but work under the table to hide the income? Or don’t even bother to have visitation? do they honestly think they are a good parent?
2007-01-04 19:33:42 · 11 answers · asked by Yvette B yvetteb 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I have a deadbeat ex who does exactly what you've described...hiding money, wants visitation on HIS terms only...that sort of thing. Then, loves to attempt to dictate how I live my life when he can. Yes, I do believe they think they are a good parent to some degree, but it's largely a huge lack of character. My current husband told me something that makes so much sense to me. I wanted to take my ex back to court (which I haven't done in 6 years) to make him accountable for lots of things and my husband said that the court system could not force him to have CHARACTER. My girls know that I'm the one who provides for them and takes care of them and I have never said an unkind word against their father. In the end, children know who has gone the distance for them and who hasn't. And, the parent who hasn't has to deal with that child at some point in their life.
2007-01-04 20:00:31 · answer #1 · answered by Jenny S. 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-30 01:25:21 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think lack of responsibility in terms of not taking care of your children. I'll give you an example of this:
Someone I was once friends with (we'll call him Ron) slept with a woman years ago (I'm not sure if it was a one night stand or on again off again relationship). Clearly neither one of them are responsible people in terms of making sure to have protected sex. His child's mother is a drug addict who doesn't work. Ron is an alcoholic and beats his girlfriends. I met Ron when we worked together (I was his boss at the time) and we kept in contact for a few years after I left that job. It wasn't until sometime later that I found out some of the things he has done (or was doing). He also was a womanizer and slept with at least one of his coworkers. He also worked off and on, but never had a stable job. My understanding is he owed quite a bit of back child support as well. Last I heard he was in jail for beating up on his current girlfriend (not the baby's mother) who he's lived with for the past 5 or 6 years. When he was released, where did he go back to? You guessed it.
Now, at the same time I've seen him with his little girl and I honestly believe he cares about his child. At the same time, I believe once you become a parent, your responsiblities change drastically in terms of putting all your efforts into caring for your kids. The problem his that he's never grown up enough to learn that he needs to wise up, stop drinking, take anger management and get a stable job so that he can care properly for his kid.
Again it goes back to taking responsiblity for your own actions.
2007-01-04 20:55:39 · answer #3 · answered by milwaukiedave 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Every situation is different.
but if there is no barriers to stop someone from seeing their child and being there like they should then they are the ones missing out on that childs life. Their lost.
Most do think it's ok that they do those things because they are only thinking of themselves.
2007-01-04 20:02:17 · answer #4 · answered by LC 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it seems like you have an agenda or issues you aren't talking about. i have paid many thousands of dollars in child support and bailed my son's mother out of many situations that my son nor i had any control over. for you to generalize is inappropriate. i visit my son often and, yes, i think--no, i know, i am a good parent.
i am sorry if you aren't getting your child support and sorry if he is not seeing your child. don't blame all men because of the inactions of the guy you picked to be the father of your child.
2007-01-04 20:02:30 · answer #5 · answered by sinned 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they still love for the child they just dont are too lazy to actually be a parent.. this is like with dog owners u love ur dog but sometimes u dont feel like takin him on a walk or giving him a bath
2007-01-04 19:36:26 · answer #6 · answered by errmorgan91 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I really believe most of them say things like this because they feel as if they say it enough times eventually they will even start to believe that they love their children.
2007-01-04 20:42:35 · answer #7 · answered by 2sweet4u 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Feeling love for someone and actually taking care of them are two different things.
2007-01-04 20:00:56 · answer #8 · answered by negrito con sabor 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It makes THEM feel better about themselves! hahahaha
2007-01-04 19:37:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Man, are you angry or what ?
Love does not have to conform to your blueprint.
Live and let live !!
2007-01-04 19:43:50 · answer #10 · answered by luckylady 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋