My boyfriend's English, but he's a quarter South American. Anyway, he uses the "n" word, yet he has minority friends.
I am 3/4 Asian (and 1/4 English) and we're engaged as well.
One time he was talking to his Pakistani friend, and he forgot his mate was Pakistani, so he said something racist. Then he realized...
Although he freely uses the n word, he gets upset when his Caucasian friends do, so he literally got into physical fights with them.
I'm the first non-Caucasian girl he's been with. I'm just a bit confused considering the various circumstances.
2007-01-04 23:09:14 · 7 answers · asked by curious 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
poster 2: He was raised in Southwest England, in a somewhat rural area.
2007-01-04 23:17:23 · update #1
Hampshire to be precise.
2007-01-04 23:17:58 · update #2
sorry, typo southEAST, not west
2007-01-04 23:19:32 · update #3
sorry to this but yes he is racist indeed...*
2007-01-04 23:12:19 · answer #1 · answered by blacktulip_raine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the context. if his friends are trying to be offensive then it makes sense that he would be upset by it. If he uses it in an entirely different context... who knows. No info to go on here.
I use the term "wet back" too. Does that mean I don't like my kids or their mom? no. But then I don't walk down the street yelling it at strangers either.
The idea that where he is raised is more important than how he uses it seems a little... racist.
2007-01-04 23:29:49 · answer #2 · answered by Red Winged Bandit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't sound like he uses it in the context of a racial slur or against black people so I don't think so.
I mean when all is said and done, it's just a word and if he uses innocently around his mates who are ok with it, then I can't see it being a big deal.
However, if you are offended, then I would ask him to stop using it or think of an alternative word to use instead.
2007-01-04 23:13:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he just has really bad manners.
I would tell him that it is not acceptable to use the "n" word under any circumstances. He probably doesn't realize how rude it is when he says it.
he can change - give him a chance
2007-01-04 23:44:14 · answer #4 · answered by Agent99 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This question will be added to my watch list. I have no answer except some people are raised with didn't view of whats exceptable. Where was he raised?
2007-01-04 23:13:42 · answer #5 · answered by ...huh... 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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I don't how poor in geography you are but first you should learn that "South American" is NOT a race.
By South American, what do you mean?
This?
http://newsimg.bbc.co.uk/media/images/41038000/jpg/_41038404_nalbandian4_afp220.jpg
This?
http://www.dimayor.com.co/Historia/0184.jpg
This?
http://eur.news1.yimg.com/eur.yimg.com/ng/sp/eurpr_profile/20060105/evo-morales.jpg
or this?
http://www.cbtm.org.br/images/CBTM4.jpg
Yes, all them are South Americans.
2007-01-05 15:08:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes he is somewhat racist. He need to refine his language.
2007-01-04 23:15:15 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋