we dont get to see each other much so we are coming up with new ways to fulfill eachothers "needs". He says its okay for me to hook up with another girl, and i would, but thats still cheating to me. right? and IF it is cheating then maybe he doesnt love me as he claims, OR hes doin his own thing down there? GOSH maybe im just paranoid .......or need to get some
2007-01-04 16:39:50 · 25 answers · asked by ishybug03 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
he comes home like every 3 months, plus we have web cams so we have our own little fun, still not human touch
2007-01-04 16:46:50 · update #1
its not like i havent seen him in 2 years!! gosh
2007-01-04 17:04:23 · update #2
Yes it's still cheating, but until he gives you a reason not to, trust him. Being faithful and waiting for each other will make both you and your love grow.
2007-01-04 20:36:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is cheating, and don't let ANYONE tell you to do things that you know go against the grain. For him to say for you to hook up with a girl tells me that he is trying to get the ok to hook up himself and also when he gets home he might want a 3 some, so think real hard on this one, maybe it is time to end the relationship, because once you start entertaining the idea, something is ALREADY wrong.
2007-01-04 16:45:22 · answer #2 · answered by whattheheck 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
why not write your fantasies down and mail to him. my female friend loves them.
anything that can be kept between you two all the better.
as far as the suggestion of another woman for you,
nope not if you have a happy relationship and truly love him.
to love means to be faithful, and the way he sees it,
thats his compromise, not being selfish and not understanding
but to realize women need certain things, he doesnt want you
with a man, understandably. but you have to live with your
decisions if you get with a woman. go to the adult book store, get some adult toys, and satisfy yourself and remain faithful.
your peace of mind and integrity is still intact.
from a womans perspective to another.take care
2007-01-04 16:48:57 · answer #3 · answered by sharma 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys don't consider lesbian sex to be real sex. He would find it hot if you did it, even if he wasn't there. And in reality, it's not cheating if you have permission. But if you would still feel guilty for doing it, don't do it.
I have found that being on birth control lowers my sex drive a LOT, so maybe you could try that and then you wouldn't miss the sex so much. But of course, it might not affect you in the same way. It got rid of my acne too.
2007-01-04 16:43:26 · answer #4 · answered by T.M.Y. 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You hooking up with another girl? are you bisexual or heterosexual? maybe I didn't understand your question.
IF someone tells you that you can hook up with other people, that means that they don't respect you enough, and maybe they are hooking with other people on the side too! Long distance relationships are VERY hard and frustrating and most of the time it doesn't work out.
Watch out for more signs from your boyfriend. MAybe you should find someone else who isn't in another state and that makes you happy because he doesn't deserve you anyway.
2007-01-04 16:45:51 · answer #5 · answered by peppermint 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before having sex with your too long absent boyfriend, you had better have him be checked for AIDS because he may be fulfilling his "needs" with a gay guy. Condoms during every sexual encounter with this guy should be a requirement. Who knows where "it" has been!
How far away are you from Texas, and why haven't you moved there or he back with you?
2007-01-04 16:58:56 · answer #6 · answered by Mark W 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well ask him if he is doing that if he says yes then you can do it and you will just be swingers. if he is saying that to appease you just buy yourslef a dildo and make him happy by not doing someone else. i told my girlfriend she can have relationships with whoever she wants no matter how much i dont wante her to because i cant stop her. she doesnt want to never has and never will even more because i said that because she knows i love her. he may be testing you. just masturbate it can be fun try role playing. sounds inda odd but if your bored and horny you can imagine. you must still have an imagination in there somewhere.
2007-01-04 16:44:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
For most men, the ultimate fantasy is two women.
Also, for us men, the thought of our wives or girl friends being with another woman is different that being with another man.
Aside from a huge turn on, it's not thought of as being threatening, and therefore falls under a different category than "cheating."
The chances of you running away or breaking up with him because of a woman is highly unlikely, where being with another man creates all sorts of problems.
From his point of view, being with another woman is closer to masturbation on steroids...
2007-01-04 17:03:56 · answer #8 · answered by LongSnapper 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he loves you enough not to be threatened by you having sex with a woman, so he's given you his blessing so then it would not be considered "cheating" . . .
You need to spend more time with your man in person to get a better feel for what's gonna work for BOTH of you.
2007-01-04 16:46:46 · answer #9 · answered by taowhore 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get some toys,use them alone,or while you are having quality tim eon the phone :)
Good luck!
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2007-01-04 16:46:00 · answer #10 · answered by jill@doodle 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋