Hw can i prove my girlfriend is really pregant, refusing to do a test with me and we recently broke up?

Question

I recently broke if off after a nightmare 4 years, she had an abortion last year and we are both moving to different countries in 2 months i broke it off as really couldnt stand to be with her any more, as we argue and fight too much, and we clash so much but she just doesnt seem to want to give up and i cant do it any more - she threatens me with hurting herself if i leave
she has now told me yesterday she went to an abortion clinic for a consultation and that she will do it on her own as i finished with her - i really didnt believe her at 1st as she has a Rod in her Arm, we have used Morning after pills and Condoms
I really dont know what to believe any more - she is not very well at all and has seeked help in the past with doctors but i just cant have a baby with her and unsure if its really true or she is just trying to keep me

Answer 1

i was im a simlar situation my now ex didnt believe i was pregnant so i left him he soon came crawling back saying how sorry he was cause he had seen my belly even his mates told him i was lying cause i wouldnt do another test for him as i think my word should be good enough !!!!!!! now he is crawling big time and his mates are eating their words im 18 weeks with twins by the way

Answer 2

Taking into account her behaviour as you describe, she is probably making it up to try to make you stay with her. If you were using several methods of various contraception, plus the fact that while you were together she didnt want a baby (hence the abortion) it is unlikely she would have let herself get pregnant now. She sounds like she is trying to manipulate you back with emotional tacticts, playing on the fact you would feel torn what to do & a certain sense of responsibilty to fill (even if not by choice) if she was pregnant. As you state - she is not very well, so you need to treat the situation with caution. You are going to need to try to reveal the truth but unfortunately its probably going to take being extra nice than backing off to do this! The more angry & hurt she is from loosing you the more she will stick to the story. If you can try to become on more amicable terms once again (you dont have to commit yourself to anything with her) she will after time calm more, especially if you are calm too. Carefully suggest to her that a baby isnt what the two of you wanted, you dont need to give her any hope you will get back together but make it clear that the idea of a relationship between the two of you doesnt include a baby. She may realise the 'baby' story will NOT win you back & then admit it is a tale (if it is). You need to try to get her to talk to somebody proffessional again or at least people close to her, it is too hard for you to try to deal with it alone. All the best.

Answer 3

I doubt if she is pregnant. She sounds very unstable to me and you are better out of the relationship. If any girl is pregnant there is little a guy can do one way or the other - she will either have an abortion or keep the baby. That is why i suppose you have to be so careful not to get a girl pregnant! Tell her you don't believe she is pregnant unless she does a test in front of you and it is positive. Tell her you won;t be blackmailed into not leaving, but DO tell a member of her family that she has made suicide threats. Then go, and don't look back! Don't stay in contact.

Answer 4

Well, this is a really tricky situation now isnt it, i myself am currently going through the same exact thing.


But let me tell you some thigns ive learned throughout this whole ordeal.

IF you said she refused to take, or even show you a pregnancy test, im highly doubting shes pregnant.

The only thing that you can do, is somehow keep in touch with her either through internet, phone or her friends, to find out if she starts to show. If she dosent ure in the clear, if she does, then u just had ure situation worsen three fold.

In case that happens, you need to keep watch on her like a hawk, and make sure that you dont mess up and deem urself unfit to have any form of custoday over the baby.

Or she can choose to have an abortion, which i know its stupid, but you have no say in.

Dunna if that helped ya any, but there ya go

Answer 5

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Answer 6

I don't really think that pregnancy is the issue here. You've obviously been through a lot as a couple, and she's having a hard time accepting that you just aren't meant to be together. Her pregnancy claims sound like a desparate attempt to hang onto you, it sounds as if she's looking for some security in a very uncertain stage in her life. For her sake and your peace of mind, you need to ensure that she has support from someone who can be there for her when you've left - talk to her family, or one of her friends who will help her take responsibility for herself, and make her strong enough to cope on her own. And if there really is a child, it will be better off being born to a loving, stable mother than to be stuck in the middle of a destructive relationship.

Answer 7

It is very possible that you could respark some feelings. You should sit down and talk with her. Being a good father takes lots of work and it doesn't just involve 9-5 hours. There is no vacations etc. My childrens father and I split up while I was pregnant too. I allowed him in the delivery room and he was very helpful. We ended up getting back together. I don't know why you broke up, but talking to her may help the problem. Try to remember all the things that she can't or shouldn't do because she is pregnant and you don't do them either. I wouldn't get your hopes up tho!! Good luck!

Answer 8

This may not be the answer that you're looking for, and I apologize in advance.

For one, people like her use the threat of suicide to keep people like you from leaving. I would still leave her, but call a family member of hers to intervene in the event that there's a suicide attempt (which I don't think there will be).

Let her go to the abortion clinic. I have doubts that she's pregnant, with all of the birth control that the two of you have been using. If you want to retain what's left of YOUR mental sanity, let her go.

If you're fluent with condom usage, and you've seen her take the morning after pill on the times that you haven't been, you have nothing to worry about with an exception of how you're going to walk away from this crazy woman.

Answer 9

It does sound abit odd. Whats with all the secrets. Just think thou if she is and you wouldn't want her to be then if shes does have an abortion then that doesn't change anything with you. If shes pregnant and you want her to keep it then you need to find out when she is next meant to be going to the abortion clinic then turn up and talk to her.If she doesn't want a baby there's nothing saying that you can't bring it up.

But it does sound to me that she is lying to keep you with her. When you shouldn't listen to her. People like that only bring you down.
Just ignore her completely and you will never now if she is lying or telling the truth but you will able to get on with your life with out her having any connection with you. If you do want baby then wait for it to be with someone who will make you happy not just because it happened

Answer 10

Don't let her win, if she is pregnant there is naff all you can do about it and will se the lump bulging soon enough. If she is lying then who cares? You are in the clear.
I split from my wife and she did a similar thing. Claimed she was pregnant, named the baby (not even knowing the sex) and after I aked for proof she mysteriously had a miscarriage about two days later.

Also threatened to slit her wrists on Christmas day...that was all good fun, ruined my day and she knew it would - think that was the plan.

Answer 11

If she is going to get her second abortion, then let her. Sounds like yall don't need any kids.

If she is wanting you to pay for the abortion, then tell you will pay for it, just so that will be last thing yu do for her before you leave, and you'll leave on good terms as an upstanding man who takes care of his responsabilities.

If she don't want you to pay for the abortion, then why do you want her to take a preg test?

If she is threatning to hurt herself, she is just trying to get you to stay. Her tactics won't work, being that you are moving in 2 months.

It sounds like it's a good thing that yall are moving on and getting out of this horrid relationship.

My advise to you is to stay single for a good long while, enjoy being by yourself, enjoy the quiet times, enjoy time that is not filled with fussing and fighting. Stay single!