Hows domestic adoption handle nowadays with newborns Is it handle like just had a biological child yourself or

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what it like overseas?

Thank you.

Answer 1

i adopted my daughter domestically as a newborn a year ago. it all depends on your state laws and really more the state laws of where the child is born. as for how it's handeled it's basically up to the birthmother. if it's going to be an open adoption where you meet each other before the birth or shortly afterward then usually you can take the baby home from the hospital. some states are different and there's a 72 hour wait and the child may go into foster care for a short time. do the research, find a reputable agency that you feel comfortable with and then find a birthmother that fits with you and your needs. how comfortable are you with open adoption? what are your preferences? the adoption of my daughter could not have gone any better. we met the birthmother beforehand and just clicked with one another. my husband and i were both in the room when our daughter was born and my husband cut the cord. the hospital put my husband and i in a room where the baby was brought in and out at our request and the birthmother also was allowed to have her in her room. my attorney and social worker came up the next day and the birthmother signed the papers. in my state of kansas the birthmother can reliquish her rights anytime past 12 hours and that is binding. she cannot change her mind without a court hearing that is not often overturned unless there are extinuating circumstances. technically the child is placed in the custody of the attorney in our state until a formal hearing gives the adopting parents the right to parent the child. but the attorney will get a temporary custody agreement so you can take the child home. again this is kansas law. we took her home 2 days after she was born from the hospital and finalized the adoption 6 weeks later. we have an open adoption where i speak with the birthmother once a month and send pics every 3 months now. we visit with the birthmother and her other children since they are our daughter's brother and sister and we felt it best for her to know them. it's what you are comfortable with. we looked into both domestic and intenational. we decided with an open domestic and it's worked great for us. the birthmother and siblings are just our extended family. our daughter is ours and no one elses and it doesn't feel weird or strange to have her birthmother in our lives. my husband and i decided this was what is going to be in our daughter's best interest as she grows. it's a big decision with a lot of options. best of luck to you.

Answer 2

First it will be based on interviews, analysis of your home life, financial, medical and criminal record checks. It differs from country to country and state to state on whether a government office does this or an adoption agency can do this for you. Adoption agencies are of course more expensive but tend to cover all the bases that government office may not and if you are doing an out of country adoption better do it with someone that has done it before. My friend adopted a Guatemalan boy, by the time she finally had him in her arms it was 20Gs later and of course the agency calls itself not for profit. Another friend adopted a Russian little girl but you really need to do your homework when doing that far because it is expected that you travel there and there have been some scandals with children and severe mental issues being given to unknown parents. My friends chose out of country adoption because they feared that a U.S. parent would change their mind and go after their kid and it is very difficult to find an infant in the states.

Answer 3

Adoptions overseas are more expensive and takes longer generally. You are more likely to get an infant on US ground. Once you grow attached to a baby as your own it really can feel the same as if you birthed the child yourself. It's more so a loving experience than owning, say, a dog so I would hate to compare it to that...but it's like when you have a family pet that you love and really becomes a family member. You didn't concieve the dog but you feel like it's your child sometimes.