Do you think it is wrong to spy or snoop in your 16 year old things?

Question

I have a 16 year old daughter whom I worry about. Some of her choices are not in her best interest, so I snoop around sometime.

Answer 1

of course you should!! the truth is most teenagers are not making good choices for their life and are not going to share that information with you so if you don't by the time you find out it will be too late but unless you find something you really need to bring up about her or her friends don't use any information against her or she will know what your doing

Answer 2

What you are doing is interfearing into the private life of other person. She has all the right to do what she thinks as requirement for her at that age. Each individual with no gender disparity do this. No need to panic. You are reading this message from a person whose 16s were snooped and spied by parents and do you know one thing, the more you spy and snoop she will get more ways to hide from you. Just leave it. Things will be allright at the appropriate time. I guess you must be at your forties. When you were young at your privacy you also might have done something that was not at the best choice of your parents, perhaps they might not have snooped around, and if they had, that was wrong.

Biological requirements, and changes that take place in the body of the individual some times make them to do something that was at the best choice of the elders of different generation. Hence, just ignore it and get along. People at that age sometimes (many times many do that) even masturbate. Just ignore it and get along. She may be watching prone movies in net. Just leave it. If she knows that you are aware of it, that will create embracing to her. Either she will be affected psychologically, (complex) or she will change the venue with her friends, which is more dangerous than the current situation. There is no need to panic. The the bottom line, spying and snooping the 16 year old things is wrong.

Answer 3

I don't feel it is because you could loose what little relationship you have with her. I found out my mom was doing it and our relationship has never been the same since. Mistakes are meant to happen it is how people learn. You have to trust that the things you thought her in life are strong and she is a strong and powerful young women. Talk to her and trust that she knows right from wrong cause you put it there. If she finds you snooping through her room she will know that you have no trust or faith in her and may go do some of the stuff you don't want her doing in the first place.

Talk first....snoop last.

Good luck.

Answer 4

One aspect is that you would be interfering with her too much. I can bet she will definitely come to know. Secondly if you do not snoop I am sure you will feel insecure as what she is doing. In this age I do not think there is anything to snoop around. If you talk to her and make her understand that what ever she does she should inform you Act like normal friends. My cousin was being snooped and she felt it very bad and would talk to me that she is being watched. I finally spoke to my aunt and everything was resolved. She is no longer watched as TRUST has been built between them. Give her some liberty and help her out in any manner you can. In fact the situation should not arise where parents need to snoop. We are in the 21st century. Change yourself.

Answer 5

An informed parent is a good parent.

You may call it snooping, but I prefer to call it intervention maintenance.

Of course you should talk to your kids about your suspicions, but how many 16 year olds do you know that frequently open up about doing things that they shouldn't be doing?

She has apparently shown in the past that there are things she has done to eliminate your trust - until she proves that she deserves it back, you have to check on her.

Trust isn't a right, it's a privilege.

Answer 6

. Im 24.. I think sometimes, if you have a good feeling that somethings up with her.. then you should snoop to make sure she is not doing anything to hurt herself.. like drugs.. unprotected sex. She will thank you later in life, but def not now.

Answer 7

try to be your daughter's friend, she is at a stage where your being a friend would be more useful to her rather than being a mom. n then you wont have to snoop around, she will open her heart to you. But you will have to put in a lot of sensible effort and patience.
it is difficult but not impossible. so take it easy.

Answer 8

A good mother snoops and snoops carefully.There is so much going on this world we have to proctect our kids.Just make sure you also keep in touch with her and let her know you love her.make lunch or dinner dates this way she'll know also when something does happen I can come to mom.Oh yeah if you find anything you can't let her know.You gotta be able to pull it out of her.Of course unless its a gun or crack.(god bless)I pray you never have that experience.good luck and God bless!

Answer 9

I think it is absolutely fine. Being a parent one always think in the best interest of the child, only the child fails to understand the same then but surely realises the same when he/she has own children and thinks the same for them.

Answer 10

Wrong she's going to do what she's going to do.Theres not much you can do to prevent this.If she finds out now you've been snooping it might ruin your relationship in the long run.She's practically an adult.Don't push her away.We all learn from our mistakes.She will too.