Who would you choose...?

Question

You're 27,and sort of desperate to marry. There are two guy, one who you know will be a player even after marriage and maybe even catch AIDS but you love him. He wants to marry now. And the other, you know will be a loving husband, maybe even honest, but you arent sure how you feel about him. He wants to marry later

Answer 1

Definitely not the player. As for the other one, don't marry him either when you are not sure how you feel about him. Later, if you come to realize that you do love him then by all means, marry him.

Answer 2

Why be so desperate to marry anyway? Be strong on your own. He sounds like he just wants his harem. A piece of paper is not worth AIDS, you already know he's trouble, so why bother at all? If you are seriously considering this jerk, he must really be large below the belt. That would seem to possibly be his only redeeming quality. Trust your initial feelings and wait for the second one to be ready to commit with you. The best bet is always to go with the plow horse over the show horse. The show horse only has a few good years, while the honestly loving hard worker gives you safe security for years to come. I think you should take it slow, develop a relationship with the second and cut yourself some slack on feeling hurried about any decisions in your life. You are strong, and I know you will make the right decision. Good luck!

Answer 3

if u can see what a person's character is before u marry them, and u know someone is going to cheat on u, and cause u grief, than he would not make the better husband. go for the one who is honest and loving,even if u think u may love the player more, don't marry him, as u will suffer your entire life with that one.

Answer 4

I would not choose a player. If I felt that there was a potential with the other guy - I would pursue this opportuinity, but if after a while it didn't seem like things were "clicking" or falling into place, I would pull out and look for other options elsewhere. There are always other fish in the sea.

Answer 5

take the one that wants to marry later i know it hard but you have time in life marry a man who you know to be loving . it's never easy living life. I two wish two be marryed but won't because you no matter how you feel rush things i not trying to be a mother it just fact. hope u pick the right choice don't be easly played.

Answer 6

OMG...WHY would you want a player? If you married him you would be miserable because of his cheating....and as you say...what might you catch that comet won't wash off? Your best bet is the man that wants marriage later....that you think will be a loving husband.

Answer 7

I'd definitely get to know the second guy to see if he could be a potential husband. I would never go for the first guy because I will never knowingly be with someone who will be unfaithful. Either way, don't rush into a marriage because you will likely end up regretting it. Good luck :)

Answer 8

dont be desperate to marry, it may not last if you are..i would go with bachalor #2..even though hes not ready for marriage, have patience..he will be the one who will remain faithful and loving and will give you what you want out of life..you may love #1, and you know he wants marriage now, but you already have said what the outcome will be with him..be careful with your decision..talk to #2 and see what kind of future the two of you hold..good luck..

Answer 9

Well, if you go with the player, you are setting yourself up for hardship and lots of tears....I wish I had a loving husband...and wish we would have waited to get married...Don't be desperate for marriage...it isn't all that it is cracked up to be...Stay free, FREE!!

Answer 10

Dont rush into marriage let your heart make the decesion about who you will spend the rest of your life with. This is a decesion that cant be entered into lightly so take your time so you have no regrets about the decesion that you make and the person you choose to spend the rest of your life with.