I have been separated for 9 months. I have a 6 year old son I love very much.?

Question

My wife came from Brazil and is from a wealthy family. She never worked and contributed much to the houshold expenses but wanted the best from me. I did very well until 911 when I lose my VP position. I used my credit to keep up our lifestyle to the tune of 100k. In March of 2006 she abandonded the marriage, took my son and moved into a luxery condo. This left me homeless, broke, in debt and almost has killed me. I am 56 and no company will hire me so I am sitting here bleeding what money I can scrape up to pay for my little apartment and the attorney fees. Her family has come in and is bank rolling her with attorneys to drive me completely under so they can get my son and move him back to South America, I am truley at a loss at what to do. I am scared of these people. They are ruthless. Any suggestions?

Her family is trying to get me to file bankruptsey but I will not. She is doing her best to provoke me so that I will violate the anily law and get mad and say things in front of my son. I did at frist but now have this uner control. I look for work everyday and need money desperately to pay for my food, rent, attorney fees and debts. I need a break and will do most anything at this point. I am very talented in marketing and advertising but like I said can not find a job. I have no supoort group out side of my church. These are the worst times of my life. What to do? I pray all the time for a miracle. Anyone got a miracle for me?

I have an attorney and I just about to fire him. This very heavy stuff. I am no fool. I could pay off 100k in two years with my skill set if I could replace the last executive position I had. I live in Florida and it is a service economy with the median income level of 35k. Executive positions are very hard to find now. My computer is paid for. My interent is wireless and I am a real estate broker who got his license in March of 2006, just about the time the bust took place. I have lived off that commission. Real estate is very bad now where I live. I also have a sister has helped me. I eat one friggin meal a day, spend most of my day networking for a job and if you have bad credit that keeps you from getting a job! Be nice or be gone.

Thanks Yvette B.

Please understand me. I am a licensed real estate broker and the business had died here. I have a job but am making NO money. My last closing was on December 1st, 2006. I worked HARD in December and made no deals and now I realize I must change. I have not been sitting around.

Check my name out. It's not a Biblical name. My hard times have been for the past nine months.

Answer 1

Yeah its true, companies do indeed discriminate for age. Not supposed to, but that’s not the real world. the young ones dont quite know that lesson yet. thats all, so dont take ignorant statements personal.

well, i dont know how to help you other then to tell you of some things that will your needs, not your legal situation.

1) the red cross can sometimes help with cheap cars.
2) the salvation army helps with almost anything and everything you need. find your local chapter.
3) meals on wheels will help a bit too, finantially.
4) contact all local churches and find who offers what services and who has a food bank. go once a week. this will free up money for electric, gas, etc.
5) contact your state public utilities company; as them what programs they have for low income families. they usually have them for heat, electric and sometimes phone.
6) contact this non profit consumer credit counciling org:

http://www.cccs.net/locations.asp

they can help with options, haggle with the card co for lower rates , lower payments, and more.

7) almost forgot this one; LEGAL AID OFFICE. dont pay for an attorney (if its killing you) contact your local legal aid office; every state has them and are in most counties. they go on a sliding scale, so its free to most. look in the phone book or call your county court clerks office and ask if they have it. if not, call your states Bar Assoc for it. THIS will save you tons, IF you are comfortable changing the quaterback in the middle of the game, if ya know what i mean.

8) contact your county counceling agency; make an appointment and go. they too go on a sliding scale, so its free to many. it will help so much. they really do care. you need to... you are so stressed, your going to give yourself a meltdown if not.

if they are ruthless, i would be scared too. i honestly would probably be more civil then usual, just so i would have an open door to visit and see my child. hard situation you have. hang in there.

here are a few more links that will help out. some a little, some a lot. the divorce sites; just click on your state, and find the section you have questions about (visitation, child support, etc). the rest is to help.


http://www.irs.gov/taxtopics/tc422.html
http://www.irs.gov/faqs/faq4-5.html
http://www.divorcelawinfo.com/
http://www.divorcelawinfo.com/calculators.htm
http://www.divorcehq.com/deadbeat.html
http://www.lawchek.com/Library1/_books/domestic/qanda/childsupp.htm
http://www.mowaa.org/
http://www.parentswithoutpartners.org/chapterfind.asp
http://modestneeds.org/
http://freecycle.org/
http://www.salvationarmyusa.org/usn/www_usn.nsf
http://www.redcross.org/where/chapts.asp

Answer 2

I am sorry that it took you so long to figure things out about this woman. What an awful way to learn not to live above your means. Credit cards are like gambeling for some people. Putting that aside since your hindsite is now 20-20, I don't believe that NO company will hire you even if you are 56. Perhaps you need to take a position that you would not have thought of before when you were a VP. In order to live, you will have to get some sort of a job. You must have lots of job skills. If you have been paying attorney fees, doesn't the attorney have suggestions about how to stop your wife from taking your son out of the country? If not, you need a new attorney - perhaps from legal aid. How can her attorneys drive you completely under? In debt for 100K I would say she accomplished that, with your help, before she left. Have you gone to court? Are you divorced? Who has LEGAL custody of your son? You need to get answers from professionals, not on Yahoo Answers, unless some kind hearted attorney sees this and will take your case pro bono.

Answer 3

There is no way you can tell me no company will hire you. They may not hire you for the position you desire but you CAN get hired. If you are not working because you are in a slump or are depressed, reach out for help from a counselor (there are free ones) or friends. The chances of any judge in a divorce allowing her to take the child to South America if he is an American citizen and born here are almost zero. You not having any type of a job and not paying any support (regardless of whether she needs it or not) is not going to look good to a judge right now though. You have lost a lot but will lose a whole lot more if you do not get smart about things. Go to a debt counselor. Claiming bankruptcy is not a bad idea you know. Get free legal advice and start making some decisions as to what you should do now. If you are not yet divorced there may be things you need to do pre divorce. If you are, there are other matters that should be taken care of. Get the best free advice offered from anyone and go and get any job. (bartending makes quick cash)

Answer 4

You need to stop and think of what you have at home with your wife. Things always look better on the other side of the fence but that doesn't mean they are. You spoke more about the lady than anything else which shows lack of loyalty and honor to your wife. An arranged marriage should have some respect and you are using that situation as a way of escape. You are confused and it's no wonder all these thoughts are driving you crazy. You have a son and you have been married for 9 years. What puzzles me is the fact that your "future lady" spent 11 years with her boyfriend. and then he moved away. Arent you curious about that?

Answer 5

do the words up sh** creek ring a bell ???
I'm sure she's younger than you. If she's taken the baby out of the U.S. you probably won't have any standing. Find a ruthless lawyer...she's a gold digger. You shouldn't have indebted yourself so much and people do hire 56 yr olds...You have to get your selfesteme back.

Answer 6

As much as you love your son, take care of yourself first! If you don't, you will walk faster to your grave.Thinking about your son too much will make you sick. Have comfort in yourself that your son is being taken care of for the time being and that he probably won't remember much when he grows up anyway.
Find a job first and work on being stable and take care of your health.
Just pray for peace and guidance and that you have a roof over your head.

Answer 7

wow, suprising that a man with so much experience is having a hard time finding a job in your field even on the ground floor, or any other kind of job

something smells fishy in this situation

there are 3 sides to every story, your side, her side and the truth

Answer 8

wow, it sounds as if you are in a situation.

is your lawyer working for you? or is he just as ruthless as the oppressors you are going up against?

i usually try to refrain myself but this definatly is something you should turn over to your GOD. and then trust that things will work out for the best concerning your son.

maybe this includes him going though a lot of tough times without you while he is growing up so that he can be a strong individual.

maybe it means that your GOD will direct a savvy lawyer or politician to this website and view your post and take actions which would result in you getting your solvency and son back.

read the holy scriptures of your choice for comfort and hopefully things will work out best for your son in the end.

Answer 9

Send your resume to [e-mail]...It's my marketing company and I will take a look at it as soon as I can. I look for talented account reps all the time! It will work out for you. Have faith!

Answer 10

Screw them...stop wasting your money with the lawyers. If you trust they will take good care of your son, then let him go with them. They will do better for him than you currently can. You can explain it to him when he's older.