I am speaking in the sense of our relationships: if you know you are being emotionally controlled, but you can't stop coming back to the manipulator, why is this?
2007-01-04 18:57:02 · 11 answers · asked by using_info 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Low self esteem. You don't think you are worth anymore than the "stuff" this person is dishing out to you.
Also, manipulators are just that....they can swing their personalities any which way they want...as long as they know it will win them what they want.
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2007-01-04 19:00:28 · answer #1 · answered by maamu 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because the manipulator has been such an integral part of my life for so many years that something like Stockholm Syndrome had set in. I care deeply for him and don't want to see him hurt. I think the thing that would hurt him the most would be to leave him. We'll see how this last chance goes. It's kinda like 'tough love'. It would be so much easier if I didn't care about him.
In general, I think that in trying to please others for so long, I quit trying to make myself happy and ask or even demand things that I wanted or needed. In doing this, my self-confidence and self-esteem were lowered and I became a doormat. Once a doormat, it takes awhile to find that hidden self-confident person hiding in myself... but she IS re-appearing.
2007-01-05 00:24:51 · answer #2 · answered by Genie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This happens for so many reasons one being that the manipulater has taken away all the self esteem that one had, and by then the person being manipulated thinks that she/he can not stand on their own thats why we keep going back to these cowards. the other reason is that the manipulater is insecure and for him/her to feel secure is to abuse and manipulate hence feeling in control. if you are being manipulated by anyone in a relationship get out now before it is to late, leave the loser alone.
2007-01-04 19:17:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-26 20:40:34 · answer #4 · answered by donenfeld 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because we love this person so much that every time it happens we think it will be different, however things eventully go back to the same way. but when we are apart we miss them so much it hurts.
2007-01-04 19:22:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
youve found something you really love and cant let it go no matter what it does to you but one day you are going to wake up and smell the coffee have some and just flip(sorry for the ghetto term but go crazy)
2007-01-04 19:01:54 · answer #6 · answered by cute amber 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself...what heppened in your life to permit yourself to be treated like this......then make up your mind to change. It is possible to change.
It is part of maturity....learning to not take abuse.
And sometimes learning to be alone is part of it.
You can do it
2007-01-04 19:01:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's called codependency. the best thing to do is seek help, for yourself if you want out, or for both of if you want to make it work.
2007-01-04 19:15:08 · answer #8 · answered by whitepeach 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you love that person and you think that no one out there is better than him/her.
2007-01-04 19:31:52 · answer #9 · answered by missprissy1004 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its kinda like the "love is blind" kinda thing.??
2007-01-04 19:05:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋