2007-01-04 17:07:20 · 21 answers · asked by AnGeLiCa d 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
suffer in silence...
2007-01-04 17:08:56 · answer #1 · answered by Sory 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u may think your in love with the other guy, and that u no longer love your husband, but in reality your just going through a rough spell, of course the new guy is going to seem exciting, and it's going to feel right, but what happens when u leave your hubby, and this man doesn't turn out to be everything u think he is right now? if your married than before u become involved with another at least get a divorce first if u are sure u have tried everything to save the marriage, should never leave a marriage because of another person, if u want to leave the marriage it should be for better reason's than u are in love with someone else. every marriage is going to have problems, and there are going to be times when all is not wonderful, but things aren't going to be wonderful with the new guy always either.got to think long and hard before u leave your existing marriage for someone else cause u feel u aren't in love with who your married to anymore.
2007-01-05 01:24:39 · answer #2 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can look at it in one of two ways:
1) You're stuck. Pine away for the other guy, soak your bad self in gobs of regret and pools of desperate emotional grief.
2) Get back to why you married your husband in the first place and work on that relationship with all the energy that you have instead of wasting it on this other guy.
Your call.
2007-01-05 01:13:53 · answer #3 · answered by SafetyDancer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop talking to and being with the other guy. Use that energy you were giving to the new relationship to communicate and try to reconnect with your husband. Tell him that you and he need marriage counselling, and if he won't go, go yourself and learn what it is that is drawing you to the other guy and what is the problem in your married relationship in your thinking or in your husbands. Stop telling that other guy the stuff you should only be talking about with your husband and a marriage counselor. Stop calling him, stop texting him, stop using him as a way to distract yourself from the problems in your own marriage. You are building soul ties with that man each time you share your thoughts and feelings with him when they should be shared with the one you pledged to be faithful to.
Take this advice to heart or you will shipwreck your marriage.
2007-01-05 01:19:15 · answer #4 · answered by No substitute for privacy online 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get over the other guy and focus on falling back in love with your husband. Someone else is not worth tearing your marriage up for. Get marriage counseling, stay away from the other dude until your feelings calm down.
2007-01-05 01:11:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i would personally say i married because of a reason this man i married is a wonderful man but i made a choice resite the words that were on your wedding day over and over again and say i have made a choice i love my husband and my just be using this guy to just make my day i think u just like him cause he dont stuff your husband use to do.
2007-01-05 02:16:27 · answer #6 · answered by mary ann 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
teeheehee - reno was the other guy for 12 yrs! and we were best friends. when i finally realized what i wanted in a man after leaving my husband i let him know that i loved him too.... we have been dating since last may. he is incredible! nothing like my husband at all. and yes i am separated heading for divorce court oneday. just don't feel like dealing with all the paper work. but i say GO FOR IT!
2007-01-05 01:11:43 · answer #7 · answered by renosgirl2006 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know since I don't put myself in that situation. I am married and I took my vows and I don't put myself in that situation where it becomes a problem for me.
If I'm going to see other guys and can't committ yet, then I am not ready to be married.
2007-01-05 01:20:35 · answer #8 · answered by peppermint 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all, you dont give the full detail that any one can decide but see, depend on your situation if you are in love and he really loves and if your heart & mind both say that he/she can maintain your whole life and if you are not happy with your present husband or wife than you have to clear the situation with your husband or wife that you are in love and you can't live with her/him. take divorce and get married with whom you love beacuse pyar ke bina 4 din jine mein bhi kuh nahin or pyar ka ek din hi kafi hai. but don't ditch your self. beacuse most imp. thing is you have to maintain your self respect.
2007-01-05 01:15:32 · answer #9 · answered by shalluarora_9 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Till death do us part... what part of that don't you understand? Marriage is a joke these days. You're probably just bored and have a teenage-type crush on him. Stay with your husband.
Oh and use at least SLIGHTLY proper grammar. Geez.
2007-01-05 01:11:33 · answer #10 · answered by Principessa 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
remember you got married if you wanted to live the single life you should have not got married what would you do if your husband was asking this same question on yahoo...
2007-01-05 01:29:34 · answer #11 · answered by trinavanilla 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋