Im NRI, married & stayed 5 days in india. from day one she is away from me, due to their parents compulsion she came to UAE, and stayed alone ..
now she is demanding money for divorce & reported to women club in india stating im not good.. She stayed alone in UAE for 2 months..
Help me how to proceed
2007-01-04 18:07:38 · 20 answers · asked by tirup p 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
On the onset ill say you married a wrong lady. As far taking divorce or getting divorce only after 4 months of marriage is not possible in any of the Acts dealing with marriage & divorce in India until & unless you are Muslim married to a Muslim lady according to Shariet. Only thing you can seek is annulment of marriage on the ground of her impotency or lunacy or her being pregnant at the time of marriage by someone else or consent to such marriage from you was taken by force or fraud, only under such conditions you can file petition for annulment of marriage under the Hindu Marriage Act, 1955 if you both are Hindu & married under this Act. But if you married under the Special Marriage Act,1954 (court marriage) then in addition to these grounds you can also get benefit of additional grounds such as non consummation of marriage owing to the willful refusal of the wife. You can move the petition for annulment within one year of your marriage only. Now as far money is concerned she will be demanding it even in the court as permanent alimony & maintenance and even during the pendency of any petition in the court as maintenance pendente lite which you cannot escape. As far her making complete against you in any women organization/police/protection officer is concerned it is possible under the anti dowry Act, or domestic violence Act, or even a complaint before the court under section 498A Indian Penal Code for cruelty against you. These provisions of law are being misused by all such ladies & even if they don’t want to their parents or advocates suggest them to do so in order to extract maximum money from the husbands. These are the real legal position as far as your case is concerned. My suggestion settle down with her the money aspect individually without putting any one in this dispute & take an undertaking that she has no complaint against you regarding issues like dowry (neither you asked it before or after marriage), cruelty & domestic violence is concerned & she married you by force & fraud committed by her parents & she was never interested in marriage with you nor she has consummated this marriage with you since the date of marriage. Let her give this undertaking in the form of Affidavit attested before 1st class magistrate. Then only you can proceed for annulment of marriage in the family court.
2007-01-04 21:48:10 · answer #1 · answered by bisexualmale s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This all depends on your culture, and how high up "family values" are within it. Now frankly this is an easy situation to understand. In my marriage my wife had several other men that were in and out of her life. I found out after the third man. Despite all of that, I forgave her and tried to keep things going. But other issues were there that couldn't be resolved. The best thing you can do is get your sexuality back. Stop thinking about her and this other man having sex. If she honestly wanted him, she'd have left you. She may be staying out of loyalty rather than out of love, and that's probably what's hurting you. She may be trying hard, but it could be because she knows she hurt you and doesn't want you to suffer. If counseling isn't doing it, then you need to start focusing on your deep down emotional feelings towards your wife. Obviously you haven't been able to get past this. The sexual infidelity is probably the worst because you're partly possessive of her. Once you realize that you can live without her, is when you can start having sex with her. I know it sounds odd, but the reality is that this is a woman you trusted, had faith in, and emotionally bonded with. So her affair goes against all of that. If you view her sex with this other man as something that really meant nothing to her, other than it satisfied some urge she had; then you can also realize that she is still with you, but you don't need her. If you don't need her, then its simple. Sex will come back. The bond won't be there the way it was, at least for awhile. Regardless, the steps you have to take are simple. Just sit down and talk to her about why she felt attracted to this other man, what it was that you couldn't do for her that he did (other than money), and what she can do to heal your heart. Perhaps in finding out all the reasons and eliminating them, then you can start all over again with her. Then maybe she can win your trust back, win your faith back and perhaps form a new bond with you. Finally, start spending more time together, getting reacquainted. That helps because it brings you two closer together emotionally. But for right now, you have to assume you can live without her, and then build it all back again.
2016-03-29 08:34:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey...try open another bank account in UAE, with draw all the money directly and put in the new account. Donot transfer via account. Keep a few amount in the old account. show ur account details to ur wife. tell her this is what u have there. u can not live with force. try getting a strong proof that she has connection with someone. prove it in court or befor her parents and society. u can become free. Keep a proof that what ever u r doing to her to prove that u r good to her.
2007-01-05 16:42:41 · answer #3 · answered by SureshkumarYVS from hyderabad 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a very confusing story.
I´m sure this marriage was arranged by your parents & her parents...
She did not wish to marry and she doesn´t like you...
She wants to get out of a marrige she didn´t want. Just let her go...
By the way, staying in another place doen´t mean that she is unfaithful to you.
I don´t think, that she can demand money from you. But to be 100% sure it would be best to consult a lawyer.
2007-01-04 21:16:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anita P 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She can not demand money until unless you start the divorce proceedings. If she goes to court she has to give solid reasons for a divorce and you need to defend and counter attack on the plea of her having affairs with others. You should be firm on your facts first.
2007-01-04 18:37:02 · answer #5 · answered by Tony 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you said , if it is true. Than you are going in very critical position. First thing. Hire some detective & find out what she is doing with his boy friend. If she is having any extra matrial affirs. Than just go to any police station with your lawyer. In UAE it is very big offence. For such extra martial affairs.
2007-01-04 23:11:55 · answer #6 · answered by rockylike007 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have sufficient evidence that she is having an extramarital affair, hire a good lawyer and apply for a divorce. Don't pay her a penny. She is after your money only.
2007-01-05 05:20:39 · answer #7 · answered by Modest 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u love her.if not why r u taking tension.if she not had done any courrt case of divorce.then first u file the case that i want to live with my wife.but she is not.she is living alone from last two months.as she willnot ready to live with u.if she has no solid reason of divvorce.then u r safe.
as u say she was away from you from the first day.then u can case on her.that she is not interested in u.
else consult with a best lawyer.hope he will suggess u.
2007-01-04 18:19:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she dos not like to stay wid u, den y do u insist upon.. leav her n select a suitable match 4 urself..
2007-01-04 18:15:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need a good lawyer and india needs a men cell just like women cell
2007-01-05 04:35:38 · answer #10 · answered by rockstar_superstar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋