:05:55 · answer #9 · answered by Carya 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe he is a little jealous,sounds silly but he maybe thinks that this guy has a settled home life and routine that your husband secretly craves!
2007-01-05 01:04:16 · answer #10 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋