he's like forever on my case
i'm feeling very tempted
2007-01-04 23:28:05 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Tell him you're married, faithful and he needs to pursue someone else. Why would you be tempted anyway, you're just a conquest for him.
2007-01-04 23:31:00 · answer #1 · answered by FaerieWhings 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Those red flags you see waving , those mean STOP.
In racing the red flag is intended to get you to stop before you drive into the trouble.
Before you consider this as an option you need to take a very hard look at how this is will go.
If going out for a drink, which will lead to the inevitable request for sex, is what you want go ahead and go. Understand that this will probably complicate your life enough to effect your job, your marriage and your self image adversely. From there the situation can spiral downhill to the point that you could end up divorced or still with a husband who you have hurt to the point that he will never treat you with full trust again.
Do you really want that? How long have you been reading the questions on this post about spouses cheating and trust.
Do you really want this in your life?
Do you understand that the level of pain inflicted to husband can be the greatest he will ever come to endure?
This can come to no good. If this guy is so handsome and successful he need not be trolling for some other guy's wife.
Understand his intent here. Men do not pursue married women for long term relationships. If he is after you he is after the fun in your pants. Make sure you understand that going in. Also understand that your husband has probably been less attentive and maybe a bit comfortable in your relationship but he does not deserve to be cheated on for that.
You are standing at the fork in the road. The choices are to answer 'I'm married and not interested" OR " lets do it".
One leads to working on the marriage and getting some benefit
from your already established relationship.
The other can lead to pain and dishonesty.
Which do you really want?
The red flags are up there. You can choose to ignore them but that would be a BIG mistake.
2007-01-05 08:08:55 · answer #2 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is this guy so interested in you .. have you asked him why... and also have you flashed your wedding ring in his face.. maybe not , Im asuming your HUSBAND isn't successfull and handsome to you, as you are being tempted by this guys looks and wealth. You seem too have forgotten the man who put the ring on your finger. I feel sorry for your husband you are obviously a very shallow person.... you will only be a conquest for him and how the mighty fall when conquered.
2007-01-05 07:54:48 · answer #3 · answered by just_a_bitch61 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Don't do it at the risk of losing your husband. How would you feel if your husband did that to you? It wouldn't make you feel very good. Keep the honesty and trust in your marriage. Once you start hiding things from him, it will just keep getting worst. Don't put yourself in that position. You might think you can get away with it, but the guilt will kill you. Do you really believe all this guy wants is to have a drink with you?
2007-01-05 09:28:50 · answer #4 · answered by leigh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you ask him if he minds if your husband came along? You are a married woman, it's not wrong to fantasize, but sounds like you're flirting. How would you feel if another women yor husband found attractive asked him out. If you can't say no to another man asking you out, how trustworthy are you? Once again the vow- forsaking all others should be respected.
2007-01-05 08:04:04 · answer #5 · answered by annette_642 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know it might be tempting but there is a phrase I like to use. Here it is: The grass may look greener on the other side, but it still has to be mowed.
Don't do it. You will ruin two lives and a marriage.
2007-01-05 07:46:56 · answer #6 · answered by spanky1492 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are a married woman, don't even go there, unless you want to be dragged down into the sewer with the rest of the cheating spouses in the world.
This guy only wants to get laid. Think about it.
2007-01-05 08:10:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't do something you will regret. It is not worth ruining your marriage over. This guy is not asking you for a drink because he wants to be your friend, he is obviously trying to get something started.
2007-01-05 07:56:19 · answer #8 · answered by Lov'n IT! 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just put yourself in your husband's shoes: would you be upset if he went for a drink with another woman? A woman he finds attractive so it is obviously not just a platonic friendship?
2007-01-05 07:56:38 · answer #9 · answered by crackermelons 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Feeling tempted is ok.
If you really want to go with him then get a divorce first.
It will hurt your husband less to divorce him than to cheat on him.
It will also hurt you less if you have a shred of self respect.
Don't cheat
2007-01-05 07:34:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋