serious. if we were kissing or something and i would ej-culate. i feel like i'm going to be sick cause my body, REALLY wants to. we're not going to have s-x cause I don't want to get her pregnant or anything. what do i do!?
don't suggest sex! seriously. i'm going to wait anyway. also, condoms don't always work, so i'm not takin the chance. do you think i'll grow out of it, my sex drive is probbaly it it's highest now....right?
2007-01-05 00:24:26 · 13 answers · asked by Josh 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
we're both 17.
2007-01-05 00:25:28 · update #1
ur hormones are going crazy. its awesome that youre waiting and being responsible...as bad as this may sound to some people, masturbation is always another route to consider if youre going to explode. keep up with the abstinence though if thats truly what you feel is right. good for you. nice to hear some responsible young people out there these days! :)
2007-01-05 00:28:12 · answer #1 · answered by Love my Family <3 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-26 20:57:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm... you are definitely in a very difficult situation. I'm glad to know that you are going to wait (that's always a very good idea). I'd suggest that you totally abstain from it, even kissing or any situation that gets your hormones up, but that might not be very realistic. Still, that's one of the suggestions I'd have you seriously consider. You can try distracting yourself with activities that don't get you 'alone' together. If for instance when you watch a movie, watch one with a chaperone (sucks, I know but way better than being forced into situations where your hormones run amuck). You can go out with friends as a group but not in one where you're paired up into couples. Well, you get the general idea.
It's also good thing for both of you to talk about boundaries. You both need to know what the other wants out of your relationship. That way, you know when to stop. Knowing your boundaries is also a sign of respect for your partner. It means that she can trust you not to go beyond the limits that she set. Also, talking about what the consequences of 'sex' would be if you inadvertently indulge in it, would be a very good idea. Talk about pregnancy and how it would affect your young lives. Talk about your dreams and your plans for the future and how an unplanned pregnancy can ruin your chances for the future and quite possibly, ruing your relationship as well. Talk candidly about the consequences of unprotected sex (its not just pregancy but STD's as well). In a sense, scare yourself into not indulging. You can even talk with a school counselor if you have one.
As for you outgrowing your sex drive, I don't think so. I know 50 year olds who are as interested in sex as a 17 year old (gross, I know). It does not necessarily diminish. :-) so waiting until you get 'over' it won't really work. Its a matter of maturity. As most men get older, they get a more relaistic perspective of what they want out of life.
Well, hope I helped even a bit.
2007-01-05 00:50:22 · answer #3 · answered by XF 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry that is a stage in a young man's life that most guys go through, you'll eventually grow out of it, and everything will be fine. Most guys your age, would of probably just went with the erg to do it, and thank god your thinking of everything that could go wrong. Haven't you ever see the movies where you start thinking of other things when your kissing your girlfriend that will make yourself go soft. Think of cold stuff. just an suggestion.
2007-01-05 04:01:35 · answer #4 · answered by Tommy's_Sweet_Girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can you possibly wait. Just make sure and use a condom or even 2 if you don't trust them . More power to you if you can wait, but if she is trying to give it to you...i would take it and just be careful. Use a condom and pull out before hand as well. Your sex drive will probably be high from now one. Mine was its highest into my late 20's and i am 34 now and it is still very high. But like the one answer said...personal attention to yourself, in other words, don't go in with a loaded weapon...get my drift.
2007-01-05 00:32:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
There are other ways to get relief without having intercourse. Her hands or yours could work well....seriously...i think it's great that you want to wait! Maybe you could take care of business before you go out on a date with her? That might ease some of the pressure you feel when you get together. Good Luck
2007-01-05 00:29:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is something that occurs a lot with young boys, try stopping when things are getting to heated for you and explaining to her the reason why. You might also try a little "personal care" to help you calm down. Good Luck
2007-01-05 00:28:03 · answer #7 · answered by lonestarlady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your decision is great and you are really a responsible young man that should be commended. You should be very proud of yourself. I think it is great that you are not taking any chances with pregnancy or STD's. I'm in no position to tell you what you can do to relive yourself...all my kids are girls...and I hope that they find young men as responsible and thoughtfull as you are when they start dating. Have you tried talking to your dad? I'll bet he can help you alot with this. Good luck.
2007-01-05 00:34:52 · answer #8 · answered by Barbiq 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Best way to easy your bodies tention is to stop all sexual contact. Remove the cause of your worries and releave yourself occationally and things will be fine. Good Luck!
2007-01-05 00:30:00 · answer #9 · answered by Hot Momma 83 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you thought about releaving yourself? Just before say you and your girlfriend get together..Maybe it would not be so stressfull as to want to..
2007-01-05 00:41:02 · answer #10 · answered by jewel64052 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋