rather than presents but still remaning polite
2007-01-05 00:34:41 · 12 answers · asked by paul b 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
there really isnt a socially accepted polite way to do that,,,,,,,,as you are inviting them to attend your wedding, gifts are voluntary and not suppose to even be expected...... what you can do,,,, when asked what gift you would like, is to say "you really cant think of anything, but you are saving up for ,,,,,,,,,, then list an expensive item,,,,,,, and any contributions would be welcome,,,,,,,, or any gift you would like would be great "that is a polite way of saying "no individual gifts, money please"
2007-01-05 00:40:58 · answer #1 · answered by dlin333 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would never ever be that rude, it's so cheeky. There is nothing polite about asking for cash. If you really are that cold then the only thing I can think of is to register a gift list then return any gifts you got for a refund, but that is also really tacky, so basically there is no nice way of doing it.
2007-01-05 00:42:52 · answer #2 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A note declining to attend the wedding and maybe a page out of Dear Abby or Miss Manners which addresses the tackiness of such a request.
I'm sorry, you said "polite." OK; I'd send them a $50 gift certificate.
2007-01-05 00:37:24 · answer #3 · answered by Le_Roche 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You can't ask such a thing - that is not only ridiculous but rude and very tacky. You should be grateful that people are coming to your wedding to wish you well and that they bring you ANYTHING at all. If you need the money that badly scale down your wedding. You'll be married at the end of the day whether you spend $5k dollars or $50k.
2007-01-05 00:55:47 · answer #4 · answered by T C 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Leigh is correct, I have seen this on many wedding invitations.
Although it is actually not correct etiquette to request money as a gift, people do it anyways.
2007-01-05 01:22:10 · answer #5 · answered by ~MIMI~ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Paul...you really can't. Most guests will give a check, knowing that this is what the bride and groom really want. But you can't actually request money only.
2007-01-05 00:39:15 · answer #6 · answered by Dave 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do yourself a favor, and don't request money. It is tacky, and will really make you look bad. If you want people to come to your wedding, do not delegate what they give you. Just be glad they are giving you something at all.
2007-01-05 00:40:15 · answer #7 · answered by )o(Moonbeam Maeve)o( 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
dont register anywhere it wont give them to many other options. you will still get some pictureframes which you will want anyway for the picts. but that way you are coming out there and saying give me money.
2007-01-05 00:44:28 · answer #8 · answered by noel22f 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If I were you, I'll put an account number for them to deposit directly (i.e.: "Please make your deposits to the account XXXXXXX in the XXX Bank"). In that way, they'll know that you preffer money instead of presents and you won't have to have all that cash with you in the wedding night.
2007-01-05 00:38:55 · answer #9 · answered by GTA 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
"In lieu of presents, the happy couple will have a Wishing Well for monetary gifts at the reception"
2007-01-05 00:47:49 · answer #10 · answered by leigh 2 · 1⤊ 3⤋