what would u do if ur guy friend did this to you while ur asleep?

Question

i stayed over at my guy friends house last nite, we often hang out, watch horror movies and drink-its fun and ive always trusted him. But this time we fell asleep together (fully clothed) and i woke up to find he was touching me underneath my pants - i stopped him and then we both fell back asleep(drink makes me sleepy) and the next day i didnt say anything cos he lives far out and i was worried if we argued i wouldnt know how to get home. he acted like everything was normal
i dont know what to do now,cos i have to see him nearly everyday,i dont want to but its unavoidable-should i try ignore him, should i ask him why he did that? please help, i feel lost

texrad, i fell asleep next to him on the floor fully clothed near the end of the movie...and we had been drinking which is the reason i fell back asleep..it did not fully dawn on me what had happened til i woke up, plus he was a good friend i thought i could trust him

Answer 1

don't do or say anything unless he brings it up. in the meantime just keep being his friend.

Answer 2

One of the first things you should do is stop getting drunk and sleeping (even fully clothed) with a man. You are setting yourself up to be touched when you are unconscious!

So, do not sleep over at the house of a man and also don't drink so much that you don't know what is going on.

You are really fortunate that you did not get raped, frankly, if you had been sexually assaulted (and maybe you were) how would you have expected the Police to take you seriously? You watched movies, drank alcohol and then slept on the floor with a man and then you think they would believe you if you told them that he sexually assaulted you!!!! You couldn't blame them if they thought you consented to sex with him.

Really, girl, protect yourself and don't ever put yourself in that situation again! The only person you should trust to keep you safe is YOU!

Answer 3

I think you should speak to him about it. He's not really a friend if he violated you like that. I don't think you should hold this in any longer. He knows exactly what he did to you and it was wrong for him to take advantage of you like this. He's lucky when you woke up sober you didn't kick his ***! I know right now you're some what confused as to what to do, but I think it's important that you ask him what happened the other nite. Frankly, I think he's playing you and that's not right. Perhaps this was something he always wanted to do or felt inside and he was afraid to talk you about it. Instead he took advantage of you when you were most vulnerable and you trusted him. He could've raped you. Please be careful. Talk to him, you'll feel much better.

Answer 4

talk about it and just tell him that he shouldn't have done that.. if the situation makes you uncomfortable then u have to get it off your chest.. he might have done it because he was drunk but one is not too drunk enough to not at least have a semblance of knowledge with what he or she is doing.

i have no qualms sleeping with guy friends in one bed even if we came from drinking because the rules were laid out verbally. but how close he is to you is the question and how important is the friendship to him is also something you have to know. if he is willing to risk everything that u have been through together just to get his hands on u then i guess he does not really treasure u especially if he was too nonchalant about it..

don't agonize over it.. just stop seeing him for awhile. if he apologizes then good, but don't ever let ur guard down again like that.

Answer 5

If someone touched me anywhere anytime I didn't want I'd say something like if you ever do that again, I'll stop coming over here.
Why you have to see him all the time, I don't know because you don't explain, but he may be more forceful next time: like rape. Do you want that to happen?
I would not ask him why he did that. I would just start watching that I didn't get drunk with him as he's not safe and cannot be trusted.
Watch yourself. If you play with fire, you're going to get burned!!

Answer 6

First of all I don't think I would have drink with him again.
Not until you decide what kind of relationship you want with him/knowing what he did.

I would feel like he crossed a line w/out premission. I would be pissed. Yes I would confront him and ask why he was doing that.

If you don't feel comfortable then avoid him.....you must follow your feelings.

Time will heal or Time will desolve......its yours choice....now knowing what he did.....you take the next step whether it will happen again

best wishes

Answer 7

You should find a moment to raise subtle questions that might also explain why this might of happened.

Is there a girlfriend involved? poor thing.

or you could grab the bull by the horns and draw a clear picture so he knows where he stands so it don't happen again, and hopefully not destroy a good friendship.

good luck with this one.....

Answer 8

This seems to be really worrying you. I'd sit him down and talk to him. Tell him that you felt uncomfortable with what happened and that what he did was unacceptable and out of line. If he is truly your friend he'd apologize for what he did. Hope everything works out!

Answer 9

Just calmly bring it up and explain that it bothered you and ask him why he did it. Also, was he drunk? That could explain why he did it. Or also, was he asleep when he did it because sometimes people will actually initiate something like that in their sleep. It's rare but it's always possible.

Answer 10

Go ahead and ask him, thats the best way to get over it. Next time worse things may happen and if you dont ask him, he may think you were enjoying it

Answer 11

You were SLEEPING with the guy......what do you think? You obviously didn't get TOO upset, you stayed in bed!

Don't get me wrong, I'm not ripping ya. But if he was drinking too, maybe he just got carried away. You should just talk to him about it.