When you need mom but cant go to her.......................?

Question

I am going threw some really personal issue that i feel only my mother can help me with ..We dont have the greatest relationship and i have never went to her for help b4 ..We have amny issues we need to resolve but rite now i just need her support how do I get the nerve to go talk to her and tell her what is going on with me and NOT disapoint her more than i already have...????

Answer 1

My daughter and I have a situation very similar to yours. She very very seldom comes to me to talk about whatever may be bothering her. She once told me she doesn't know how to express how she feels. I also think she thinks I won't understand. Whatever though I wish she would come to me. As for you and your mother if you are apprehensive about just going to her to ask her to talk maybe a little note will open the way for you. I wish you and your mom the best of luck. I hope the two of you can get to the point where you both feel the other is your best friend. I sure do wish it was that way for my daughter and I.

Answer 2

I`m not saying she will support you. I`m saying you should talk to her. No matter what you do right or wrong. When you have issues she should be there for you. She even though the relationship isn`t that great still loves you because you are a part of her. You will always be. This situation or issue that needs attention and discussion may be the thing that pulls you closer together. Maybe by saying yes ma I should`ve listened, or mother you were right, or let`s forget about the past and start new. Or can we please put away our differences for a bit I really need to speak with you Mom? No matter what don`t raise your voice. It will be difficult. Don`t cop an attitude. Relax and ask her to sit at a place close to you . Try some eye contact. She is there for you. Hasn`t she always been? Sometimes mom`s have it tough too and get grouchy. So much rushing through things, so much work to do . If you can get her to relax, do something for her. Then although it is out of character maybe, she`ll see you are trying. Make her a beverage, or a meal do some dishes without being told. Change and she`ll change with you. I have no idea on your age. All I know is if you need to talk to mom. She most likely will listen if you use a calm approach.

Answer 3

If you can't go to mom go to your bestfriend. Or just call your mom and say I need some guidance and if she is any kind of mother she will put your issues aside and say how can I help. She may be disappointed at first but she will come around that is what moms are here for! Just remember the worst thing she could say is no I'm not going to help you but, she is a mother she will help! Hope this helps.

Answer 4

I don't really know about moms... But I have a similar issue w/ my father.

We weren't very close. There's like a force field between us. We hardly talk and when we do we'll end up shouting at each other.

A couple of months back though, I got into some really deep ****. And I didn't know what to do. I told my mom and my BFFs but they couldn't help me even though they wanted to. Deep inside, I know that it was the kind of situation Dads usually handle but I was scared as **** of telling him. Kinda like you.

But I did in the end. I picked up the phone and called him while he was at work. I think he was at a meeting w/ someone but I begged his secretary to put me through. She did. And then my father asked me what the emergancy was.

I didn't mean to but I just started sobbing. And the whole mess just came out. It was pretty horrible. My father was really upset at first. And he told me. But after he reprimand me he told me he understood and he helped me out.

Anyway, moral of the story is, no matter how bad my relationship was with my dad, when it comes down to it, I'm still daddy's little girl. Just like you're your mom's. Just be honest w/ her and yourself. Don't try to hide any truth and let her know that you're really sorry and that you really didn't want to disappoint her. Your sincerity should got through. Parents have that instict. They'll know.

Good luck.

Answer 5

Call her and say, I need my Mom, that should open the door, and when you get done with the issue at hand don't stop there, take care of the rest of your issues.