My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 and a half years, and his parents used to be pretty nice to me. Lately, though, they have been really rude to me, not inviting me places and acting like they don't want me around. It's causing a lot of problems between him and them. Do you think we can survive with them hating me? It's nothing I did; I've acted the same way all along.
There are no problems between us. We are together almost all day every day (and I realize that's probably part of their problem) but there's certainly nothing with us. He talks to them about it, and they fight, but the don't listen/believe/care. Also, his mother is very childish, so I'm hesitant to talk to her directly about it....
2007-01-04 15:43:31 · 4 answers · asked by angry 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
First and foremost: I am sorry to hear of your troubles. The boyfriend's parents... that's always a weird subject.
I must say (from past experiences) that spending too much time with your boyfriend (along with his family) can be troubling. Think of it from their perspective. They are obviously paying for you to eat when you have dinner at their house, they are sharing their home and personal space with you when you are at their house, and you are taking time away from their son when he could be spening it with them (this is not me talking, this is how they might perceive the situation). Maybe give them some breathing room. Cut down the time you spend at their house. Frankly (don't take this the worng way), they might just be sick of seeing you all the time. You said yourself that there is nothing you did directly to them and you also said that you realize that part of the problem is that you spend evey day with him.
That is obviously starting to put a a little tention between you and his folks. In the long run, the parents will rule. So I would recommend following your own advise and perhaps spend a little less time around them. Spending too much time with your boyfriend can make things nasty too (when will he find the time to actually miss you???)
If following my advise doesn't work, then I would sit his parents down "group meeting" style and talk about it together. This sounds a little intimidating, but it really is just a bit of maturity.
Good luck.
PS> and in response to the woman who told you to ask your boyfriend if he said anything negative about you to his parents: if you are weery of what he may be telling his parents about you behind your back, esp after 3 years, then perhaps it's time to grow up and move on.
2007-01-04 16:03:55 · answer #1 · answered by michellerose_barkley 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you've been together 3 years than it is probably a serious relationship worth working on. If they were nice to you and now they aren't, then i think they must have some idea in their heads, it's possible your bf complained about something. Ask him if he told them anything negative about you. Try to work it out.
2007-01-04 23:49:09 · answer #2 · answered by RubyRemfear 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
IF YOU HAVE BEEN WITH HIM THIS LONG AND NOW THEY
ARE ACTING FUNNY TOWARD YOU. THEN YOU NEED TO
TALK TO THEM AND FIND OUT WHAT GOING ON. BUT REALLY IS THERE PROBEM THAT YOUR. SO DONT LET
WORRY YOU, HE THE ONE THAT NEED TO TELL THEM
YOU HERE TO STAY SO GET USE TO IT.
2007-01-05 00:06:04 · answer #3 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i lthink u shouldnt really care because they might be testing u and to see if u can stand them and tell your boyfriend to tell his parents that he loves u ? and they should get us to u even thogh u havent done anything
2007-01-04 23:48:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋