Feminists are indeed against the social injustice that has been perpetuated against them for years. Until the early 1900's, in many parts of this country, women couldn't even be landowners unless their husbands or fathers agreed to let them. Men, simply by virture of being men, make what? Twice as much as women for the same type of job? If you would start out as female-bodied, as I did, and had a sex change, you'd see the picture a lot more clearly. Just by virtue of my sex, as in suddenly being male, I commanded more respect and a higher wage. So believe me when I say that women still are, for the most part, relegated to slave status when they are compared to men. So please, don't give me the sad story that men are now being persecuted by women. I will admit that the ads on TV that make all men seem dumb are stupid, but that's the only real change in our society. Look at the numbers of women in government and high authority compared to the numbers of men. Come on...even you can see that men are still in control. And incidentally, why shouldn't men pay for the children they conceive? Couldn't you have used a condom? Or is that beyond your conception of reality?
2007-01-04 19:19:18
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answer #2
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answered by honest_funny_charlie 3
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I'll address your numbered items first.
1: 66% percent of divorce is initiated by women (see marrige.rutgers. org)
2: In "no fault" divorces, the parties BOTH agree that a "no fault" divorce should be entered, (it is not unilateral, but mutual choice) and child custody has been agreed upon by the parties outside of court. Meaning that if the Mother recieves custody, (and child support) the Father has agreed before it even enters court. Hardly "slavery" and a moot issue for the purposes of your argument.
3: Harkens back to #2. Those "agreed upon," no fault cases are part of this statistic. In CONTESTED divorces, the rate is about equal. Most men don't SEEK custody of their children, for various reasons (work shcedules, etc.) not because they don't love their children just as much, but society views this as "acceptable" whereas for women, it is not. Thus, the higher rate of mothers with physical custody...most men don't SEEK custody.
4: Right...and?
5: "Reproductive rights" for men and women are equal. You have the right have children, or not (to an extent, it would be very difficult for any government to "guaruntee" someone's "right" to have children). Men who find themselves in this situation CAN take it to court and, if they prove the woman was lying and intentionally "trapped" him, he can waive parental rights. This has to be done before the child is born.
So, now for your argument. It's a little incoherent, so let me try to state it more succinctly. You are arguing that men should not have to share equal responsibility for their children, and to enforce this is "slavery?" And you argue that this is so because of "no fault" divorce, and women being granted custody at higher rates than men? Since "no fault" divorce is agreed upon by the man and woman, and custody (and, therefore, child support) is agreed upon by the man and women in those cases, you are thus arguing that that this is often "consentual" slavery (which is not SLAVERY at all). As for the rest of your argument, I guess, logically, you are suggesting that men should not have to contribute finacially to the upbringing of their children in the event of divorce (unless voluntary). Meaning that, quite often, the state will have to pick up the tab, if the woman cannot manage on her 75 cents to the man's dollar, all because a man shouldn't be "obligated" to own up to his responsibilities. So, conversely, I suppose you think that women who abandon their families, leaving the man with the children, should be able to just "walk away," as well? And you can blame "feminists" all you want, but it's the state who will continue to enforce these laws because they (and thus the tax payers) will have to pay for men's "freedom" from their obligations. "Enforced" obligation to pay for your children can be compared to your obligation to pay taxes. So, in other words, according to your logic, it is the taxpayer, (thats you, too) who will be "obliged" to pay for other's "obligations." Did you really think this through?
EDIT--You're right. It's http://marriage.rutgers.edu/Publications/pubtoptenmyths.htm
In another question, YOU quoted a source and stated that women initiate 2/3 of the time-66%, or am I lying about that, too? See your question "Can those who think feminism is about equality" where you state that the rate is 80% (it's 75%, now?) and then quote your source as saying, "The National Center for Health Statistics reports...wives file for divorce approximately 2/3 of the cases each year." So..whose lying now?
Okay, I stand corrected, one person can enter without the other's consent, but for a "no-fault" divorce to go forward, child custody MUST be determined and agreed upon by BOTH parties (noncontested) i.e., settled out of court, or else, it automatically becomes CONTESTED. And THAT is more pertinent to the argument, anyway. Child custody is still agreed upon in these cases.
#3-The rate is about equal in contested divorces for CHILD CUSTODY, not who initiates. I was obviously talking about child custody. YOUR (mis) interpretation makes no sense.
See http://www.gitlinlawfirm.com/qa/custody.htm#q_statistics
--"In those cases that were contested, fathers won custody in approximately 60% of the cases."
#4": Yeah, 50% is a lot-what's your point?
#5: "Those cases are routinely thrown out"--okay, I would like to see some statistics, but the article itself makes a valid point by stating that these cases "presume pregnancy prevention is the sole responsibility of the mother..." Yes, I can see how it would be hard to win based on that presmption. If men don't want children, THEY should practice birth control (condoms). Otherwise, they are putting it in the hands of someone else, and forfeiting their abilities to "decide" for themselves, regardless of whether "she" lied or not.
(sigh) The wage gap is real.(see http://www.epinet.org/content.cfm/webfeatures_snapshots_20050914
BTW, none of your "sources" could be "found" except "mens news" and the "Fox" link. I'm not even going to look at the first, biased. The "Fox" link is about male suicide...a sad story, to be sure, but it has no relavance to what you were using it for.
And you're not going to get anwhere by calling me a liar. "Ad hominen"-remember?
And none of this REALLY has anything to do with the real question at hand...which is why you think men should not be responsible for their parental obligations in the same way women are. Both benefit from the "genetic advantage" of having one's genes continued to the next generation, but, for some reason, you seem to believe only women should have to "pay" for that advantage. Again, if men don't want that advantage, or want to choose when it happens, thy should take the matter into their own hands and wear a condom, rather than "trust" that the woman is doing what she says she is doing. Otherwise, the man is being negligent, and is culpable for that negligence. THAT is the real argument here, yet you insist on obfuscating the real issue with sidebars...maybe because you know your core argument is weak?
EDIT-The "case" is made that you intentionally (and consistently) lie and exaggerate statistics to back up your claims.
My "claims" about "no-fault" are self evident.
"No" responsibilities for women? The very biology of pregnancy dictates that women will be responsible, one way or another, (are you REALLY trying to argue otherwise?). You are going on the bigoted premise that women are solely responsible for birth control, and that men should be able to walk away, even though they acted negligently and irresponsibly during the act in the first place. And you continue to ignore the fact that TRUE responsibility for men who don't want children would be to take protective measures (condoms) BEFORE the fact...why should they be negligent and not pay for that negligence? (As women CERTAINLY would) Legally, negligence implies culpability. Are you actually arguing that men should be able to have unprotected sex, pawn the birth control responsibility off entirely on the woman, and deny any responsibility at all when the outcome is less than desirable (and nothing more than what one would expect in such a case of negligence)?Your stance is that the woman bears ALL the responsibility for birth control, and the consequences thereof. The man bears no personal responsibility whatsoever. Men can, (by the nature of their biology, I presume) walk away from their negligence because they should have the "right" to expect someone else to be responsible for their (the man's) own actions, and not bothered with the consequences?
"Feminists spit on equality"? You don't even seem to know what equality means, or else you would understand the concept of equal responsibility. Responsibility lies with each individual. Again, if you don't want the headache of children and child support, take responsible measures to prevent it. How on earth can you argue that "so many" children are pawned off on men that aren't really the fathers, or never wanted children in the first place, yet deny that the BEST way to prevent this is for MEN to take responsibility with preventative measures? Your logic is flawed, bigoted...and laughable.
2007-01-04 19:36:25
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answer #10
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answered by wendy g 7
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