I am a store manager at a grocery store; I just hired my daughter?

Question

I am a store manager at a grocery store; I just hired my daughter who is her first year at college. Now, we were never were close when she was a kid. And working on becoming closer now that she is older. But it seems everything I ask of her to she asks why? She does it but with attitude. She also embarrasses me in front of my employees when I am trying to talk to her about something job related.

I need some advice on what to do.

Answer 1

Fire her. That is what my dad did to me; sent me packing from his business. And I had to search for 2 months for a job,

That's the problem with close family members in a business/public environment.

Maybe you can have a chat with her but I must tell you that as a person get's older, they will become more affirmative. So, it is important to impart decipline early on.

Answer 2

I'd say, "Dear daughter, I love you and so will answer those questions when we eat dinner together tonight after work. Would you please do as your manager is asking you to do. Thank you." and do not let her waste your time. If the problem persists you should apologize and say, "Maybe I didn't give you a clear idea of my expectations of you as an employee." Then list what you qualify a good employee. Ask her after the list (without attitude but sincere concern...)"... is this what you want to do because that is what I need to hire?" This will make it clear what you expect or you will have to replace her and it is her decision, not yours. She is old enough to know that and if she doesn't you will give her a valuable lesson in "cause and effect". A good and loving dad doesn't always make their kid happy but they ensure that their kids will have the habits to make themselves happy.

Answer 3

It would be best to set her aside and outline the expectations as an employee and although there is a personal relationship standards still apply. It needs to be clear that her behavior is unacceptable and can lead to reprimand. I understand that you are developing a relationship with your daughter; however it is unacceptable for you to have to tolerate this type of behavior just because she is your daughter. It also sets a very bad example among your other employees and it is also possible they may pattern her behavior because you have allowed that type of behavior to continue.

I have worked under my mother for 10 years… Currently she is a CEO and I am in an Executive position. We have a clear understanding that at work we have a professional relationship and she isn’t ‘Mom’ at work. I am an employee and do not have any preferential treatment… I am under the same policy and standards as everyone else. She has made it clear when I am at work I am not her daughter which I completely respect. I do not address her as Mom at work and do not allow others to reference her as my mother at work. If I ever displayed that type of attitude with her I would have been reprimanded accordingly with possible termination.

If afterwards your daughter’s behavior does not improve and she continues to be disrespectful to your position of authority then I recommend termination… Of course document each situation appropriately. It may be an uncomfortable position but I feel that isn’t a position that your daughter should be putting you in and should have the common decency to respect your position.

Answer 4

Personal behavior should not be in a business enviroment. Your daughter may feel like she's being pushed to and is letting you know she don't like that. If you let her by embarrassing you in front of other employees that's not good. Maybe not having relation working at same place may not be such a good idea. Sometimes it just does'nt work out. There are no easy answers,you know what you should do and yet........

Answer 5

You need to try and treat her the same as any other employee. It's better for her and you in the long run. Her fellow employees see her getting away with stuff that they can't and that will look like favortism. Try talking to her in private and let her know what you expect as her boss. You love her as a daughter and always will but at work you have to be the boss. Tough spot to be in. Hope it works out.

Answer 6

I know that you are trying to do the best what you can, for me you are the Hero!

Sometime we always forget that they aren't live in our way, our perspective and our moments.
What you has to do, not seemly just a worried about her own future, again what you think just to do the best for your daughter, or you just concerned because of she is a women? or because she is your little girl?

Why she act bad in front of your staff? Never ever think she want to against her parent! and should you accepted it as the way she grown-up?

Nepotism means favoring relatives because of their relationship rather than because of their abilities, if a manager employed or promoted a relative rather than a more qualified non-relative, that manager would be guilty of nepotism. Some biologists have suggested that a tendency towards nepotism is instinctive, a form of kin selection.

If she has proven as qualified employee... again, i just want say "you are the proven HERO!!!"

Answer 7

tell her you would not put up with that from another employee and you won't put up with it from her.