My fiancee gets so upset at least once a week with my sarcasm and threatens to leave, actually packs all her things and goes to her mom's. Before she leaves I usually tell her "see you in a few hours" which proves true time after time. When is she going to actually follow through on this or is this going to happen forever? I think it is comical but it is starting to get a little old. Do you think she really wants to but can't? Why does she do this?
2007-01-04 17:49:55 · 34 answers · asked by El Tigre 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Thanks for all the input and advice but now there is a new twist on this re-occurring saga...we have a beautiful 6 month old child. I really want to call her on her bluff and would love to not be there when she comes back but I cannot stand the thought of not seeing my little girl everyday. I'm too attached to her. And if I did do that, I know my fiancee would do all she could to make it difficult for me to spend time with my princess. What is your advice now?
2007-01-04 18:06:45 · update #1
I can fully understand where your fiance is coming from here. Sarcasm gets REAL OLD REAL QUICK. You need an attitude adjustment with the way you treat her. Believe me one day she won't come back.
2007-01-04 17:52:50 · answer #1 · answered by desert_rose1274 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to move, change the locks, buy a new car so she can't find you, whatever, to get away from her. This relationship has no valid future, only aggravations. But, why are you sarcastic with her and over what? What is she upset about all the time, and why can't she just communicate like an adult about it? Do you feel like you can talk openly and honestly with her? If not, she is not the one for you. She is just using you to have a comfort zone relationship. Ask yourself if it is perhaps your ego that really keeps you in this relationship, and not her being crazy and coming back each time? You know, is it you that needs to know you are just so irrestistible that she can't stay away? This is not a lasting relationship. This is a comfort zone, and those are scary places to psychologically leave. Change is scary, man! When the serious things in life hit: babies, bill collectors, illnesses, she is going to be gone on you too. Next time she leaves, you should be ready to move quickly. As soon as she is out the door to her mother's, you freaking move. That will shock her good, and then you can see what she does next. If you don't want to be in a relationship that is making you unhappy any longer, just get out of it. Just take a deep breath and do it. Life is to short to be unhappy, man! I hope you are in a situation where you can move and get away from her. I'm sorry if you still have feelings for her, because it has got to be extremely painful for you, but honestly, there is no solid future ahead with this one. Know that I am wishing you the best of luck in the future!
2007-01-04 18:01:31 · answer #2 · answered by Genius Squirrel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That sounds sooo childish , I think you & her need to have a talk because obviously there are some issies that have her stressed or she loves you but is growing tired of childish remarks which you know piss her off on purpose , so it sounds like it is 50/50 on the nerve wracking part . If your going to be in the relationship be an adult both of you & stop the childish who can piss who off & who can get the madest becuz it sounds like your having too much fum making her mad. If you & her are going to be together u need to talk 4 real & quit the bull. Shew sounds frustrated but if she's going to leave she should not play games about it either. If the relationship isn't good leave it alone & move on.
2007-01-04 18:03:19 · answer #3 · answered by pammybear1971 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, if you two can't get over playing small games like this and be a team, you'll never be able to get through the hard issues in life. It's about a balance of give and take in a relationship. If you care about her, you need to let her know by COMMUNICATING with her without sarcasm. If you do not care about her, then what are you doing wasting your precious time? You two might need to find someone you are more compatible with.
2007-01-04 17:59:44 · answer #4 · answered by Junebug 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be for many reasons. However, my best analysis of the situation, seems to be she finds the specific method of sarcasm you use to be offensive. Depending on what you say, and how you say it, inflection and wording can have a profound effect on someone.
The largest reasons most fights start to begin with, is when someone is unable to communicate clearly what they are intending to, and then become frustrated and evacuate the situation.
It might be wise to ask her why she does this, but more importantly what specifically about what you said and/or how you said it, offended her.
2007-01-04 17:54:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would guess that part of her wants to go, but part of her wants things to be good between you. Perhaps she just wants you to say to her 'please, dont go' so she knows where she stands, its hard with sarcastic people to know where you are at times and you need reassurance. Why are you sarcastic with her? Do you realise it makes it worse? obviously so does her leaving every week, but couldnt you try telling her how you feel instead of resorting to sarcasm? Try counselling,but this is not a situation you want your baby to grow up in, its pretty unstable by the sound of it. Good luck I hope you can work things out
2007-01-04 18:25:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u love her than make some changes or suffer the consequences. one day she will leave and won't come back. u don't really sound as if it bothers u in the least, it is not comical it is a plea for changes. one day she will get up the courage and she will just be gone, or she will find someone to cheat on u with.
2007-01-04 18:07:55 · answer #7 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You loves you dearly, but your sarcasm is getting too much for her.
I dated/lived with a guy that dd that all the time too. His famous words as he was going out the door (each time) "This is IT! I am not coming back." I got tired of it too. The last time he did it, I changed he locks and blocked all of his calls. That was 4 years ago--he hasn't been back--LOL
SO I do see your side of it too.
M
2007-01-04 17:54:14 · answer #8 · answered by maamu 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She must be frustrated and doesn't know how to express herself with you. Maybe you two should get some pre-marital counseling so you can communicate well. And you should stop being sarcastic because it's obviously hurting her feelings. It's also not good for your daughter to see her mother being hurt. The older she gets the worse it is for her. Eventually this is the type of relationship she will seek out for herself.
2007-01-04 17:52:30 · answer #9 · answered by smile 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sarcasm in any relationship can be relentlessly aggitating, she wants you to realize what you're doing, whether you are in the wrong or not, she wants you to stop and think about what you are saying or about to say....and, yes, if it doesn't change, she will leave for good when you least expect it....my advice is, sit her down and have a long chat about what bothers the both of you and try to resolve the problems the to the best of your intentions
2007-01-04 17:58:10 · answer #10 · answered by julia n 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋