2007-01-04 22:45:28 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
ONLY YOU KNOW WHAT KIND OF CHANGE DO YOU WANT
I THINK THE BEST WAY IS TO BUY BOOK BY THE NAMELY
"SEVEN HABITS OF HIGHLY EFFECTIVE TEENAGERS"
BY:SEAN COVEY
THE REAL TRAGEDY IS THE TRAGEDY OF THE MAN WHO NEVER IN HIS LIFE RAISES HIMSELF FOR HIS ONE SUPREME EFFERT.
2007-01-05 18:45:51 · answer #1 · answered by ISAEINS 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't advise simply adopting other peoples morals, especially opinions, its far better to developed your own, that fit you, this kinda just happened for me though...
Opinions are probably the easiest, just think about different situations, and judge for yourself what you think is right or wrong in that situation... there's your opinions, don't let others influence you too much, but they can be a part.
Experience, I'm not quite sure you can pick up someone else's experiences, I guess you could read books, or blogs etc, on what other people have gone through, but that isn't really having the experience yourself, best just to get out there and have your own.
Knowledge is actually information coupled with the appropriate experience, so you'll pick this up naturally yourself, however taking a course, or learning something new, reading a how-to, now and then can only help, right.
Morals are up to you....
2007-01-04 22:53:08 · answer #2 · answered by Keiko 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off, if you really want a change in your life, you should know that now many of us can help...however, you are on the right track; wanting and recognizing that need for change is a step in the right direction.
Morals to live by are shaped by your own experiences. Have you tried to analyze your background in order to pinpoint what it is you are so unhappy about? Morals, these codes we choose to live by, are developed over time, and certainly do change. My morals, for example, cannot necessarily help you. Doscovering what is important to you does matter and will help YOU. For example, I tend to "cut" certain people out of my life who tend to add little or no value to my life; I was getting bogged down worrying about what they thought and such. Focus on the Self. Make sure you are changing for the purpose of YOUR happiness.
Good luck. Just know that it is an ongoing process. Don't expect to wake up and have true happiness.
2007-01-04 23:28:40 · answer #3 · answered by Siggy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My dear something has happened to you that is making you take a look at your own life and wanting to change it. That is great but, only you can decide how to change it. What are your own morals? Do you feel there is something wrong with them? Everyone has different opinions and experiences, but it is okay for people to share these things together, but only you can decide what are the best changes you can make in your own life. We have all been on this journey and at time we want to give up, but in the end it is worth every minute that it took for us to finally realize who we are. The best book I can refer you to is the King James version of the Bible. Good luck in your journey to find yourself.
2007-01-04 23:43:50 · answer #4 · answered by vadataborn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you keep changing yourself for something or somebody, you have to keep changing until the last day of your life. So fix some attributes which you think perfect and correct from your heart and mind and don’t ever get convinced for that by anybody or in any circumstances . (one of the common attribute of any great people lived or living in this world is that - they select any one attribute or goal and keep working for it till their last end and spend their every breath for that ) . So how to decide which is correct? Answer for this is - which ever you feel correct is correct. (Ask the question to you because you are the only person who you about you better than any body in this world. ) . You have to decide things which you can do and which you cannot do. Other have their own understanding , experience, theorem , calculation and feeling. Don’t get mixed up with it and get diluted. Fix that and start immediately to satisfy your feeling and aims, because who knows , this may be the last day in this world. . naraindran@yahoo.com
2007-01-10 16:03:40 · answer #5 · answered by naraindran kumar 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every action has a reaction. So if you sleep around for example, you will be treated as somone who sleeps around. If you build a relationship on sex, when the passion dies, so will the relationship. People who have been married for decades do not stay together because they look like supermodels, no they have built somthing deeper.
If you are unfaithful, you will feel guilt, and even if you feel that you got away with it, in the long run the lack of value you put on your relationship with your partner means that it cannot last.
So think about who you are, who you want to be, and work to improve.
2007-01-04 22:55:15 · answer #6 · answered by rick360 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Read these three books:
The Nicomachean Ethics by Aristotle
The Enchiridion by Epictitus
Philosophy as a Way of Life by Pierre Hadot
2007-01-05 01:06:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are well settled in life-simplify your living with the income you have, cut down ur wants and desires, and turn yourself towards the Lord. Look for a spiritual Master who can guide you through in your search for the Lord.
These worldly people can never change your life-its good this question has come to your mind, if it is a search for the Lord!
2007-01-05 01:01:58 · answer #8 · answered by anil m 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Without knowing any specifics, it will be hard to give a meaningful answer.
One thing I truly believe is that "you are who you hang out with."
Many people who were raised right by their parents turn a little "wild" when they start being friendly with rebelious and wild friends.
If you feel your life has gone off track, I'd urge you to look at the people you have surrounded yourself with. You might think you're being a "good" influence on them, when in fact, others would give you a different evaluation.
2007-01-04 23:02:45 · answer #9 · answered by chocolahoma 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off I think you are great to ask and think this way.. we should always want to improve ourselves...
I will tell you what I did! and you can do some homework and see for yourself!
I grew up in a church where I was forced to go all the time and did not like it! It was not a good experience for me and so I was not going to do that!
However, I did find a church that was nothing like what my parents took me to and as long as it was a Bible based church that was what I was going to do!
Church to me is a spiritual hospital, one hour a week and I have a class where I get rejuvinated and spiritually connected.
I volunteer at different community services at least every other week.
And I slow down in my thought process.. instead of making hastey decisions I think it out and see how it will affect not only me but others.
I no longer live my life just for me in the moment... I now live my life the way God describes in the Bible with wisdom, achievements and personal goals of all sort but with a humble heart! And even as a servant! It is not all about me and my material wants.. it is about balance and making sure that spiritually, emotionally, psychologically, financially and physically
is all in balance... this is even spread to my intelligence.. things seem to make better sence.. I pray for my mind my vision and my thought processes.. I ask for forsight to be prepared for anything that comes my way.. and I pray for peace in my life so that when a challenge comes my way... I am not out of control!
I am the happiest I have ever been and it has spread to my children that I am constantly getting compliments of my family and people come over so much... I am always cooking for three or more people then what is in my family... no one wants to leave and says my home is so at peace and happy.
That is why I am telling you my experience.. because others tell me and I can feel my life changing everyday.
And always give to some need.. delligate a part of your money to something... money is so important and personal to us.. so start with five dollars a week faithfully and as your heart softens and the five dollars grow.. you will see your money grow!
What ever you do be consistant... and also when people are rude look beyond that initial rudeness... I have done this and realized that some people had just been hurt... or lost someone in death or lost their job.. or going through divorce.
I am now not quick to pass judgement.. Am I perfect?... far from it.. but I love being a work in progress and watching myself grow as much as watching my children grow.
And I listen to my kids.. A good parent isnt just telling your kids what to do! But listening to them and learning from them as well.
And give compliments and blessings everyday! As this will change your heart as well!
Live a clean life... go through your home and clean and decorate it classy and simply! Make the look of your home represent you!
Unclutter it and your car.. and work place and your mind. Start treating yourself as truly a child of God! Protect your body for you, your mate and your children. You are precious and special and a gift from God.. reclaim that and live it!
And thank him everyday for your blessings your good health.. I would say that more people take their good healthe for granted.. They just assume that when they wake up they will see, talk move their limbs.. We need to be greatful for this!
God Bless you and your new you!
Happy New Year!
2007-01-04 23:30:36 · answer #10 · answered by Esther J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okk
so you want to change your life..hmmmn
first thing is try to respect and accept yourself.
then read some books and learn and experiment.
do what you really enjoy doing and dont ask anybody.
but be careful- not to hurt any one.
change you need not to bother about.
nothing is permanent. just allow the change naturally and -smile...
there are few books on this site. choose and read
www.rajmittal.com/blog/osho.htm
copy paste this link nad search.
happy changing
2007-01-05 15:57:05 · answer #11 · answered by shekharravi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋