My boyfriend I have been living together for about 3 years,we purchased a home together, but lately it seems like we fight consently. We fight over the stupidist things. Example:The other day I asked my bf to stop at the store on his way home from work to pick up dog food. I went home from work cooked dinner, started the laundry,and other various household chores.My bf came home and forgot the dog food.I asked him after dinner if he would pick it up and he said he would. I was in the middle of doing dishes when he informed me he wasn't going to the store. Again, I was doing dishes, folding laundry,vaccuming, ironing or clothes for the next day and now I had to go to the store.What was he doing? Laying in bed! We havn't talked since.The more we fight the more I see he is very selfish and self centered.I have tried talking to him 1,000's of times it's good for a couple of days and then something new comes up. I can't move out, why should I leave my home?Help! How do we stop the fighting!
2007-01-05 00:26:54 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Try and compromise him and get him to help you out a little bit if the fighting continues bring an outside party in like a sibling or cousin or friend to stay with you for a couple of days and see how things are from their perspective then maybe they can talk to you both and tell you what they are noticing. It helps when someone that is not in the actual situation gives you an outlook on things. Good Luck!
2007-01-05 00:30:41 · answer #1 · answered by Kat A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been in a relationship for two year and this happened to me and it seemed to be more of an internal issue, what I did was I told him we need to talk and I asked him what wrong? why have you been acting like so and so, without getting mad take note. Ask him to do the same and just to listen to you, then I followed by saying what do I need to do so that we can fix this, if he open up and tells you then you tell him what you feel that he needs to do so that your relationship last.
Basically I think something is bothering him and maybe he need comfort or guidance...it takes time
2007-01-05 08:32:06 · answer #2 · answered by salem 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
katie .....i know exactly how u feel tho my story is a bit different i'll leave that for another day .......get together calm and explain how u feel {dont curse or yell , this will then turn in to something nasty} ask him what he sees wrong in the relationship ...both of u sit down and grab a notebook ....the notebook will hold everything thats been going wrong ....communication tp personal accountabilitiy to proper apologies and why he and u get anger or dont listen in the end ....no matter how u see it .....ask him if he still loves u if he does than ask him whats going on and where does he see any of the fighting going ?
2007-01-05 08:36:33 · answer #3 · answered by journey2blonde 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The way i see it is; you let him be selfish and self centered. You have self respect issues, willingly turned yourself into a doormat and he is quiet happy to oblige you, by walking all over you. The house ownership issue can be resolved by a lawyer. Ask yourself...do you want to be part of his life 10 yrs from now, have children with him , subject those kids to your war zone? You sound like a good person...RUN far and fast and find someone who knows how to share
2007-01-05 08:37:48 · answer #4 · answered by kitty_kat4602000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop cooking for him. Washing his clothes and anything else that is specifically for him. That should get the message across to him. And make sure that you don't ask him to do anything for you like work on your car. Hopefully you kept track of how much each of you contributed to the cost of the house and payments in case you need to divide your assets.
2007-01-05 08:34:39 · answer #5 · answered by aiguyaiguy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋