It seems that my entire life revolves around my looks..like that's all I have control over and seem to care about..I'll never leave the house without my makeup (which usually takes hours to do) and I'm constantly perfecting this and that and then no matter what happens, or how many people tell me I'm beautiful I still feel ugly like the way I feel on the inside!! but I still obsess and try to change every little thing from hair color, eye color, etc, etc and I still hate the way I look..is this a problem or do I just have self-esteem issues??
2007-01-04 15:43:34 · 10 answers · asked by × 7 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
We are a nation that is obssessed with looks. Society puts out this impossible image of what we should look like that in order to keep up or fit in we get caught up in the race to look our best. It also has to do with our own self esteem and what we feel is important in order to feel whole. Some of us feel that looking our very best is important and that we would rather be pretty than be ugly. And no matter how hard we try to look great sometimes fixing what's on the outside doesn't help us on the way we feel on the inside. What we need to do is work on the inner beauty instead of the outside decoration we have portrayed. When we feel good about ourselves and beautiful on the inside we will no longer feel the drive to create this fictitious persona on the outside. And haven't you notice that they people who are really nice and sweet to others seems to stand out more than what they look like.
2007-01-04 16:15:02 · answer #1 · answered by Serinity4u2find 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yes, this is a problem, and yes, you do have self-esteem issues........which is THE problem. Everything comes from the inside. Most of us want to look nice, but the inside is what really does count. You need to work on the inside to get the outside right.
Get help to overcome your insecurities and self-esteem issues. If you are in school, go to the psychologist or counselor. If you are an adult, go to a psychological therapist if you have insurance or can afford it. If you can't afford it, go to the local mental health center and they can help you get counseling on a sliding pay scale according to your income. If you don't have a mental health center close by, go to the social worker at the hospital.........they can help you find free or low cost counseling. Also, most church pastors have training in counseling.
There is help out there for you. If you get the help, and really work at it, you will be amazed at the difference it can make in your life. You CAN gain control of your life without being obsessive.
Best wishes to you, beautiful lady......inside and out! :)
2007-01-05 00:20:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't obsess about looking good all the time. If you feel ugly on the inside, you'll convey it on the outside. Beauty is only skin deep. I'm sure you're a beautiful person.
2007-01-05 00:13:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Which part of the "growing up" process are You still going through? Of course You are obsessed about Yourself. And do You want to know why? Because You secretly (subconsciously) want others to share You value of Your own opinion of Your self worth. A real person is not fake, false, pretentious or affectatious. Make-up is one way of trying to be someone You are not. A truly beautiful woman doesn't bother with pedestrian grooming. She walks around barefoot and with nothing more than Her own face on. Try it and find out Who rather than What You actually are.
PS. My wife put Herself through university (studying psychology)by working as a showgirl/stripper and she was just an average kind of girl!
2007-01-05 00:03:49 · answer #4 · answered by Ashleigh 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you feel ugly on the inside, you're going to think you look ugly, too, even if you don't. I would say that you just have self-esteem issues, and once you start to deal with those, you'll realize that you're not as ugly as you thought!
2007-01-04 23:53:42 · answer #5 · answered by Debi 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Most of the time no one even notices. Everyone are thinking of their own problems or issues. The most important thing is that if you worry about own appears and how you look all the time you are not able to take much notice of other people which is very sad.
2007-01-05 00:16:26 · answer #6 · answered by joanne w 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Did u see this episode of Beyond Belief where this girl thinks she's ugly and in fact so looked fine. Her mind created a extremely ugly image of herself. Her self image was shown to the audience on a mirror she looked into. So she tried cosmetic and products like crazy.....and she was.
2007-01-04 23:49:54 · answer #7 · answered by "Prestige" 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you're under 18 it's not a problem - many teenage girls go through the same thing.
If you're an adult however, you might want to speak about this to a licenced psychologist because by adulthood most women have lost their anxiety surrounding their appearance.
Good luck!
2007-01-04 23:54:14 · answer #8 · answered by sweet_leaf 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like body dismorphic disorder (BDD). This is a real psychological condition that can be treated. If you want to change your life, find a psychologist who is familar with the disorder and is able to treat it.
2007-01-04 23:48:04 · answer #9 · answered by robbet03 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you'll find out..everyone don't agree with you...
as they say--people can see thru glass--
2007-01-04 23:53:03 · answer #10 · answered by cork 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋