Husband just created a Myspace account.?

Question

I found out (by looking at the history on computer) that my husband of 13 years opened a myspace account just yesterday. This did'nt concern me, what did was the details of his profile: Status: SINGLE Sign: SCORPIO Children: DON'T WANT ANY KIDS . Mind you we have to children ages 6 & 8 ! He does not know that I figured out his password or know about this at all. Since he just opened the account no messages, blogs,etc. have been posted. Should I feel hurt by him posting this? Could this be how he really wants his life to be? We have our ups & downs like anyone else and have what I thought was a normal marriage! I'm not sure what to do or even how to feel right now.

Answer 1

I heard that you have to go in and change a lot of the default answers, and if you don't take the time or don't know it, then that's what shows up, single, etc....give it a few weeks and monitor his activity, see if he figures that stuff out and changes/updates his profile....

Answer 2

I think you two need to sit down and talk. He very well maybe doing something behind your back but also i have a myspace account too and i know in the beginning setting up a profile it will say SINGLE and don't want any kids until the person themselves changes it. Maybe he didn't get to change it since he just created an account. Either way find out what's going on.

Answer 3

well maybe ur just looking to far into this, cause i have 2 accounts with myspace, one is for friends and one is my girlfriend. altho what u had read in the profile doesnt mean anything. ask him about it! do u have a account? if so just tell him u were looking and found his page. its not going to hurt to see what his reations are. its not like he should have somthing to hide? right. does he have any friends on the page and if so, dont stress but see if u know the friends he has. when i made my profile everything that was posted where just that looks good and click. never really read what they said but i remember that i had some stuff that were out ragous, like my status said bi, and i am now where near that. so hopefully those where jsut honest mistakes. well good luck

Answer 4

WAIT! WAIT! WAIT!

Before you get too upset, be aware that myspace with give default answers to things sometimes. You have to go into the account settings and change things.

The real question is, why are you looking through the history on the computer and logging into his account? I'm not saying this to be mean, just wondering if there is some other underlying trust issue.

Answer 5

Why don't you sign up for a myspace account and make up a screen name and be annonymous and try to contact him with his fake identity?
Try to put a fake picture of an attractive lady from hotornot.com
create a profile saying you're a divorced woman, no kids, etc...
Try to communicate with your husband in the computer and then after a month or so, tell him in the computer that this is your wife! LOL

Answer 6

yep, you should probably be worried no matter what anyone else tells you. if a married man is posting on the net that he is single and doesn't want kids, when in fact he is married and has children, he is deliberately misrepresenting himself. think of why a person would want to do that. he is looking for something outside the marriage/family that he is not, or thinks he is not getting at home. men are so concerned with their masculinity, they have to be constantly reassured that they are attractive and loved and needed. some kink in the bedroom works wonders.

Answer 7

My suggestion is to confront him about this very soon. If you don't it will eat you alive, or you will also will do something that will add gas to the fire. Nip it in the bud and work it out as soon as possible. He may just be having fun, or pulling your chain. If I were you I would be concerned also. Scott Peterson told his girlfriend he was single. If your marriage is worth saving, he will explain this. If he doesn't want to, I would think he is checking out the grass on the other side of the fence. Call him on this now and he may stay on your side of the fence, good luck, don't wait too long.

Answer 8

I feel you. My fiance had a myspace account (along with some other profiles) when we were first dating. I love the "history" file. ^_^ Of course I got upset, I Personally hate "My space" and made him delete his account in front of me and blocked the site from my computer. Just let him know how you feel and why. My fiance understood me and my reasons, and the "History" file has been clean ever since!

Answer 9

You should be furious! How dare he? I can't believe you say you don't know how to feel. Obviously he wants to have a secret life on the internet. You have seen his true colors. Are you going to send him packing, or are you going to let him convince you he was just messing around? How are you going to trust him now? What else is he hiding? He may think that since it was online, it was harmless, but let me tell you, it's not. How many relationships have begun on the computer? Open your eyes and make him face the consequences of his actions.

Answer 10

I wouldn't worry overly much about it, everyone's entitled to a little daydreaming. I'm still crazy in love with my hubby of 12 years, and our 4 daughters but I occasionally fantasize about what it would be like to be single, childless, in my own little house with a fabulous career. On a really hectic day, I wouldn't be surprised if you did, too, but I won't make that assumption.

And you could always "lead him on" with a sexy note now and then in his comment box. There's nothing stopping you from opening your own account with your fantasy life. You might even spice up real life by having an anonymous "cyber affair" with your own husband. Hmmm, gives me an idea!