I am so intelligent it makes the world a lonely place as I can't connect with people, anyone feel the same?

Question

I feel like a fox in a herd of mentally deficient chickens.

This isn't designed to provoke. I have an IQ of 163 and the average IQ is 100.

I also have an astounding inability to relate to people.

I wanted to see if there was a connection between the two.

The fox and chicken line was probably a bit arrogant I admit.

Answer 1

it is not uncommon for extremely intelligent people to lack social skills! It is also not uncommon for the intelligent people to be more likley than the general population to suffer form mental illnesses. it could be that their lack of social skills plays a role in their development of mental illness!!

I don't understand why people are being critical of your question. I quess they are jealous that you are intelligent. I wouldn't say I am intelligent as my IQ is only about 128 so i'm just slightly above average, but like you I feel that I can't connect with people. Lots of people, to me, come across as moronic, and self-asorbed! And as a result I cannot be bothered with them! But I guess that is just my opinion!

Answer 2

Ever thought that people might a hard time connecting with you too? The fox and chicken analogy does sound a little arrogant and saying such things will do little to endear you to people.

I'm not trying to be insulting, I can be a little snobbish, when it comes to the subject of general ignorance. Sometimes people are intimidated by those who are aloof. Try getting to know others regardless of there IQ, like age it's only a number.

There are sometimes when I have looked at the people in my town and think, I don't belong here and I am so much better than everybody else!

I'm have been guilty of complaining about the level of their intelligence. However, in reality I haven't even tried to get to know them. Some of them seem really friendly and I probably look really miserable and arrogant to them, so why would they want to get to know me?

In such case I don't think it is they who are ignorant. Do you?

Answer 3

In Plato's dialogues he reounts Socrate's philosophies through dialogues between his teacher and others.Through it we discover why Socrates was christened the smartest man in the known world by the oracle at Delphi. Namely, he admits that he knows nothing. He also contends that to find happiness you must find the essence of virtues (honesty, loyalty, fidelity, bravery) or truth. All this is equvalent to knowledge. Since man can not know everything to find the maximum happiness he must seek these truths.

Every action of anyone is the result of that man trying to find happiness. Why do you eat? Because you will be full and then become happy. Why do you steal? Because possesion of materials will make you happy. Why do you go to school? Because it will give you education so you can get a good job make a lot of money so you can take care of yourself and smoke cubans on your yaht. A question that he would pose is, will that make you really happy? To answer this question you must seek truth, knowledge.

It follows that then you must use this knowledge to actually make yourself happy. You contend that you have a considerable amount of knowledge, yet you are still unhappy. Still there are things you must not know because you are still very lonely. One thing you have not acquired sufficient knowledge about is the way of social interaction. If you did you would get along with people and thus not be lonely or feel the need to post a Yahoo question to show off your intellect and outstanding IQ score so you can attempt to satiate your thirst for human interaction.
I say to you seek knowledge and use it to your advantage.

Answer 4

People who mistook your question for arrogance have missed the point. And the fact that you unwittingly provoked people is an example of your difficulty. There is a connection between heightened logical ability and forms of autism, without the latter necessarily being socially disenabling. There are different types of intelligence, with emotional intelligence featuring amongst them. The problem may be that you don't have a clear understanding of how your behaviour or comments might affect others. Not sure what you can do about that except to try and treat it as a logical conundrum. (EG : If I say this, the possible interpretations for 'the other' are a,b and c.) Maybe you could read up on some psychological theory too.
There are plenty people to connect with, if you look beyond their lack of intelligence as you see it, and concentrate on their kindness, sense of fun, or generosity, for example. One last tip, don't ask what they bring to you, but ask yourself what you bring to them. Good luck.

Answer 5

Don't let your intelligence make you feel alienated from people.
I am sure that you can find the ability to get on with all people, if you try.
Why not contact MENSA, and see if they have some sort of social group that you can join. If they do not, then I am sure they will be able to give you some advice.
There are plenty of intelligent people on here that you could possibly get to know. Put people to the test and ask an intelligent question. Whoever gives an 'adequate' reply, send them an email and strike up a friendship.
I have a degree in social sciences...hardly rocket science, although I do find it difficult sometimes to find people to have an intellectual conversation with. Thank goodness my partner can. However, people do not always have to be 'on the same level' as you for you to enjoy their company. I wish you all the best! :o)

Answer 6

Funnily mostly I feel like a herded chicken,prey to deranged foxes.
Intelligence aside, I cant connect with many people either, I don't detect anything in your question which puts down others and yet you have received quite a basketful of defensive abuse so that rather proves your point.
My experience is that people get wobbled by difference of any kind and will respond with knee-jerk reactions. It isn't personal; nothing to do with you, only what is inside them being projected out. Compassion for others' limitations helps, and also searching for people of your own kind. I have a handful of people with whom I can interact as my real self and who are intelligent enough not to be abusive.It is enough.
Just one good friendship is enough and find the way not to let the rest get to you. Yes emotional intelligence has to be counted in the mix and that is rare as hens teeth too and riven with moral politics and conditions, in my experience.
It is good to be positive, see the world as it is and not how you would like it to be and deal with it however you choose which helps you live your life..

Answer 7

Mm, some of us are born with a limited autism.

You see, there is a specific part of our brain which makes us feel sympathy and connect with other people (I forget where exactly it is), and this one does not always function properly. On a crude level, if we see a sad face, we feel sad too, however the makeup of our brain and our society makes this vastly more complicated.

If this is serious, I know that sometimes we feel that way, then I'd suggest you try to gain more insights into people, because quite often people act and say things because a totally unrelated thing. It is useful to try to recognize that in people, and that will help you with relating to those people also.

Quite often inability to relate to other people is the result of selfishness and not of high-intelligence.

Answer 8

You asked - so first off this "I am so intelligent" is not cool.

That was the downside now here's the upside....honesty. If you are not just trying to seek attention, then the opposite of that is you are a very honest person which is a requirement of healthy relationships. Doesn't honesty hold value such as wisdom? It's not like you have to trade one for the other in order to love and be loved.

Answer 9

Hey, I understand completely, but here is my experience, stop comparing yourself to average, it is a waste. Compare yourself to someone that you admire, Noam Chomsky and Carl Young are a couple of mine. They have accomplished so much and I am way behind, lagging to keep up. Intelliegence is wasted unless it contributes to the betterment of man. You are cursed in this way, as they say in Spiderman, "with gret power comes great responsibilty". Your mind has to not only solve the problems of our generation, you have to solve the problem of how to insert your little contribution into a culture not ready for change.
The part you mentioned about feeling alone, the truth is, we are all alone, smart or less than, in the end, there is only us and the life we lived.

Answer 10

I understand your feelings, but I can offer no solution. I recently took the PCAT scoring well above the 90th percentile... without any significant effort. It was extremely unsatisfying to so easily score so well. I have spent much of my life listless and frustrated. My personal release from that is physical exertion, an area where I have no advantage whatsoever. I have met only one person (a good friend) who was able to match me on all fronts, without a point of reference to judge yourself against existence is quite lonely and nearly empty. I haven`t slept in two days, so I hope that was somewhat cogent... if not my apologies.