The check I wrote him 3 years ago was when I was single and was from a checking account I don't even have anymore. Since then, I've gotten married, made a career change, I'm pregnant, etc... life has changed a lot. Last night when it was time for him to pay me back for half the expense of our son's glasses & eye exam, he handed me the check from 3 years ago that he never deposited and said he wanted to subtract that amount from the total he'd pay me. The timing is terrible for me, and would leave me short. Is he being a jerk, or am I failing to make good on an old debt? Should I be held responsible for a check he couldn't deposit given three years?? He argued at length about this right in front of the kids.
2007-01-04 21:49:21 · 11 answers · asked by Stacey P 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He is being such an as* and a jerk, it's not funny. And in front of the children to.
Ask him: How low can you go? How cheap can you be?
It isn't your fault he did not cash the check right?
As far as society is concerned you paid your debt to him but you can't help it if he didn't spend it then. Now it's no good. Too bad.
2007-01-04 22:25:25 · answer #1 · answered by LC 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My responses are simple and to the point!
you wrote a check 3 years ago---the account is now closed. What happened to the $$$ in that account. Obviously that check never cleared so you have the $$$$ or had the money!!!To keep peace you did receive the $$$ back when you closed the account! You should accept that fact and let him subtract what ever it is owed to you. It would be easier to do this than to argue about it and especially in front of your children!
I would paper trail this too and write it in letter form and have him acknowledge your acceptance of this.
I'm sorry but I don't believe he was the only jerk in this equation you also were a bit of a jerk too. You're playing an equal part in this.
Maybe when he went to cash this check 3 years ago----you had already closed the account and left him hanging with NO $$$$$$
Think about it!
Basically you still owe the debt because it wasn't satisfied in the first place! He can however, take you to small claims court with that check in hand and sue you for the amount of the check plus 3x the amount on the check, and court and filing costs!! You make your choice from there.
I think you need to contact the X suck it up and appologize and accept the portion deducted from what you originally owed him. Presenting a check on a closed account is a MISDEMEANOR!!
2007-01-04 22:50:04 · answer #2 · answered by aunt_beeaa 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He is being a jerk! He didn't cash or deposit the check in 3 years, so that is his problem. Actually, I think that the policy is that a check is only good for 90-120 days from the date posted. So, if he waited until now to confront you with it, then he is just plan stupid for that.
If he refuses to come up with his half of the money, a judge may see it differently since he is not honoring his commitment to pay for the kids expenses.
2007-01-04 21:55:48 · answer #3 · answered by Dan821 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not a buddy budy on a day to day or frequent converstation basis. That's cause for trouble. And why all the sudden intrest of making amends with the ex, it's probably not a random thing and just didn't happen out of the blue, things have most likley been going on in the background that you don't know about. What's going to happen is the friendship is going to cause him to slowly shift his emotional energy from you to her. It's just natural. I'm friends with my EX that I dated before my wife. But we are lucky if we text each other once every three months or so and its just to say hi and see how things are going. I really don't have that much of an intrest in having the deep level conversations that we used to have.
2016-03-29 08:42:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is so full of it(I can see why you dropped this clown). One...his "arguement" wouldn't stand in a court, he'd be laughed out. So yea, he's a TOTAL JERK. Next time don't play his stupid game. Cut him off at his ankles before he gets started. Refuse to talk about this in front of the kids, period. GOOD LUCK
2007-01-04 21:56:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Legally speaking a check is only good for 90 days from the day it is written, and he can contact any bank to verify this. if he failed to cash it within that time frame then no it has expired, and if you honor it or not is completely up to you.
Tell him you are not a bank and he needs to take it to one, if they honor it then so will you! ( that will show him because they will laugh him right out the door)
2007-01-04 21:52:04 · answer #6 · answered by just_trump_my_ace 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it just me or are most checks void betwenn 90- 120 days. In my book he's 32 months late or 11680 days too late.
2007-01-04 21:58:45 · answer #7 · answered by ...huh... 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, that's bogus. You paid him that and he let the check go stale. He owes you the full amount due now.
P.S. I can see why he's an ex. What a jerk.
2007-01-04 21:52:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think he has a cheek asking for this money as you gave the cheque 3 years ago and it is his problem for not cashing it
2007-01-04 21:53:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Legally, he assumed that debt when you two became married. Further, the time past is unreasonable.
2007-01-04 21:54:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋