How do you tell a friend her son is stealing pain pills from her ?

Question

I was at my friends hose for new year ,I saw her son going throughher purse ,I thought nothing of it at the time ( my boys get in mine all the time) but the next day she said she was missing half her pain pills from her purse,Later he tryed to sell them to my son who told me it was not the first time and he thinks he has a problem.

Answer 1

I would keep my mouth shut, she will figure it out sooner or later.
when she does just be there for her.

lets say that you do tell him and she confronts her son.....do you really think that your and your son's name wont come up? It is human nature for a mother to want her son to NOT be on drugs. If he gives her something to hold on to she will cling to it.
Of course the son is going to lie (have you ever met an honest theif?)...and deny it!
During this arguement, one of the first things that your friend will say is that 'someone' said that you tried to sell them drugs.
Her son is no idiot.
THink about this with me.....
Are any of the other people that he tried to sell drugs to friends with his mother?
If not then it will be obvious TO HIM who the 'someone' that told his mom is (in this case your son) because all of the other kids would say either yes or no to the offer but they would NOT tell their mothers.
Hell, your son did not even tell YOU the first time this kid tried to sell drugs to him!
If he is already messed up on drugs do you think he wont hestiate to get even with your son for telling on him?
Why put your son in harms way?
He is STEALING from his mother.
If he has no more respect for HER than that, Imagine what he would do to you if he found out that you were the cause of ruining his good thing. He might even have drug using friends that count on him .... do you think that they wouldnt be mad at the person who dried up the supply?
Besides, if he is SELLING the pain pills, he is probably using the money for other stuff too. Harder drugs? who knows!

Protect your family and say nothing. She will find out soon enough!
It is actually rather obvious by his actions anyway. THe only reason she does not know who did it is because she is in denial.
NO one who is a real thief steals HALF a bottle of pills. THINK ABOUT THIS....
A real thief would steal them ALL. If he was not seen stealing half of the bottle how could get caught stealing all of them. It is therefore obvious or should be with some serious thought that is is someone that your friend knows.

If she makes a police report, they will tell her just that (inside job).
If the pain pills are a controlled substance, when your friend goes back to the doctor for more of them, the doctor will probably tell her the same thing too (as he denies her prescription and contacts the police as mandated by law).
If you just feel as if you have to tell her, type her annyomous note and state your suspicions there.
At least it will put a thought in her head and possibly make her more suspicious of her son's new strange behaviors.
YOu owe YOUR son, not hers. This kid and or his friends could be dangerous

Answer 2

I think if you emphasize the fact that you are most concerned about the welfare of her son & avoid saying things that sound as if you are questioning the integrity of her as a parent, that would be best. The majority of parents out there would want to know as this behavior typically leads to worse things. Tell her you are there for her & ask if there is anything you can do to help. Basically, be her friend without making her feel less of a parent.

Answer 3

Honesty would seem to be the wise choice here.... I mean if you think about it, wouldn't you rather tell her that now than risk having to tell her at some more difficult time... like maybe at her son's funeral.... after he OD'ed on pain meds............ Just think about it that for a sec.... I'm sure you'll go with the wise choice... And think about this.... what would you want your friend to do if it were your son stealing your pain meds...? I'm sure you'll go with the wise choice.... And yeah... it might mean your boy and hers won't hit it off well in the future... but hey, they won't be able to hit anything together if something bad happens to the son.... Go with the wise choice.... You'll sleep better at night... and so will your friend's son.

Answer 4

Straight up and tell her straight just like you did us. Tell her you are concerned about her son. Just make sure you come off as being concerned and not lording it over her. This kid is headed down a dangerous road and if something isn't done it will be horrific later. I would be really upset if no one told me about it. You should also thank your son for being open and honest and telling you about it.

Answer 5

dont tell her. I agree with the other poster who stated that by doing so you could be putting your own family in jeapordy.
No one would believe this about their own child. SHe might accuse YOUR son of lying after she confronts her son and HE lies to her about the incident(s)
She will find out soon enough
Just be a good friend to her during this time.
SHe will need it!

Answer 6

For sure tell her about him trying to sell them to your son. She can figure the rest out.

Answer 7

You need to tell her because kids don't realize that they are messing themselves up. They think they are indistructable. It might be an uncomfortable thing to do. But you are doing her a favor in the long run.

Answer 8

This needs to be brought to your friend's attention immediately before her son or someone else ends up getting hurt.

Answer 9

I would just call her and tell her. Ask her not to disclose the source of her information if possible - but she absolultely needs to know that. It can be a start of something very serious, and has to be dealt with a.s.a.p.

Answer 10

Tell her. "Your son is stealing your pills from your purse. I have witnesses!"