Why does my life suck?

Question

I loved my old school.
I moved to a new city 9 months back so I had to join a new school. I don't like my new friends.
When I get back from school, my parents are after me to study.
On weekends I gotta attend these coaching classes that help you get into a good college. And it's not like I'm bad at studies or anything. I'm a 95 percenter. My parents really want me to get a good college so they enrolled me, even though I begged and pleaded them not to. And I'm in the 8th grade. These classes will go on till the end of high school.
I don't go out to play because I have no friends here. I have friends only at school (who I don't like all that much). And only dorks come to the coaching classes.
I've not been the type who complains so much (you must be thinking 'Yeah right!'). I'm normally quite adjustive, but this is quite overboard.
What can I do to make my life rosy again? Life in my old city was simply amazing. I had really great friends.

Answer 1

HI

Take things as they come.....
First of all dont get bogged by anything.U get something, you relish it .... Try for a change acting like u like your new friends... Keep your old friends in touch the ones you like, the ones you played with... Keep them close to you... This will make life more joyuous.. to make ur position with ur new friends more comfortable, try an outing with them even if u dont like them, it will give you a new dimension on your friends.after all not all people are nice in all situations....

Regarding the coaching classes, i would suggest you to quit them.Reason with your parents with overload.Tell them the truth. If they are not getting you, make your favourite teacher to tell your parents..If that also doesnt hold good, Try some tricks like boredom, simplicity etc..

And we are here for being ur friends...


Njoy
Regards,
ALMIGHTY

Answer 2

Man chill out, I had similar conditions like you to an extent, believe me, your parents are right, you are now in the 8th grade, why dont you give it your best for the next couple of years till you get into a good university,then do whatever you do..because you would have gotten to the safe side and now you could have fun and believe it or not you will appreciate your parents more than anything, look at it from the positive point of view, imagine your parents were the opposite, what may you have been? a failure, parents make miracles in their children, these gifts you will know exactly what they were for, isnt it easy for your dad or mom to sleep and watch tv instead of making a pain in their head and taking so much attention on you, and it is your future, not theirs, and they have more experience than you in life and want you to be the best of the best.
From the moving point of view i was also like you, i moved school each year, and believe it or not i was like you hating everything in the new thing, till a time comes and you will gain love to ppl automatically to the level that you will feel v happy and in the same time you will love seeing your old friends, take it also from the positive side, i now because of this thing know lots of ppl in many places all of them are v good frnds, it is an advantage that these conditions force you on knowing new ppl, this will make you much sociable and delicate with ppl and you will know it when you grow up, take it from a college boy :D tc man hope you enjoy yourself, and more info im me

Answer 3

I would suggest that you make the most of what you have. There is no use crying over spilled milk, like in this case we cannot do anything about your family moving. So thats that.. nothing can be done about it. So make the most of what you have.

Life is beautiful, it depends from which angle youre looking at, for eg. some ppl treat change as a chance and some as a threat. there are two ways of looking at everything, for eg. u shud be grateful that youre good at studies, there are some who arent and want to be just like you. at the same time, youre a very normal kid because you want to do fun things with friends and have a life of your own.

count your blessings! ur parents are worried about your consistency and this is normal with brilliant kids, but try explaining to them that you want a balanced life, all studies and no play make jack a dull boy.

Enjoy life and all the best! dont worry.. its just a phase..

Answer 4

Join a club. Tell your parents joining a club will increase your chance of getting into college.

It's true. Colleges review their applicants based on academic AND non-academic aspects. Everybody can score straight As as long as they mug. But not everybody can score straight As AND be a star athlete. That's their mentality.

When you join a club, you get new friends who share your interest. And your parents won't be able to complain.

As for the coaching classes thing... Tell them it doesn't work and prove it to them. Ask them to give you a two months break from it and make sure you score as good/even better as/than usual. Prove to them that you can maintain your grade just fine w/o the coaching classes. Then tell them you understand and appreciate their good intentions but its making you very unhappy and that they should save up the money they are spending on these classes for something more important instead.

Good luck.

Answer 5

Buy a webcam to chat with your old friends until you get some new ones.

Read everthing you can find on 'assertiveness', telling your parents firmly but calmly what you want to do with your life. Its your life, not their's.

Get some new hobbies and interests - learn the guitar/singing, join a swimming team, salsa dancing, go-kart racing, etc. Tailor this what you like. Try things, even if you don't know that they'll be fun. You don't know till you try it. Ask for ideas on here.

Search for previous answers on here about making friends, using the 'Search for questions' box. Its really all about fitting in, identifying who's the leader of any group you want to join and what the rules are that he sets down, the appearance and behaviour of the group, etc.

Try to be someone that people like to spend time with - positive, friendly, keen to try new things, someone who keeps the mood cheerful, etc.

Familiarise yourself with every facility and fun-place in your new town. Whenever anyone says 'Shall we go to X', you'll know what they're talking about. Also, you can invite people to go to places or do things if you have all this knowledge.

For finding a new grilfriend, see the SIRC guide to link.

You may need cash to do new things. Ask for ideas on here on how to earn some (jobs, working online, selling stuff on eBay, etc).

Read up on starting and running a business. Maybe you'de prefer that to college. Personally, I'd advise you to get a good education though. Not getting one really restricts your job options later on and women and people in general may think you're a bit of a loser without one.

Try to travel/take a vacation overseas at an early an age as possible. Learn a bit of another language to talk to the locals. It really opens your eyes to new possibilities and ways of thinking.

Try not to give your parents a hard time by being a 'difficult teenager'. We all go through moody periods when our parents treated us as children but we wanted the freedoms of an adult. You get in life what you can begotiate, not what you deserve. Learn to negotiate with your parents, about how much time to spend studying or having fun, staying out late, having a girlfriend, etc.

Do one new thing every day, no matter how small, or go somewhere new.

Answer 6

Well,I NEVER do anything I simply don't want 2.You should do the same,don't get me wrong,you SHOULD study if u want 2 achieve sthing in ur life,but,I mean,when the hell will u have fun if u wont have it now????????????????????????????
Life is only one,and as I said,do whatever you WANT 2 do,not because your parents told u 2,but because u decided 2 do it.
YOU HAVE YOUR OWN BRAIN 2 THINK WITH !!!!!!!!!!!!!!
(And your parents gave u brain so YOU can use it,not them,after all,your parents sent u 2 that class because they think u have potential 2 b a good person with a good job.Don't waste that away.)

Answer 7

This too shall pass. When you're in 8th grade you think things are going to be that way forever. If I were you, I'd bury myself in studies. Is there a course that you have trouble in or especially like? Become the best at it. I promise you that when you are in that good college, you will look back and laugh at this.

Answer 8

your parents know that it is very important nowadays to make good studies so thats why they want you to go to best possible college
when you grow up a little more you will understand how right thry were
in a few years when you go to college you will live exacktly the life you want
untill then trust your parents on what is the best for you

Answer 9

hey u know what? i was exactly in d same situation! oh god life was HELL then. no good frnds..of course my parents werent aftr me 2 study but thats ok. i think they r putting too much pressure on u.why dont you talk to them? just maintain your calm... shouting will just make matters worse! nd as 4 frnds....u cant do ne thing abt it.r'nt there ne frnds which r kool 2 hang out? look out nd mebbe u'll find'em. life is like this. nd if ur parents still dont undrstand..if u have a counsellor in ur skl, ask him/her to counsel ur parents. all d best...hope ur life improves soon! all d best! :)

Answer 10

Start sucking again.