I am with someone who has 3 children from his ex wife. I have 6 children from my ex husband. So, that means we have 9 total. His ex wife says that my children are baggage and I shouldn't be with him. Him and I love eachother so much. Could it be jealous because her children love me so much? Could it be jealous that she doesn't have what she had before? It hurts me to say that my children are baggage. How do i handle that word?
2007-01-05 00:13:58 · 17 answers · asked by mibabi1971 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
who does she say it to???if the children,who cares--they;ll make up their own minds--if the ex--tell him to back you up by not talking to her about non kid issues
2007-01-05 00:17:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
DIvorce is so ugly and makes people ugly when they operate in the negative. If you are a good mother and you have 9 children to care for and are successful my thinking is that the ex is operating out of hurt and slinging mud at you out of jealousy, since hse still probably loves your husband. Pay no attention and treat him with respect and you will have all the love in the world from him. Leave her alone and keep far from her. I would ignore her orrrr on the other hand be friend her and show her respect and be kind and loving and caring and who knows what could spring up from the wounded soul. Some people dont come out of divorce unscathed and probably shes still very wounded and upset, especially since you are mothering her children. Laugh off the comments and dont lower yourself to her level. Act with integrity and dignity. You be the better person.
I hope good will come out of the mess. One thing that works is to pray for her well being and for her recovery and the irony is that when you pray for a person who resents you, you actually find favor with them. And thats biblcal too! GOd bless you all.
2007-01-05 08:28:08 · answer #2 · answered by uniquechild 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's harsh huh? The best thing to do is just ignore it. Baggage is a loose term for things that remind someone of a failed relationship. Whether it be children, pets, finances, or emotional scars.
2007-01-05 08:16:44 · answer #3 · answered by The Anti-Pink 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
don't let his EX-wife affect or jeopardise the relationship of you two. she's probably worried that your children may hinder her children's lives, plus, she's probably jealous that her children actually like you. ignore her comment.
anyway, look: if she thinks that your children are baggage, then she is excess baggage-- that's why she was thrown out. haha! does that make you feel better? take care :)
2007-01-05 08:16:36 · answer #4 · answered by Melody 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would tell her that she is hurting all the children by calling them baggage. If you all over one each other then who cares what she thinks. I would keep your children away from that rotten women. Or kill her with kindness.
2007-01-05 08:17:51 · answer #5 · answered by UTGirl34 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, by definition - "baggage" - something that you carry your belongings in. She sounds like a bitter, spiteful woman who is very jealous that you have so much, and she, so little. Rise above the insults, and be proud to know that - lucky you - you have so much "baggage" that she is envious. Enjoy your large family and pity her.
2007-01-05 08:24:16 · answer #6 · answered by Bondgirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't handle it, don't even acknowledge the word, that's terrible to refer to children as baggage. You need to nip this in the bud be honest with her and let her know you don't appreciate it and to not repeat. There is no good excuse for her saying that whatever the reason may be. GL with your situation.
2007-01-05 08:19:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its like any other word. If you don't give it any power then it doesn't have any. In situations where something hurtful or mean is said, you have to "consider the source" Of course this woman is going to put your children down, because first of all they are not hers. She wants her children to come before yours. All the reasons for why she said are not as important as how you react to it. and if I were you I wouldn't.
2007-01-05 08:18:23 · answer #8 · answered by arcadia_1977 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you care what his EX wife is saying about you? She's his ex for a reason. If you love him and he loves you then who the heck cares what she thinks. Nine kids is a lot though I'll give you that. I personally won't date anyone that has more than two but you guys make it work - good for you.
2007-01-05 08:51:38 · answer #9 · answered by T C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no it is only a saying. The children are a part of you and come with you so therefore they are your baggage
2007-01-05 08:26:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she just trying to insinuate that you married him for the wrong reason but don't let it bother you its is total jealousy, I've been through two divorces as a child and its not good and that word was thrown around that I was mom baggage, and I saw the dire affect you need not pay attention.
2007-01-05 08:17:14 · answer #11 · answered by salem 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋