is there a recommended frequency for sex? i've heard that the most healthy is 3 times a week. Less or more than that is unhealthy. is this true? i 've been involved in a sexual relationship with someone for 6 months(i was a virgin before that :d). sometimes i feel like i am not attracted to the idea of having sex with him anymore(i can't get horny). it's not that sex isn't good..i've had my share of orgasms and we've always added sugar and spice to it, trying out new positions. what's wrong?
2007-01-04 19:20:18 · 15 answers · asked by katz 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If you're not getting horny and you're worrying about how many times you have sex…. I think it's obvious the romance is gone out of the relationship.
I mean two people there really hot for each other will hump like bunny rabbits. Sex once a day certainly wouldn't be unusual with this new romance…. but like all situations that will calm down. There is no normal frequency…. it's more about how both of you respond to each other. There is no such thing as less or more healthy…. get that completely out of your mind.
Sex can still be good and you can still reach orgasms but that does not mean you're still attracted to the person you're with. Sex and love are not the same thing….. otherwise hookers would make any money. So you're having sex in orgasms but the deep feelings are disappearing.
Keep in mind also this is your first sexual relationship. While I don't wanna tell you to cheat…. if the relationships not going anywhere the point is moot. Find someone that you're attracted to… someone that is making you horny… someone you got the hots for. Come on to them and get them in bed…. were the results hot and exciting?? Or just as dull? Sex with someone new age usually quite exciting and heart pounding… something unfamiliar something new.
It concerns me that you're trying to ask you sex unhealthy… too much….. it seems like you want to legitimize a reason not to have sex with her boyfriend so often. I think you need a change of scenery not a change of how often. And if you do get someone new with your attitude of adding sugar and spice… new positions and your ability to orgasm… your new guy will be having sex with the daily…. at least for awhile !
Mark
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2007-01-07 15:34:44 · answer #1 · answered by GirlsTellAll.com 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, I have to say I have see this side of the road a couple of times... and you really have to ask yourself if it worth it to you to keep going on like this! I have been married now for a little over 6 1/2 years... and well, ehhhh, sex is sex. It's not like the first year or the second. But I was told by many people that this happens to girls my age.. yadda yadda yadda! I'm 27 by the way... not that old in my eyes... but old in others I guess. But any-who, this is only something you can answer for yourself. I don't think there really is anything you can do other than what you stated you have already done. Just keep trying new things! If you love this guy ... it'll get better! :-) Good luck with all!
2007-01-05 03:28:40 · answer #2 · answered by Jenn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
jennlhut12 - sounds like you don't have a man that knows what he is doing! Sex is ALWAYS great (ok, not evey time - but mostly)
In general, there is no such thing as "too much sex" - the only determination is your desire to screw. If you lose your desire, take a break - or discover whether you are really attracted (sexually) to someone else.
Nothing is "wrong" with you if you have lost the desire - something is wrong with the relationship. 90% of sex is in the brain! Especially with women. You have to be turned on in your head, before the urge manifests in your crotch.
2007-01-05 03:36:12 · answer #3 · answered by Michael, Count de Berçon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
who told you such nonsense?a healthy sex life is one where both partners are satisfied.that could mean once a day or once a year,as long as you both are having your needs met,then you are fine.However,if one has a higher drive then the other,then conflict can begin.the key is to keep the lines of communication open.showing an interest in the satisfaction of the other,even if sex is not the final outcome,can help immensely to help your partner feel satisfied.
2007-01-05 03:30:39 · answer #4 · answered by otterscantdance 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both of you should take your minds off sex for a while. Enjoy each other's company in other ways. Go out together. Talk together. Get to know each other better. Kiss each other and talk about love. The sex will come naturally later....
2007-01-05 03:25:05 · answer #5 · answered by Femi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I was younger, I did it every single day for 2 months straight! I wish I still could. There is no such thing as too much sex. You just need to do it with another guy.
2007-01-05 03:27:12 · answer #6 · answered by tarzan428 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're not feeling that you want sex with any man - it really isn't good news. It means you need to start looking around your place. Try under the sink - in the toilet cistern and all the drawers - you've lost your sex drive and need to find it!
2007-01-05 03:23:42 · answer #7 · answered by Agony Aunt 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe sex is to much? take a break for a lil bit then try again it may change and if its still tha same and the relationship is just about sex then drop him and find a real relationship that is more then sex and ull prolly find that more "fufilling"
2007-01-05 03:23:19 · answer #8 · answered by sara ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
bored? Take a break, see how you feel after 1-2 weeks.
2007-01-05 03:22:21 · answer #9 · answered by The_Answerer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you don't have love for this person. Love is most important in sex.
2007-01-05 03:34:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋