My bf try to put his dick in me and it hurts like crazy, we did a lot of making out but it did not soften the pain. He only get to put a little bit in n he didnt move much. I really cant stand the pain. n does that meant i'm not virgin and wat happens if put in the wrong hole?like he might not have put it in my virigin.
2007-01-04 20:18:09 · 10 answers · asked by Ms Nutzzz 1 in Health ➔ Women's Health
Use Ben Gay.
UPDATE: "Use Ben Gay" is the right answer, that should be a thumbs up. Thanks.
2007-01-04 20:19:58 · answer #1 · answered by Mickey Mouse Spears 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You clearly have taught skin. That makes it harder than someone with elastic-like skin when it comes to defloration. The best way is to get stimulated enough that your vaginal walls release natural lubricant so that it is easier to insert the penis. Also if it is not exactly the hymen that is giving you the trouble you need to relax and let him use his fingers to stretch the muscles or when you don't have your partner practice masturbation with your fingers or a safe object first. If it is the hymen that is the problem, let your partner pinch it apart with his fingers (or you can do it yourself) before trying to have sex. I don't understand how he could have missed the vagina and put it in your anus. That is a very obvious difference in sensations. And good grief anal sex is just wrong and dirty. I don't mean perverted dirty I mean germ dirty. Just avoid that all together. The anus is not a reproductive organ. The vaginal opening is what he should be aiming for. If all else fails give lube a try along with everything above mentioned. Also let him go in a little at a time not trying to fit his full length all at once- that is where allot of the pain comes from. And again make sure you are properly stimulated before even trying or the whole thing will be pointless. Hope this helps. Good luck.
2007-01-04 20:48:47 · answer #2 · answered by jademoon20 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congrats, if he entered you, you lost your V card. Just try to relax- the more worried you are about it, the more those muscles will tense up and the less lubricated you'll be. Doing things that are supposed to make you wet (like making out) are no good unless they actually do! You sound like your pretty scared of the whole situation. If you arn't ready for it, don't do it. Its an incredibly special thing- don't just do it because he wants to! If you're terrified, things won't get better, it will just hurt more. Use plenty of lube- its only a few dollars at a drug store, and well worth it- and take your time. Don't rush things. Keep in mind, sex should feel good for you too, not just for him! Ask him to do a little exploration in that area before he penetrates you agian- finger you a little to get your muscles stretched out and relax you. Try having an orgasm before he puts it in. That will relax you and help lube you up. It always hurts a bit the first time, but if it hurts that much, something is seriously wrong.
You'll know if its the wrong hole. Do a little self exploration- look at the hole he went into, and check out where your anus is. The vagina is in front of the anus- despite what you may have heard, its pretty hard to confuse the two.
Beyond anything else, just remember one thing. If it hurts, don't do it. You have every right to tell him to stop. If he won't be patient with you about it, say no! Its your body, and its your choice. If he won't put in the effort to relax you and make you comfortable with the situtation, then don't do it! Don't let him push you into something you don't want to do. After all, whatever you do now will be with you until the day you die. If he really cares about you, he'll understand or be willing to put in the time to make it good for you. Don't tell him your ready just because you think you should be, even if you arn't. I didn't tell him to stop because it hurt my first time, and looking back, it was a stupid mistake. Sex is an awesome thing if its done right! (and it dosen't sound like he's doing it right!)
E-mail me if you have any questions- i don't mind being graphic or answering specific questions. Just be careful, think things through, and enjoy!
2007-01-04 20:35:55 · answer #3 · answered by paintmeblue719 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make sure u guys do a lot of foreplay before. Because itll hurt more if ur dry. Also make sure he stretches u out with his fingers before inserting
2007-01-04 20:21:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anna M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like anal. You need to relax those muscles for it to be more comfortable...every time you tense up it will hurt more.
2007-01-04 20:23:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe your not ready yet, your boyfriend does not understand the pain you will go through. wait till the right time, stick to petting.
2007-01-04 20:21:51 · answer #6 · answered by Angel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask your mom for cryin' out crap! And don't try anything else until you talk to her..........dayng girl don't play with loaded guns you could lose an eye!!!!
And let's hope your next question is furreal!
2007-01-04 20:20:51 · answer #7 · answered by CluelessOne 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just go really slow and use plenty of lube
2007-01-04 20:19:50 · answer #8 · answered by Alibi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't worry, just relax, and do for-playing before letting him penetrate you, you will feel when you are ready, yours will be moist, this will be the time
2007-01-04 20:21:51 · answer #9 · answered by terry 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
anal
2007-01-04 20:19:10 · answer #10 · answered by bik_ko 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋