We have only been married for 4 months but we are getting a divorce how do i cope with that? its so hard all i want to do is cry .......
2007-01-04 17:20:33 · 16 answers · asked by mommyof3 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
OMG! 4months...thats it? Wow... i feel bad..for you... look...maybe if you find another woman and love her the same (keep her longer) and if you still love the other woman...stay friends at least with her...dont just gve up...evey one has a some one
2007-01-04 17:22:32 · answer #1 · answered by CottonMusk_095 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You learned fast. That is all. When the world started getting modern, the codes that kept people married for ever fill away. Now you can do what is more real. You can learn the hard way. Experience is the best teacher, if you get counseling at the same time. Give it a shot. A counselor can shorten your ignorance about couples in a very short time. Just ask questions and listen.
2007-01-05 01:26:26 · answer #2 · answered by zclifton2 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm sorry... It must be very hard... But look at the bright side as much as you can. If it had to happen - it was better for it to happen now, rather than after having had dragged on for years and years. This can be a learning experience - a difficult one, for sure, but a useful one nevertheless. You will see that you can overcome things you'd never thought you'd be able to. Take care of yourself, reach out to your close friends and family; you will weather this storm, and will be stronger and wiser in its wake. Many people have been there, but have bounced back, and found ways to be happy again, and to lead meaningful lives. My own (ex) husband walked out after 5 years of marriage; in the beginning I didn't know how to go on - all of my dreams and plans for the future lay in ruins before me. But life has a way to make things right. Six years later, and after many adventures, I am now married to a wonderful man. I am amazed at the good fortune that allowed us to meet and get to know each other. Believe me - I am not exagerrating when I say I am thankful to my former spouse that he had left when he did. I've grown so much. You will too. Take it one day at a time, please don't be alone during this period of transition, find people to talk to - friends, relatives, therapists, priests, whatever works for you. People will help you if you reach out to them, I promise. Don't feel like you have to go through it alone. Good luck.
2007-01-05 01:32:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Be thankful it is ending now (if it is bad for you two), and you aren't even more emotionally stuck 3 1/2 more years down the road when it is harder and kids are involved (like me..stuck). Crying is normal, just stay strong and do what is right for YOU. You'll be okay. Four more months from now, you'll be thankful, and may even have your soulmate by your side.
2007-01-05 01:30:37 · answer #4 · answered by next PO 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
im sorry for what going on with you. but after 4 months you are
getting a divorce then why did you get marry . sound like both
'of you need counseling to fiqure out what going on.
2007-01-05 01:23:42 · answer #5 · answered by luckystar 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe u can talk thing over with her.
it can be that u r not understanding each other, tell her how u feel and ask her how she feels. if she really isnt rite for u.
maybe is it the rite thing to do, so u can both get on with ur life. just make sure that u do not make the same mistake as u did, if u have 1. i just hope things will get better for u guys.
good luck!!:)
2007-01-05 01:26:14 · answer #6 · answered by dance_babe_xoxoxox 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If there is no way to keep your marriage going you may want to try some type of grief counseling or something like that to help you cope. I feel very bad for you, this is sad.
2007-01-05 01:26:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Why are you getting a divorce? Was this marriage at first site? Was it like one month you are just friends?
Then the next month you are boyfriend and girlfriend?
Then the next month you both are each others fieance?
Then the next month you are both engaged?
Then the next month BOOM you are married?
THEN THE NEXT MONTH YOU WANT A DIVORCE?
Look Just try to keep this marrage cause it is not worth it.
God Bless you
And I will be praying for you.
2007-01-05 01:28:46 · answer #8 · answered by AARON BLACK 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
That kind of stuff happens all the time. No since in staying together if there is going to be constant tension. Have a few shots.
2007-01-05 01:24:07 · answer #9 · answered by MiKe 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i think you all need to talk. and maybe talk to some one who stay neutral for both of you i am not sure what happed but when you love some one any thang can be worked out. if not you get up keep your shelf occupied and try to enjoy your life and don't leggier on some thing that is not there any more. and be more careful next time.good luck and god bless.
2007-01-05 01:33:05 · answer #10 · answered by janelle p 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
at least you didn't get that deep into it and waste all your time before you found out he wasn't the one for you. **** happens girl, if you lived in el paso you could come over and have a couple drinks with me. i hope you pick yourself up and become a stronger person because of this.
luv, samantha
2007-01-05 02:11:44 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋