why do i keep having these disturbing dreams and what dothey mean?

Question

I am 17 years old and every once in a while I have dreams of my dad molesting me or looking at me pevertedly, I'm trying to get away or go somwhere and can't or I'm running away from him. I just don't know why in the world it has to be my father out of all people. My dad lives with me. And when I am in the dream I feel the emotion and fear as if it really is happening. It is affecting the way I deal with my father, it has broken the trust and am afraid to be alone with him, hug him, or wear certain things around him. He's asked me certain questions before like am I wearing any panties under whatever or do I have on a bra and SINCE i have those dreams I found it disturbing. He asked it in front of my mother and I was disturbed and my mom said it's just because he cares and doesn't want me walking around like that, I understand but it's just weird to me. I feel bad because my dreams keep leading me to feel this way and I have had these dreams for the longest.

The thing is I don't think anything like this ever happened between us and I haven't been sexually harassed or have had sex before. Me and my dad's relationship isn't bad either but due to some mistakes he's made [not regarding me] there has been a dent, but we're okay now. He's not mean at all and gives me what I want. I feel ashamed that I feel this way about him

And I try so hard to ignore the dreams and open up but it's those dreams and something that always keeps me from doing it.

I even get suspicious about my little sister kisses him and hugs him, I feel like it's just not right and it's more than what it is. I just wish these dreams didnt have an impact.

Answer 1

Try, Electra Complex - A psychoanalytic term used to describe a girl’s romantic feelings toward her father and anger towards her mother. It is comparable to the Oedipus complex. (And typical in the teen years).
Look up "Electra Complex" on the internet. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Electra_complex

Answer 2

Usually your dreams mean the exact opposite. I had a psychologist tell me this once. See I was molested bye my father at the age of 2. I didn't remember any of it, never had dreams, never knew. Until one day (my dad's a sick f**k) he asked me to have sex with his wife, and if I would take naked pics of myself. And this persisted for many months, even though I told him no, and so on. Anyway one day it all came back to me, and I remembered everything. I'm ok with it, i don't let it bother me, but I have noticed when I have dreams about him they are usually really pleasant, like I love him like a father, and I have a normal relationship with him (which in real life I don't, it a hi how ya doin' type one) or my dreams are of specific things that happened when I was young, but they happen to me as an adult (in my dreams) but they take place in the same spots, and the same things happen. Anyway my point is, you may be having these dreams, because you are actually very close to your father and you look up to him, and you may either like a boy, and or are seeking a man that is similar to your father (meaning qualities you admire). If something happened, you may never know, if your mom wont directly tell you, but a psychologist may be able to help you recall suppressed memories. I think you just admire him and want to have a person (you can have intimately ) like your dad, because it's like every little girls thought they will marry there dad when they grow up. (I'm speaking of little before you know any better) I hope this helps.

Answer 3

Dear one, you had mentioned that there was something objectionable in your father's act with somebody at sometime, which had made a dent in you... Children usually hold their parents in special esteem nay keep as role models and if any bad name is earned by them it is too much to digest for the young one... It is most likely the case with you... you fear in the depth of your mind that he may go to any extent... perhaps the news stories of such freak events appearing in the news etc .... may have added such an impact in your inner mind...

First it is good you have shared your fears with your mother (or only objected to the particular questions of the father?) and with people in this column... because giving vent to strong feelings is good in a way, to reduce the trauma of the thoughts... OK. you may do some meditation (yoga) if a good yoga school is nearby.. it will a lot good... or just pray before you go to bed, calmly, for a good sleep...

If the dreams are still tormenting you, visit a popular hypnotist who could erase any wrong suggestion you had inadvertently implanted in your consiousness... and you will be ok... don't worry... every other person is having some such weird problem... and there are solutions now... good luck.

Answer 4

this might be helpful
http://spirita.blogspot.com/