My best friend of three years is the best friend I could ever wish to have. But there's a slight hitch. She has Borderline Personality Disorder and Multiple Personality Disorder. She is actually ten people, all of which care for me dearly. But one of them decided to inform me that she was ten people. After I accepted it and etc, she switched to a different person, who didnt like that I knew about all of them, so that person told me to forget everything. So I did. Then my friend(/friends) goes weeks without talking to me because she needs to be a "hermit". Then she appologizes for things she hasnt done. Then she asks me to hate her. So I oblige, and tell her that I am not happy with her (even though I was okay with her, I was just pretending) but she didnt like it, so she told me that she only wanted me to hate her a little bit...So, all in all, I have ten friends inside one person, all of which have Borderline Personality Disorder. Any suggestions on how I can help her/them?
2007-01-04 16:21:52 · 11 answers · asked by Riss 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Sounds like y'all doin just fine :)
Whats apparent is that "you" seem to be central to your friends wellbeing because 1. you know your friend (3 years) 2. you know EACH personality 3. Each personality knows YOU 4. She and you have a positive rapport with each other 5. She trusts you
The BEST thing you could do for your friend is:
1. Be there for her (as you have)
2. "take her" to her next psychiatric review - (this is important because the Dr will tell you EXACTLY what she has so you can research more around her disorders to help you understand "how you can help further"
3. Have alternative strategies for her future care if needed (i.e. Drs or families ph numbers, ask the Dr at the review)
4. "Maintain who you are" not who her personailies want you to be i.e. Tell each you "love" them and are here for them & dont take any nonsense
God bless :)
2007-01-04 16:25:03 · answer #1 · answered by Truth D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is actually no such thing as Multiple Personality Disorder. This idea goes all the way back to the movie, "The Three Faces of Eve" which was created by her two psychiatrists. They knew nothing about her disorder but saw an opportunity to make money off of her. You might be interested to know that they had her sign away all of her rights to the movie so she never got a dime. She also later wrote her own book and explained that she did not get cured as depicted in the movie. Later, movie producers tried to top the original movie with, "Cybil" who supposedly had many more than three personalities. Even today, there are still some psychiatrists who act as those these personalities are separate people. This is wrong.
This is actually a type of Dissociative personality disorder. One person cannot actually be multiple people but someone can dissociate. In other words, any personality that you see is still her.
For Borderline Personality Disorder I would reccomend the book, "Stop Walking on Eggshells".
2007-01-05 20:45:22 · answer #2 · answered by scientia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey there
Well this is a hard 1, I think u have 2 learne 2 deal with it the best way u can. On 1 hand u have 10 freinds in 1 . Once u figger out wich 1s u like this will help. Make sure u have a under standing with her that will help good luck !
2007-01-04 16:31:07 · answer #3 · answered by Daniel M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd hate to tell you this, sweetie but there's nothing you can do for her/them. I mean, you just have to bring this up to her parents and her family. They need to check her into a mental hospital. I have two brothers and a mother who has Bipolar (schitzophrenia)disease and my brothers switch personalities around the summer time while my mother switches undergoing surgeries or physical health problems.
BTW: However, do you think that your friend(s) are pretending to see how you'll respond to a drastic change if it should occur.
2007-01-04 16:31:04 · answer #4 · answered by Dimples 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whao... I don't even know where to begin. Just try to be her/their friend. It may help you if you can start learning about each personality a little bit. Kind of identify which personality you are dealing with. Maybe that will help you dealing with her/them a little bit. ALso, she may already be seeing a psychologist, so there's not much you can do besides just being her/their friend.
2007-01-04 16:29:44 · answer #5 · answered by jj_bao 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think they are right (the people tha answered your question)about taking her to a psychiatrist. but what she really needs is your help if she is a good friend to you thre's nothing else to say just be with her ok hey riss changing th the theme canyou answer my question is "i'm i in love?" is in singles and dating i want youto answered because you seem like a good person bye
2007-01-04 16:33:44 · answer #6 · answered by Any 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds as while you're an extremely stable pal and want to do what's excellent for the two certainly one of them. in case you won't be in a position to extremely carry your self to tell somebody approximately what's occurring, according to probability you're able to desire to do it anonymously, with an email or an unsigned word to somebody at your college, like the nurse, or perhaps to their mum and dad (i understand that would make you shudder). Your top, you won't be in a position to administration them - they are in a position to't even administration themselves! - so which you're able to desire to alert somebody who's able to do something for them. it is not being a traitor, it is being a in contact pal, who cares. those with those form of ailments frequently worsen with out help, not extra useful. The longer they're ill, the extra difficult it is going to likely be for them to recuperate. My sister has an eating disease. She weighs over 4 hundred lbs! She is a compulsive eater and he or she is named "morbidly obese" which ability she would desire to die from her weight because of the fact it is so severe. She could have had help years in the past, yet none human beings understood how risky eating matters would desire to be. She has completely ruined her well being. She is now on incapacity because of the fact of it. Her existence is hell. I commend you for accomplishing out to locate a thank you to help your human beings. you're surely their bff!. superb of success.
2016-10-06 11:21:21 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm wary of this situation.
One of my friend had a best friend with MPS and the relationship did not end well.
If she is not taking medication, she should do so soon.
2007-01-04 16:24:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should give her/them a paid for meeting w/ a psychiatrist
2007-01-04 16:24:05 · answer #9 · answered by Craberscrab 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she should get mental help. I don't mean that in a mean way, it just might be best for her.
2007-01-04 16:24:05 · answer #10 · answered by Rach 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋