See I have wrote once about growing up but now there is a different asect. See my mom is my best friend and I am hers. A few years ago she was depressed and didnt have any friends. Once I got older, I took that place and now I am best friends with both of my parents. But now my boyfriend wants to move out and get a place of our own and he wants to get it in a different city, for a change. Now I am scared that my mom will go back to being depressed and they wont have anyone to hang out with. She doesnt want to get a job because she has my two sisters to take care of. I;m so worried about her getting older and being lonely and I cant bear to think about it. CAn someone give me some advice?
2007-01-04 16:50:01 · 8 answers · asked by brandi_webb25 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I understand your dilemma, and I know moving out is a very difficult decision for you. But it is time for you to live your life - don't let it pass you by. If you sacrifice your life for your mother, you will eventually become bitter and angry, and your relationship with her will fall apart anyway. You can move out, but still make frequent visits and phone calls. Send your mom a card a couple of times a month - happy mail always cheers the receiver. Living your life apart from your mother doesn't mean you have to exclude her. Good luck with your future.
2007-01-04 16:59:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't tell him any thing, just leave him and go. if he threatens you do not be scared what can he do to you. You can be with your friends or your parents when you come out you needn't be worried. if you think he is not the right guy just leave him what so ever it happens. you will get a right reason to tell him because of this reason only i left you.
2016-03-29 08:31:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course, I think you should move out and be with your boyfriend if you really want to. Your parents raised you to live your life. Your parents will survive. You can set up time to do things together, all 4 of you, and you can make trips home to visit.
2007-01-04 17:53:34 · answer #3 · answered by Terry Z 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You aren't alone. A part of your mom will always be with you. No matter where you are. If you would like to help your mom, live your life to the fullest and be a source of inspiration for her. Is there any better way to help someone? I believe she looks up to you. It takes time, but it's worth it.
2007-01-04 16:57:06 · answer #4 · answered by b36152 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's admirable your concern for your mom, but you have to move on, a life to live. You are a crutch for her, and she has no motivation to get back into life. So in a way your sort of hurting her. You will still be there, you can phone and all.
2007-01-04 16:56:06 · answer #5 · answered by Clipper 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes...if ur boyfriend really loves u...then he wont want u to be away from ur parents..did u tell him the story about being best friends with ur parents..if not tell him..im sure he will change his mind and u can get a house where ur parents live..and tehn u can visit tehm all u want....or have ur parents move where ever u guys move....
2007-01-04 16:54:47 · answer #6 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call often and tell to visit it's gonna be hard on both of you.Not just becase she was depressed before. But her baby is moving away
2007-01-04 16:55:05 · answer #7 · answered by tastyflow 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go ahead and move out, but don't move too far.
tell your boyfriend that it's important to you that you stay by your family so that you can help them.
if he's a really good guy, he'll accept that and deal with it.
2007-01-04 16:52:53 · answer #8 · answered by lauren, duh 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋