My grandmother says that I need to marry a rich man and she says that I need to stay with a Black or Carribbean man. She doesn't want me to go to college but I do.She wants me to marry this wealthy guy from Cuba and he is 26 and I'm 16. How do I get out of this? I told my mom about everything but my grandmother threatens to disown us and kick us out.
2007-01-04 23:27:33 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Other - Cultures & Groups
Ignore her. No disrespect but she probably isn't going to be around forever anyway....and this is YOUR life were talking about here. Different things for different people, although she's your grandmother, she still isn’t you. She still doesn’t know what ‘‘happiness’’ and ''love'' mean to YOU and that’s what marriage is all about. Years ago, my grandmother told me after talking about my current boyfriend who was African American ''oh no honey, you need to walk down the aisle with a white boy'' we weren’t even discussing marriage! At first, I was mad and thought she was a horrible, prejudice person, I was also kind of offended because I myself, am 50% African American. Over time I began to realize that she just grew up in a different time and just didn’t understand that things and people changed drastically since then. I just respected our differences and the fact that she thought that would be the ''best'' for me. Perhaps you should try to understand from your grandmother's point of view but at the same time brush it off.....don’t give in if it’s NOT what YOU want to do. Play along with her for the time being...just beat around the bush until you and your mother can move out. Good luck :)
P.s. As far as marrying a RICH man goes, you would be rich with a man who only had $1 in his pocket everyday if he LOVED you for you! (having to TAKE CARE of a man isn't good though) but women having an opportunity to be independent and make their OWN money is a beautiful thing. You don’t want to be DEpendent, trust me. YOU be the rich one!
2007-01-05 12:53:35 · answer #1 · answered by Fearfully & wonderfully made 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What does the Cuban guy say about all this? Tell your grandma that if she truly loves you, she'd put your happiness above everything. I don't think she'll really kick you out, and if she did, I'd rather live on the streets than live with someone like your grandma. Call her bluff, tell her she's making your life a misery and you're going to move out cos you can't spend your life trying to make her happy, while you're miserable. Good luck. You're still only a kid and shouldn't be forced into marrying
2007-01-04 23:38:00 · answer #2 · answered by Taylor29 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you think your grandmother would actually kick you out if you didn't?
Was your mom's marriage arranged?
I know the whole "sit and talk with her about it" suggestion is overrated and overused, but it seems to be your only option right now if your grandmother continues to be unreasonable. Explain to her calmly and without getting too upset that you're too young to be thinking about marriage right now. You want to be educated and smart AND married, just not right now.
I don't know your grandmother and how strict she is, but I hope the best for you.
2007-01-04 23:40:18 · answer #3 · answered by Rhia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't run away, that is just stupid to do that. You should stand your ground, and talk to you grandma. In fact annoy her by talking about it every single day Hopefully she will give in and know this is something you don't want. Tell her how you feel and if all else fails in that department, talk to the Cuban guy. Tell him how you feel and that you are not ready for marriage and it's something you just don't want right now. I am sure you can reason with one of them.
2007-01-04 23:39:51 · answer #4 · answered by SIVA 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stand your ground right away and tell her that no one can control your adult life choices if you don't set her straight she will think she can control you ..........Then show her how strong you are by going to school and becoming rich and successful
2007-01-04 23:32:22 · answer #5 · answered by Tiffany 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your Grandma wants you to marry rich guy so SHE CAN BENEFIT from it. i.e $$$$
Can you think of a word for that?....
starts with a P
2007-01-04 23:34:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stand up for what you want. You don't need someone to make your own decisions.
2007-01-04 23:36:43 · answer #7 · answered by Jazz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do one thing run away with the guy u love and marry him thats it and i guess it wont take time 4 u two to settle in ur dream destination............if id be in ur place i wud do this.
2007-01-04 23:30:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋