UGGHHHH MY step mother is trying to be my real mother!?

Question

Check out the stupid questions she asked. Clickie link.http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20070101195807AAC0f7s&cp=2&tp=2#all-answers

Anyway. She won't stop taking my posters down. Some of Ciara,Cherish all kinds of people. Escpecially my posters of Lloyd because on some he has his shirt off(big deal) We are not even allowed to watch BET. She has extremely strict rules on clothing.
-NOTHING WITH WRITING(which I love)
-Cannot show stomache.
-no pants.
NO PANTS THIS WOMAN HAS LOST IT. I'LL WEAR PANTS IF I WANNA.
She also does not like my boyfriend merely because he is 3 years older then me and has tattoes(1 across his chest and one on both arms). I'm 13 by the way. She tries to control who I am friends with and throws away me and my sisters CD'S. We had to sneak out just to go to a concert last night. She won't stop. Strict on my sister(who has a baby no i do not have one). My father agrees with her ****. It's drivin me nuts. -c-

She keeps trying to get me to not have sex. Also me and my sisters are triplets. My older sister whom is 14 moved out because of her. She's making our life hell. We are all sick of it. How do we take a stand?

No 2 peices when we go to the pool and she even sits there when we go! During the summer. I can't even flirt or talk to other boys hardly because she won't keep her damn mouth shut. When me or one of my sisters goes near a boy we have to leave.-c-

It's hard to even paint my nails without her saying that the color is to dark..

My real mom is in france for a year and because my step mother thinks she is a bad influence i hardly get to see her..

By the way step mom I hope you see this to. YOU ARE NOT MY MOTHER I HATE YOU GET AWAY FROM YOU OVERPROTECTIVE FREAK. WE DON'T LIKE YOU NEVER HAVE NEVER WILL SO GET THAT THROUGH YOUR THICK HEAD YOU UGLY MUTT!!

13=14

Turned 14 2 days ago.

Answer 1

It seems that you're the one that has lost it. Why don't you try to put yourself into her place? Your father must have loved her enough to marry her, so therefore, you are living in HER house, and disrespecting HER. If you disrespect your father's wife, you disrespect your father too. Think of it this way. You are so much as telling your own father that you don't like the choices he makes, everytime you disrespect her. You don't seem to think about nor would you want to, about why your real mother doesn't have custody of you. She's in France, living her life and having a fine time, while someone else has her kids, and one of them has a child and living at home, so THAT's an added expense that I'm sure your stepmom didn't count on when she said I DO, now another mouth to feed is coming, and it looks like you are following the same wrong path. All she is trying to do is help you, and you resent her for it, when she needs to be telling you, your own mother didn't want you! Now get over it, and get in line, or you're gonna be living in that grown up world that you THINK you're ready for! You're not really mad at her, you're mad at you're mother for leaving you with someone else, and shirking her responsibilities. Now, you want to behave the same way that she did. Think on this too. Why do you think your own father isn't with her anymore? He obviously loved her once, but fell out of love with her. But for what reason? Because she didn't know what she wanted? I'd be asking myself that question, and stop trying to figure out ways to shock my stepmother, because you only have about 5 more years to live in her house, and then you really are grown and on your own. You'll be a grown up for a lot more years than you have left to be a child. I'd enjoy it while I can.
She doesn't have to take that kind of treatment in her own home. She could leave anytime she wanted to. But she's hanging on in there anyhow. Why? Maybe she cares about you more than your own mother, and you just don't see it yet. Has your mother called you from France? How many times has she called, just to see how you all are doing in school? Or what's going on in your life?And what about your sister's baby? Has she been to see her own grandchild? Has she asked for pictures of you, your sister or her grandchild? OK then.
If she hasn't even called to see, that's a sure sign that she doesn't care. Everything you say about your stepmom, proves that she is trying to help you grow up right in spite of your having a mother that just doesn't care. She just doesn't want you to turn out to be another mother that doesn't care. Is that so wrong?
It seems to be too late for your sister to get it, but it's not too late for you. At least try to talk to her and meet her halfway on some things. Try it. It just might work. You're not the first, and you won't be the last one whose real mom just isn't there for them, the difference is all in how you handle the situation.

Answer 2

I read her question and I agree with both of you on some levels. You should wait until you are older to have sex. No matter what, 13 is still too young. And she really should back off. You should be able to wear pants if you want and paint your nails the color that you want. Try and talk with her. Comprimise. Wear pants and express yourself in your clothing, but don't sneak around on her and don't date a thug. You only have one childhood, live it to the fullest. Thugs and tramps don't get the big house or high paychecks. Some of the things she is doing is overboard, but I agree with her about the rest of it. Remember, you are still a child.

Answer 3

well im sorry to hear about this. i understand. and she aint your mother. she does seem too protective i mean, you cant wear pants? what do u wear? what does your father day about it? My parents have been together .. so i never had to deal with the whole "Step-Parent" deal. but my boyfriend had a daughter, and i would never ever tell her that. matter in fact for christmas. i bought her these really cute jeans, with this longsleve stripped shirt, and a cute pink skirt with a cutier shirt to go with it, and shes only 5. some parents think that their doing the best, but the only thing she is doing is pushing you away. shes ganna wanna know why u dont talk to her about ne thing...why u ignore her... why u dont help her with supper...or why u dont ever speak to her again when you move out, and all you need to say is "look how u treated me what i was growing up". just stick in the hunny!! i hope everything goes ok!! if you ever need someone to talk to.. af_model_4ever is my Yahoo and [e-mail] is my msn. Good luck, and hope for the best... hope i helped a little!

Answer 4

once again, i will refer you to a friend of mine... i as you may or may not know am an army brat, meaning i have a parent in the Army. i have lived on base for a while in different places and seen alot of things...i knew a girl at the last base i lived on who acted just like you, the dark cloths, the boy posters all over, dark fingernail polish, her mom tore it all down, and cut her off from the world basically, she couldnt even have her own e-mail, she had to use her parents so they could moniter her. she wished her mom would die, she never did anything wrong to deserve this treatment, and it was unfair. but then her mom got deployed to iraq 5 months ago. she never told her mom goodbye...3 weeks later her mom was killed in a car bombing in a major hot zone. this girl cried because she relized her mom loved her and was only trying to protect her from wht could happen... she was only a little older than you and she wishes now that she would have seen this before, that she would have atleast sead goodbye, anything. so instead of calling you a whore or anything like that, i wanted to share this story with you cause it can happen to anyone and you may not see it now but please try to accept it, the more loving you are and the more trustworthy you try to be she will let up a whole lot. but once it is gone it is gone. she loves you wether or not you belive it, she does. so please...try to get along with her before its too late, cause that time will hit you in the face

Answer 5

all you really need to do is talk to her. act very mature and don't whine she might listen. tell her that she, even though she tries to take on the roll, is not your mother and it is not your place to judge your real mother. never raise your voice or it will become an argument where as you have more control over a debate. some tips: if she pulls the it's my house thing reply that it is also your fathers, if she says that he agrees then ask her to have him tell you himself as he is your father and she is just his wife. i repeat never raise your voice or take on harsh tones. keep an even tone and a calm manner this may frustrate her. about the clothes thing ask her what her reasoning is, if she says because i said so reply "that is not a complete answer" she may become frustrated and get angry but do not react. by the way i think no pants is really stupid. listen to what i said.

Answer 6

okay think of it this way. SHe is worried about you. In ten years or more when you have kids you will understand a parents worry about their child. Now maybe she is going a little over board with the no pants thing and the shirts with no writing but the rest I have to say I agree with as a mom. Sorry if thats not hwat you want to hear but there are rules as a teenager and you need to follow them or you will get into alot of truble

Answer 7

OMG i have the same problem my evil step-mom is trying to control my life and my dad agrees with everything she says. Im 13 to lol. my mom past away 2 years ago from cancer and my step-mom seems to hate her for no reason they never even met!! and she has 2 real daugters and she treats them sooo good and treats me and my other sis and bro like sh!t...i hate herr. BUt cmon not letting u wear nail polish and pants and everything that is just CRAZY. But i kinda understand her about the whole sex thingy but the other stuff is just stuipid ...

Answer 8

I think your step mom is acting like a mom. Because kind of in a way she is. She is respondible for you. I feel like maybe she cares about you and her way of showing it is coming off the wrong way.
About her not letting you see your real mom maybe you should have a talk with your dad and let him know this hurts you. Rember your dad loves both of you stay calm dont call names be very adult about it. He loves you also even if it seems like he agrees with her alot.

Answer 9

WOW thats horrable, like sum things a can agree like sex, but the pants (i live in denim) and the 2 piece, and the boys, and the polish, and the poster, that is WAYYY to strict


but i gotta say she is right about sex

Answer 10

She is just looking out for your best interest. 10 years from now you will look back and appreciate what she's doing for you, because guess what, someday you will NOT want your daughter acting and dressing like you are.

You're only a child once, you have the next 80 years to dress like a tramp, act like a wanna-be thug (who society shuns and you'll never get the highpaying job like that) and ruin your life. Enjoy your teen years now.