By what age does a boy know he is gay?

Question

If he really is, can he change that? I know that gays say they can't, but I've also heard that others say it can change. I just don't know.

Answer 1

My 22 year old son,who came out at age 16 said that he knew he was/is gay from the time he was old enough to understand what gay means.He had 1st crush on another boy in 8th grade.The crush basically confirmed what he already knew.Does that make since?I had suspicion he was about 4.I thought I was crazy&sort of ignored them until he was 15.At that time I decided he's my kid&I love him no matter what.He says it won't change.I would'nt think of asking him to or trying to force him to change.I think some kids experience confusion about their sexuality and may experiment with both sexes and say that they are bisexual.Then I think a guy or girl might know they prefer the opposite sex and feel they've"changed". If you're born gay,lesbian,bior transgender then I don't believe you'll change.I'm straight so these are just my opinions.I've always known that I'm straight and I can't change.

Answer 2

I felt different at the age of 4 but never had an idea I was gay. I did not know at that time what was being gay all about. By the age of 10 I started to realized that I was gay and confirmed my suspicion that I was already gay since 4 years old. Change? I heard of lesbians or bisex women who somewhat became straight but men? I doubt. They might be lying about it.

Answer 3

For me the age was 13.; I had a crush on the school weight lifter.Modern psychology doesn't think it's a disease, therefore not to be cured. I have known people who have went through this change back in the 1950s, they all went back to being gay.

From what I read, none have ever stopped being attracted to men, even though they are also attracted to women, so the best you get is bisexuality.

Answer 4

Most guys start to realize they are turned on by another guy when going thru puberty. During that period, I think most realize that this is more than a normal sexual curiousity and is more than an attractiion. When the first "experimentation" takes place, whether looking at gay porn, or with another guy, I think it confirms that the guy has a preference to another guy. In a lot of cases, I think that your peer pressure, church, and family can all influence how willing, or how fast you can be open with your feelings, or at least discuss it with someone. I think most guys know by early teens that they have a preference, it may take longer until they get up the nerve to act on it, often not til high school or college.

Answer 5

I had my first crush on a guy at 9 years old.
My first real sex encounter with a much older dude when I was 11.
And so the story develops.
At 55 still gay:never wanted or desired to be with the other gender in any sexual way ever
My best friends are all women.
That's because I am easy to talk to:husbands hardly understand the female feelings.At least that's what my" girlfriends " tell me.
Hope this answer helped you a bit.
Greetings:Rob.xxx

Answer 6

There is no certain age or defining moment when a bell goes off and you say "wow, i'm gay". It happens at different times for different people. I've known I was gay since I was in nursery school, but did not act on it until I was a freshman in college.

Answer 7

I recall having a sense of attraction towards boys as early as 4th grade, and many parents report knowing 'something' in the toddler years. I did not put a name to my sexuality until middle school and there is no way I could have changed my orientation. Could you change from being straight? I guess some people can change how they express themselves sexually, but no one can change the way their orientation plays out emotionally, spiritually, etc...

Answer 8

There isn't any hard and fast rule about knowing your sexual orientation. Some, like myself, have pretty much always known what it was they "preferred", others go through questioning their attractions for many years, others still attempt to deny because of pressures put on them by family and people around them.
While it is possible to have those feelings without acting on them, I don't believe it is possible to ever make them go away so as to your question about changing, I'd have to say no.

Answer 9

I'd say you'll know when you've had a good chance to date a few, sweet good looking girls. If you're not feeling the "FEELING", then chances are, you can know for sure your gay.

If you really don't want to be gay...you'll need to see a psychotherapist, behavioural therapist, and a counselor. It will be ALOT of work, and even then it will be like denying who you are.

Answer 10

Hmm...most people know what sexuality they are by the time they're out of high school. I'm bisexual, myself. I 'came out' right around my freshman year of high school. As for 'can they change?' It depends on what you mean by 'change.' Sexuality is defined by pheromone responses in the brain. It's not really something you can 'change.' It's something that you're born with.