i really have a big problem, i don't like my life in my school many guys has a crush on me . . .is it because the car i ride, the clothes i wear, the house i live, the beauty i have, the brains or something ?. . .there are lots of girls in school who likes to be popular they read books "How To be Popular" and they want to be me . . . I don't want this life anymore though i'm popular i'm still not in my place . . . PLS. GiVe SoMe aDViCe Is It GooD To Be The MoSt PoPuLaR GiRl in SchOoL?
2007-01-04 16:14:41 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
It's not good or bad ...it just IS! It's your challenge, your journey to figure out how to work it through. Who do you want to be? If you can identify the girl you want to be and then focus on that and ignore the moths, ...it would be great.
2007-01-04 16:22:25 · answer #1 · answered by amythmaker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I was a child, I had the same problems. I had the car, the money, the personality.... the rub my dear, is that many of your associates here, today, will be gone tomorrow. The friends you have now, will, more than likely, not be the friends who color your life. No it is not really good to be the popular one. It can be confusing, painful, and time wasted. What you should be more concerned with are your ACADEMIC achievements. They are after all what will be with you for the rest of your life, and what you can REALLY rely upon. Always remember that young adults are fickle. Most do not know what they are going to do with their lives, or where they will end up. You would be ahead of the game if you made some serious decisions now and began working towards the plan you have laid out. Without one..... well.... its not good.
2007-01-12 01:00:41 · answer #2 · answered by deanna.brownlee@verizon.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends. There are 2 different types of 'popular'. One: the nice shy girl who everybody thinks is like the greatest thing that happened to the school because of her kindness two: the hottest richest girl in town that every guy has the hots for and always gets away with treating the unpopular people[commonly known as 'geeks'] like crap. Number one popular girl is the one u want 2 be.Even though 4 number 2 there is nothing wrong with being liked,she probably tries 2 hard 2 be liked.She should relax more and be herself.So i guess it definitely does depend if its good 2 be the most popular girl in school.
2007-01-11 22:57:58 · answer #3 · answered by -x-Liz-x- 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a tough situation if you're getting a lot of attention that you don't want. As long as you're doing what you like, though, that's what matters.
Try new things and start hanging out with new people. Do you like painting? Or skiing? Or listening to certain types of music? Just try new things. :)
As for whether or not it's good to be popular, it depends. If you're happy and social and not bothering other people, it's fine. But if you're getting attention you don't want and people are getting competitive and mean towards you, it's not good.
Be honest with your closest friends and make sure that you actually do have good, reliable friends. These friends are the ones who will help you through anything.
2007-01-05 00:32:45 · answer #4 · answered by ZenBrain 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being one of the popular girls is not always a great thing if you are saying and doing things in order to be liked. It is important that you like yourself. Also remember that you live most of your life after school and that the people who were not so popular often end up living happier lives as they have stayed true to their vision of themselves. You sound a bit focused on your popularity and the superficial things like your car, clothes, etc. Maybe you need to ignore all that and try to be a better person for yourself.
2007-01-05 00:22:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think being popular can cause just as much stress as those who are left out. Most people don't realize this. Just relax, enjoy the company of those who are truly your friends not just those trying to become popular by hanging out with you.
Just be you, don't worry about what anyone else thinks, it sounds to me like you are worried that people like you for other reasons than who you are. Which is very typical at your age.
It's good that you aren't too caught up in having to be popular. Someone my husband and I went to high school with that was very popular and loved every second of it. She had a really hard time adjusting to college campus life which is a very different scene, no one is caught up in all those silly head games, etc. She couldn't cope with not being the center of everyone's attention and she hung herself. It was very sad. I honestly believe she thought someone would come in and she would have a chance (she used a bungee cord) but no one came.
2007-01-05 00:28:17 · answer #6 · answered by Wicked Good 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So far being popular has distracted you from getting a decent education. The spelling and grammar mistakes in your question -- if they showed up on a job application, your application would go in the trash can. In 10 short years you'll look a whole lot more like your mother than you do now, and if you want to eat, you'll need to get paid for knowing something useful.
2007-01-05 00:46:29 · answer #7 · answered by Philo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Fame does have its drawbacks doesn't it. What others have done is to help the less fortunate by being friendly with them and studying hard to make life worthwhile for others besides those who already have it. Become a tutor and a student of people so you will know who can appreciate your help rather than those who want to use you for just their own benefit. Among other things you will learn that it is the little kindnesses that count the most and you will make friends that will last a lifetime rather than just a semester.
2007-01-05 00:28:33 · answer #8 · answered by Marcus R. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well in your case if that's not where you want to be in life then no because the only advice i can give you is help people to become more popular. you know some of those girls your talking about, say hi to them once and a while and maybe get to know some of them. who knows maybe that will lowwer your popularity and make you and someone else happy.
2007-01-12 00:03:13 · answer #9 · answered by undercoverlover 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Accept you for who you are. If you're extremely likeable, then great. Being popular has its ups and downs, as does being a loner (like me). Try being more aloof, and spend some time just with yourself. Separate yourself from the world a little while and give yourself a break. Remember, school doesn't last forever. Enjoy it while you can.
2007-01-05 00:25:14 · answer #10 · answered by KristaElizabeth 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To be popular because you have good grades and a pleasing personality
would make the difference of how people accept you.
Some students will envy you for your grades and nothing else, because you are nice.
But if you are flaunting your good looks, wealth, car, and you are not nice, other students will avoid you like the PLAGUE.
Work on getting good grades, think less of what you have, be nice to others.
2007-01-05 00:33:48 · answer #11 · answered by Seeanna 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋